We all have it, that ache to make the world a better place, in little ways or great. We all have it, that feeling of frustration that we can’t find the exact words or actions or understanding that could change everything.
The thing is, we never will.
Not on that level.
Having taught thousands and coached hundreds, I’ve seen the same misplaced struggle over and over again. People think if ‘I only find the precise right words, rehearse and replay them in the precise right way, something magic will happen.’
The real work is not polishing perfect words or majestic body language, much as folks seem to love that stuff. The real work is honouring your true message.
Your true message is not the words, and it’s not the body language either.
Every idea we’d ever need is already out there, on Youtube or Google! Our job is not to tell people stuff.
You can speak shiny thoughts all day long, and leave us feeling empty. Or say nothing but the word potato, and leave us feeling touched, entertained and inspired.
The difference is the true message you communicate.
Your true message is how you choose to relate to yourself and your audience in every given moment. If we come from a place of not being good enough, needing to prove our worth, do something big, then all the shiny words in the world will end leaving us drained, and our audience ultimately empty.
The real message you’ve left them with is that they are not good enough, and they need to do impossible things to prove their worth too.
Your truest message is how you treat yourself.
That’s what our lovers, our children, our students, our employees, our audiences take to heart.
Never try to inspire others, make others feel anything. Feel it yourself, practice allowing it to radiate in every cell of your being, then show up, and share that feeling. The moment you stop pressuring them to feel it, they can finally receive it fully and freely.
The greatest message you have, the greatest gift you can give, is to know that what you say is not about you. Then every word flows fully and freely. Speak from the wholeness of yourself, speak to the wholeness of others. Give yourself the inner permission to be as passionate, profound and playful as you are.
You don’t have to play small, or play big, or play any game at all.
If you treat yourself and them as enough, you’ll find the inner permission to light-up. You’ll feel each word fresh yourself, be startled, inspired yourself, effortlessly finding just the right words in just the right way. The gift is still not what you say, it’s showing other people they can do this too.