How to tell the difference between surrender and giving up on a dream. I think we all have gone through a time where we felt at the thing we want the most just isn’t going to come and we start to feel maybe it was just never meant for us in the first place. Sounds like the perfect place for surrender.
Often when we want something that’s big, a dream, an improbable goal, we become very emotionally attached to it. We can feel deep desire that becomes more like desperation and sometimes turns into despair. It can be those feelings themselves that are holding us apart for the thing we want the most.
There are two sides to every thing we want, the feeling of having it and the feeling of not having it. When we want it soooo bad we are actually focusing on the feeling of not having it. How can you tell? You can tell by the way you feel. Does it feel good to think about having it or does it make you a little sad or clingy and searching for what to do to get it? Well if you feel good then you are on the right track. If you are not feeling good you are focusing on the not having it.
When we surrender something it’s like saying I’ve done all I can do to get this thing I want now it’s time to put it on the Divine’s to-do list and go about my business of doing the next best feeling thing and then the next best feeling thing. All too often we believe we have to work hard, things don’t just fall into your lap you know, but life can be easy. It not just can be easy it’s supposed to be. * (Disclaimer: Doesn’t mean you don’t have to put in effort or create action. There is a difference of inspired action and forced action.)
I see often clients who want something or have a goal and they have many beliefs about that goal. They know how it’s supposed to show up and where and what it’s going to look like. They become so focused on these details that they miss the opening to the very thing they want because it doesn’t look like they expected. When you surrender, you let go, you release the limits you placed around the thing that you desire. You broaden your scope and let the path light up.
If you are in a state of resistance you want to soften your vibration. You want to be easy about it. Think about the thing you want. Think about having it. How do you feel when thinking that you already have your desire? What is the emotion you are experiencing? Fun? Joy? Exhilaration? Good. That is the vibrational address your desire lives at. Do things that allow you to feel in that same vibrational frequency. Let go of the details of how and when and the worries about your desire. Find the feeling state and bask in it. Follow the path that feels good.
When we experience the desire of something a path to that desire lights up. Too often we don’t follow it for different reasons. It doesn’t look the way we think it should, so we miss the pathways. The universe often has to lead us in a round about way to the thing we desire because we focus on the feeling that we don’t have it.
So if it is your desire, get into the feeling state of having your desire and forget about the details. Follow the next best thing for you. Not only will you be on the pathway to your greatest desire but also you will enjoy every step of the way there and that’s why we are truly here. Joy.
“Happy with where I am, Eager for more.” – Abraham Hicks