Part 2
To lose her child must be the most painful experience for a mother.
How can life go on ?
The questions are many.
A short while ago we met a remarkable lady, Tina. We can only mention her first name, because she has an upcoming law case regarding her birth.
Tina went through a tragic birth experience where she lost her daughter. Tina had to go through the process of mourning and grief. Many times she was thinking: “ What if..? “
We have a Fan-page called Conscious Parenting on Facebook.
One day Tina commented a post regarding birth. From then on we developed a strong and deep connection – we got to know each other.
We asked Tina how she felt about our message to the world, about conscious parenting. The reason for us asking her this question was that we are posting many pictures in order to activate feelings in our readers. The pictures are warm, and the intention is to create a longing for those with children, but who has forgotten their natural instincts.
Therefore, when we read Tina`s story ,we were suddenly afraid that our pictures could activate grief instead of encouragement.
With loving words she told us that she supported our mission completely , and needless to say we were very relieved and happy to hear that.
Tina has made an awesome video about herself and how she transformed this extremely painful experience into an awakening and how she again was able to find joy in her life.
What can society and women do to prevent that other women will undergo such painful experiences in the future?
Answer: I think that women like me must share their stories. We must make other women aware of the dangers of induced labors, especially with drugs like Cytotec that specifically warn against its use in labor inductions. I think that we as women have to take back our power. We need to educate ourselves, ask questions and know all of our options. We need to push for informed consent. This is the only way that a woman will be able to make an informed decision.
What is you vocation today?
Answer: I am an inspirational writer and speaker. I am a mentor to troubled youth and I also make jewelry and teach jewelry making to men, women and children who are in need of healing.
What “lessons of life “ has this traumatic experience taught you?
Answer: What a rich question… and one that could take a lifetime to answer!!! Perhaps the greatest of lessons is that truly, love always wins!!! This traumatic experience taught me the importance of being conscious of my thoughts, words and actions. I’ve learned that indeed you do need to be what it is you want to see in this life. If you want to see love, you have to be love, if you want to see compassion, you have to be compassion… if you want to see inspiration, you have to be inspired!!!
What will you share with others who have lost their child?
Answer: I am a part of many online groups for women and men who have lost children. What I always say is that healing takes time. It is a journey… and that journey takes you to where ever it is you need to go. Know that every emotion is important! Speak and share your story or find a way to express it, for when we keep inside what we need to let out, it becomes anger and it prevents us from feeling our true self or our true nature. Trust that your child came to you with great purpose… that they give you the gift of experiencing this life with new heart and soul. Remember that love and spirit never die… and it is that love that connects us forever. Our children are with us always!!!
And what advice will you give women who are going to have a baby?
Answer: The advice I would give to women who are having a baby would be to really enjoy it, embrace your womanly body and trust in your ability to birth without complication. Talk to your body, thanking it everyday for knowing exactly what it needs to do. Speak to your baby, envision love, joy and bliss… and send gratitude for all that is to come. It’s a good Idea to have a birth plan but be open to change if need be. Have an intention for how you would like to experience the delivery of your baby such as the one written by Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart https://vividlife.me/ultimate/2010/03/03/be-the-boss-when-you-give-birth-a-want-list-to-the-birth-clinic/ I can honestly tell you, there is nothing worse than feeling completely powerless. Had I used my womanly wisdom and power, things might have been very different.
What has given you the positive outlook you have on life?
Answer: I’m a very spiritual woman, I always have been. I have a strong faith and I trust that everything in my life is perfect, that even in pain, there is something to be gained. I believe that every experience takes you to where ever it is you need to go. I believe that my daughter came to show me the way back to myself… to remind me of my purpose and my powerful voice within. I believe in finding the good, seeing purpose in everything and living in gratitude. There have been so many people in my life that have inspired me through their difficult life experiences and they have given me the gift of seeing life the way that I do… so many people are living examples of grace… and I simply gain hope, courage, faith and inspiration from these people.
Do you believe in God?
Answer: Without a doubt… I believe in a God that is pure love. I experience God in everything that I do… in all that I see and hear, feel and taste… I experience God in all that I am.
Thank you so much, dear beautiful Tina, for this deep healing and wisdom.
To find the right questions to a woman who has experienced grief like this, was not easy.
It touched our hearts so deeply.
And even more to receive her divine answers.
We feel very grateful and honored for these wise words – from a woman who has inspired us to work even more to make a better world for everyone. A wonderful example of how a life crisis can be transformed into spiritual growth.
Our dear friend Tina is now working to inform women about how to avoid the dangerous drug Cytotec in a birth process.
And because of an upcoming legal trial – we are not able to reveal her full name right now. Feel free to leave a comment for our friend !
Tina is also working to improve the conditions for children and youth in Africa.
Her goal is to enlighten children about life quality and purpose of life.
Thank you, Tina – from the bottom of our hearts !
VividLife.me Contributors
Pearl Shanti and Andiran Lodur-Lionheart
Feel free to visit us at our fan-page on Facebook, Conscious Parenting:
Our blog: http://www.enlightenedchildren.com
Written by Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart and Andiran Lionheart
Bio:
Pearl Shanti is the Founder of the fan pages Conscious Parenting, Pure From Within, Holistic Life Style, Hearts for a new Life Foundation, Pearl Shanti Happpy, crazy and me, How To Give Birth as a Godess, and the group ♥ Let`s Start a Conscious Parenting Movement ♥ on Facebook, and the blog www.enlightenedchildren.com.
