We are a reflection of the people we spend our lives with. Think about that for a moment. Look around. Who’s sitting at your table and what do they reflect to you?
I’ve done this many times in my life. In my younger days the process could be pretty volatile, involved a lot of projection and alienated a lot of people. I wasn’t yet seasoned emotionally, didn’t even have a clue. I just knew something wasn’t right and those surrounding me didn’t make me feel how I wanted to feel. It was never that I felt better than them, it was always that I felt bigger than the sum of the actions by the majority, and so I would move on.
As I grew and began to value myself more, so did the people in my tribe. They say your vibe attracts your tribe, or as others might say, you attract the people you have in your life based on how you’re projecting or reflecting your life. And the clearer we get, the higher our sense of worth and the less we will attract people into our lives that don’t align with that.
However, like negative thoughts, negative people can slip into our lives and it’s our responsibility to ‘pay attention to the whispers’ and act accordingly. It may seem that it never lets up. No matter how much we’re in alignment and value ourselves, negative people and experiences creep into our life.
I believe perhaps they’re reminders to listen, to value that voice, to speak it and to act on it. But I also believe that these people could come into our experience to learn from us and so I’m not always so quick to ‘throw the baby out with the bathwater’.
Not everyone needs to show up polished to perfection as we are all perfectly imperfect, but what is most important is that the people that we invite to our table mirror our highest worth (or vibes) and that if we’re constantly neglectful of that, we must learn to get up from the table.
Excerpt from Your Vivid Life, An Invitation to Live a Radically Authentic Life by Shayne Traviss