In today’s fast paced world, finding time to “just be” in a silent moment is challenging for many. We hear how meditation is beneficial for our mind, body, and soul, yet we stress ourselves trying so hard to find peace.
There is also the perspective that silence is uncomfortable. For example: if you were exposed to “the silent treatment” as a punishment, this could be crossing signals with a meditative silence for peace.
I bring this up for a reason. There are many that have experienced this so called “silent treatment” in a negative way, and now when they attempt to experience silence in a positive way, the signals are misinterpreting the meaning, causing distress instead of relaxation. You find yourself uncomfortable and cannot wait till it’s over!
Good news! We can over come this fire from within, and find peace in our silence, by separating past events you may have had with silence, from current events. In doing this, we allow our minds to create new positive experiences that will benefit us and bring healing to our hearts.
Tips to get started:
- Start off with a short 5 minutes. I like to call this Sacred Moments. If you find it difficult to sit quiet for 5 minutes without feeling the need to do something, try scheduling the 5 minutes into your appointment calendar for the day. Even if it’s before, or after your actual day begins, add the allotted time to your schedule. This mentally gives you permission to have 5 minutes because it’s on your schedule for the day.
At first you will feel as though you should be doing something else, for this reason, start off before, or after your day begins, this will allow the mental programming to accept the appointment you have with yourself.
- After you have adjusted to the 5 minutes, add an additional 5 minutes to any part of the day. Don’t try to add the 5 minutes to your original time yet, you want to find comfort and look forward to your 5 minutes at any time of the day. This is a gentle approach to introduce a positive silence.
- After you are comfortable taking 5 minutes at any time during the day, you can begin adding additional time to your Sacred Moments. Don’t add too much, too fast. Start off adding 5 minutes at a time until you reach your desired goal. There is no rule on how long you should meditate or be silent. You could even have 15 minutes a few times a day if you like.
Don’t fight or be concerned with all the busy thoughts that will race through your mind during your “Sacred Moments,” this will eventually run it’s course as you regularly practice. The mental energy is busy and could take a few times before slowing down. If you try to hold or control your thoughts, it will cause more mental energy build up. Just let them go unrestricted and they will release in time. This brings energy healing to the mind and body through releasing. Have a good laugh at the creativity your mind can think up!
The goal is not to do silence, but to allow the silence to bring you peace. This technique also helps with letting go of controlling the outcome. When we learn to release control, we release the stress that comes with the control.
For some people it could take a month or longer of short intervals before adding additional time. Don’t be concerned with how everyone else does this. These are your personal Sacred Moments, a valuable and precious gift to yourself.
We are all connected, yet we are unique expressions, with gifts to share with the world. – Jenn Royster