Two of my dearest friends are getting divorced. They always seemed so great together. We loved going to the “Concerts in the Park” with them in the summertime. Their kids would play tag while we’d spread out a picnic, open a bottle of wine and listen to music from the musicians strumming their guitars in the gazebo. I always felt like I’d stepped into a Norman Rockwell painting during those picnics. But life changes.
“It is impossible to step into the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and you’re not the same person.”
There’s a part of me that doesn’t like change. I know that it’s the way of the Tao and it helps us grow spiritually, but I don’t jump up and clap my hands with glee, and say, “Awesome, things are changing.”
On the contrary, it often feels like fingernails on a chalkboard when change is on my horizon. I kick, whimper, and protest despite my affirmations to the contrary. Consciously I affirm, “I accept new things into my life” while my subconscious yells, “Baloney!!! No you don’t!”
Big changes, like my daughter going to kindergarten, were hard. But I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve even rebelled when a favorite item at the grocery store was no longer carried, even though I’ve often found that the replacement products are better. When my favorite radio show went off the air I grieved, though I now really enjoy the country music that replaced it.
“Everything flows and nothing abides; everything gives way and nothing stays fixed… Cool things become warm, the warm grows cool; the moist dries, the parched becomes moist… It is in changing that things find repose.”
The truth is that nothing stays the same on our sweet planet Earth, as she spirals through the Universe. I can either embrace change or I can resist it… but nothing is going to stop the constant molecular dance of energy. (If I resist change, I just make myself miserable. But if I embrace the new input into my life, I almost always find a new awakening or a new beginning.)
So, for today, my spiritual practice is to embrace whatever change is in the air… even the divorce of my friends, even a change in the weather, and even our change of plans for this lovely day.
Here’s what I suggest doing:
(if you’re like me and sometimes struggle with change)
- Affirm: “I accept this change… and know that something even better is in my future!”
- See the Good: Instead of focusing on all the things you are unhappy about, list all the great things that are coming out of the change. For example, when Meadow went to kindergarten, I had more time and I began to write books in the time that I would’ve spent with her.
- Trust: Trust that there is a divine plan for your life and that it is unfolding perfectly… even if it doesn’t seem like it.