She is a regular parenting contributor for Selfgrowth.com, USA.
Moreover she is one of 7 experts who are co writhers of the book “For the love of our children “- about children with special needs.
http://fortheloveofourchildren.com/ebook.html
Pearl Shanti writes contributing articles for several alternative magazines in Norway and in other countries.
She has been interviewed by major newspapers in Norway and been a guest at national and international radio shows.
She presently lives a holistic life style in Malacatos, Loja- Ecuador – with home school for her son Leopold.
Pearl Shanti is psycic and has seen other dimensions her whole life.
After being a successful business woman for several years, she gave up this in order to go deeper into the spiritual world she had been seeing since childhood.
Pearl Shanti is a Reiki Grand Master, healer, rebirther, heart opener, animal whisperer, nutrition consultant, Feng Shui advisor, herbal specialist, author, coach, philosopher, metaphysician, French Gourmet Chef, children listener, artist, workshop facilitator, The Melchizedek Method facilitator, raw food specialist and life a alchemist and most of all mother for 3 lovely children, 7 -17 and 27, and she is grandmother for 3 beautiful boys
She has been a healer for more than 30 years, had her own healing center and ashram – and she is an expert on survival skills and living from Mother Nature`s resources for several years in the deep forests in Norway.
She has been living on prana/light and knows that everyone decide how many years they want to stay in their physical body and that death is an illusion.
Pearl Shanti has been wanderer on this planet. She has lived in Norway, Spain, India, Nepal, Sri Lanka, England and now Ecuador in the Andes.
This youthful grandmother has lived in ashrams in India and found a previous lifetime in Spain.She has climbed Mount Kailash, met wild elephants in the jungle in Southern-India and bathed in the holy Ganges.
Moreover she practices yoga, pranah yoga, karma yoga, meditation and study The Law of Attraction. Pearl Shanti focuses on building good karma and to live a conscious lifestyle in an natural way with pure simplicity .
With her big heart she has been helping people all over the world, and she has consciously incarnated here on earth to share from her deep selfless wisdom.
The children in the world, including her own, is her passion – and her vision is to improve the conditions for the children by inspiring others to become MORE Conscious Parents.
The children are the greatest treasures on earth – and it is her purpose to help parents support their children to bring forth their highest potential, to be happy and healthy.
Her philosophy is that ALL the children on this beautiful planet are our responsibility – not just our own kids.
Pearl Shanti`s calmness and tolerance makes it easy for children to confide in her- they know that she can see them for who they truly are.When working for the school Nature Kids in England these abilities were especially useful.
To be parents is a blessing and a gift when we regard life as a joy – not a struggle…
Her experiences in her own life have shown that conscious parenting works.
She is here to serve in a truthful and humble way.
Moreover her desire is to help motivate parents in improving their lives – to assist families to manage their lives with harmony, LOVE, health and spiritual growth.
All parents do the best they know how. Pearl Shanti is not here to promote “superior” parenting or lofty ideals. She only wants to inspire parents to become more conscious and find solutions that work.
Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart is a wayshower in the new parenting paradigm – guiding parents all over the world in her most important “call” from her heart…
The new parenting paradigm will create a new world as One Family – and it is our task as parents to become the change we want to see in the world.
In her own words:
“We, the parents, are the children’s future and hope … We are the change … and changes can happen quickly if we work together … We ALL do the best WE KNOW HOW …
THERE’S always more that will make us even better at what we do !! But it’s not about what we could have done, should have done , or what we continue to do , but about what we are able to do now and CHOOSE TO DO NOW WITH WHAT WE NOW KNOW !!!! ”
“Pearl Shanti oftentimes encounters aggressive and frustrated parents – parents who feel lack in their lives and projects their pain on Pearl Shanti.She has a feeling of defenselessness, calmness and understanding, and she is thus able to give a useful and loving reply – no matter how aggressive or hostile the comment is. Peace is her defense – and this approach gives the parent room for insight and self-reflection, and in this way the parent is invited to take responsibility and be open for a new way to look at a situation.”-Andiran Lionheart
To quote Pearl Shanti:
“There are never problems, only tasks to be solved.”
And by her gentle guidance many parents will eventually see the solutions in their own life – as well as in their relation with their children.”
“I am here to awaken the wisdom you already have within you”
–Pearl Shanti
Pearl Shanti has recently started the charity program Hearts for a New Life Foundation, which helps young single mothers in Ecuador to a better life.
You can read more about that on this home page: http:/www./heartsforanewlife.org
Moreover she has published books about parenting in collaboration with Hive Pubications.
Here are the links:
http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fintention1111.weebly.com%2F&h=hAQGqgo8X
http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fthehivepublications.weebly.com%2F&h=hAQGqgo8X
https://www.facebook.com/observingthesoundsoftheworld
2 comments
Such a gracious enlightened lady… Thank you for sharing your experiences…<3<3<3
I Feel exactly the same………………
You are a Beautiful and Courageous Woman! You have inspired me with your Great Love, Compassion and Zeal for your life and many, many others……….
God Bless You Tina!!!
All my Love and Blessings to you, and your Beautiful Family,
Deborah 🙂 xoxoxo