Do you ever wonder why life keeps making you repeat the same circumstances over and over again?
Maybe the God/Source/Universe wants you to learn from the mistakes and take a new direction for your life. It is possible that you are faced with the same situation over and over again because life wants you to learn something from it that will propel you to a new life dimension. We all fall down and not meet our personal standards all of the time. Our shortcomings can be our learning opportunities. We just have to be open to them. A closed mind doesn’t learn much, but an open mind is capable of anything.
An open mind is the catalyst for overcoming life’s exams. The only way to live your ultimate life is to be open to what life throws at you for you to catch. When we drop the ball, we fail. It is possible to fail forward and not backward. We might try to pass a certain life exam and fail but that doesn’t mean we can’t try again. For example, let’s say you don’t get along with one of your partner’s siblings. You can leave the strained relationship or you can try to create a healthy relationship. It might not happen with just the next visit but if you truly send out positive and loving thoughts towards them, over time they will come around. I have seen the sourest people become friends and even lovers. It is possible but without thinking about it and focusing on the process, it will not change. The mind is very powerful. There is no computer capable of the processing power of your three-pound brain. You will need to focus your mind on the process of getting to the end goal. If you focus on the process and don’t think about a desired outcome, the outcome might surprise you and be better than the outcome you wanted.
Action Exercise:
Pick a situation in your life that you seem to be repeating over and over again. Think about the process of repeating and find a way to change the process to reach a different outcome.
Written by Chris Oldcorn
Chris Oldcorn is an inspirational speaker and author. Chris communicates an inspiring message of hope to audiences around the world through columns, articles, book chapters, books, and speaking engagements. Chris is the founder of the “Coffee Shop” books series. Chris has contributed to VividLife, VividLife Radio, Self-Empower Magazine, and other publications.
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2 comments
Noticing repeating patterns in events is truly a clue to lessons we need to learn. Often, the issue is rooted in the past as our wounded child recreates painful patterns in an attempt prevail where it was once wounded. We are all bound to receive some trauma while being conditioned as a child and we seek to heal that wound in adult situations. The problem is, childish desires like having love to the exclusion of all others, were impossible then, and impossible now.
So changing behavior isn’t always enough. Quiet the mind, feel the feelings at the root of the pain or intent behind the repeating pattern. Don’t fight it or make a story around it. Resolve and dissolve the root emotional impetus that inspires the pattern.
Peace and love
Karl Baba
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