Initially I wanted home birth, but for medical reasons this was not possible. I had to accept the facts, but still I wanted to be the boss – I wanted to do it my way. The health professionals were going to do what they were educated for….which was to assist me.
To the Birth Clinic
Hønefoss Hospital , Norway
The summer 2005
WANT LIST FOR PEARL SHANTI LODUR-LIONHEART
OPENING PHASE:
I want to be in control of my own birth process
I want to move about, take a shower/bath whenever I like
I want everyone to be quiet around me
I want to be disturbed as little as possible by doctors
I want to give birth in a room without birth chair, steel equipment etc… I am afraid of hospitals and these things disturb me
I want to meditate and do yoga
I want to give myself aroma therapy and be able to do rebirthing, conscious connected breathing
I want to receive from my husband, Andiran Lionheart, reflexology, massage and help with rhythmic movements
I want to receive natural, pain-relieving therapies, like acupuncture, from the birth clinic, if necessary
I want to bring my own CD`s, to listen to relaxing and soft music …
I want people to speak with low voices, because I will focus all my intention within to connect with my Power to find the strength to give birth in joy, I wish that no-one talks to me before spoken to
I want the lights to be dim
TRANSITION PHASE
I want to have all my intention within….everything quiet..it is enough to know that you and my husband are there
I will focus on breathing and visualization
If I can be calm in this phase, we can prevent “tearing”.
THE EXPULSION PHASE
I want to give birth in water
I want to listen to drumming during the expulsion phase
I want to give birth according to the techniques of Dr. Frederic LeBoyer, the French obstetrician
I want to experience complete peace and harmony within
I want to be in full control
I want my husband to be in the water with me
We will receive our child in total peace and harmony
We will lift the baby slowly to the surface, and we only want whispering voices around us
I want the baby to be on my stomach…and in my arms all the time
I want the lights to be dim
I want the umbilical cord to be cut when there is no more pulsation
The baby needs both his lungs and the placenta in order to start breathing
We want to be in the water until we feel like leaving
My husband will cut the umbilical cord when it is ready
We want the medical examination to wait at least 3-4 hours
I want no breastfeeding help or bottle feeding
AFTER THE COMPULSION
I want no hormone injection
I want the placenta to slide out when it is ready…no infringement by anyone putting pressure on my stomach in order to press it out
We would like to have the honor to look at the placenta and the fetal membrane, which has nourished our child for 9 months
I want no vitamin K injections, or other vitamins, vaccines and injections
In my breasts I have all the natural vaccines and vitamins my child will need, and this milk contains all the antibodies, fatty acids, nutrients and vitamins my baby needs in order to strengthen the immune system and counteract infections
LATER
We want our son to be weighed on a scale of fabric, instead of steel
We do not want our son to be stretched in order to measure the height. The baby`s back needs not to be stretched, it is easy to use a tape measure and follow the natural curve of the baby
We want to be present when the doctor examines our son
We do not want him to be turned upside down
We want to bath and take care of our son ourselves, and we want to use our own clothes, clothe diapers, soaps and ointments.
I want my son to be with me all the time – he will not be taken anywhere without me.
I want to go home as soon as possible after the birth, preferably the same day, if everything happens according to the plan.
We have another child waiting at home.
I realize that a birth not necessarily happens according to a plan. I am open for change, and I accept the natural development of the birth process. This is the 3 rd time I give birth, and I have a strong desire to give birth in love, freedom and joy. I want to take control over the birth process this time..it will be beneficial for both the child and me.
This time I am looking forward to the birth process – because I know I will give birth in joy and bliss !
Yours Sincerely
Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart
SO HOW DID ANDIRAN FEEL ABOUT THIS ?
To become a father is an awesome experience – the greatest event in life.
And I was very proud when my wife sent a several page want list to the birth clinic.
We were very happy when the director of the birth clinic approved our list, and she even added that they wanted more parents like us who took 100 % responsibility for the birth process.
Because of the list we were treated with the utmost respect and attention, and it gave me great pride to observe how my wife went trough the birth process.
When Alex was born 10 years earlier, the doctors made some serious mistakes, and both Alex and my wife were clinically dead for a short while. Because of this , the doctors recommended a ceasarian operation this time too, especially since my wife gives birth to BIG babies. (She is only 1.50 m).
However, my wife has a strong willpower and chose to give birth in a natural way without medication – but instead in meditation…
Andiran Lionheart
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Bio:
Pearl Shanti is the Founder of the fan pages Conscious Parenting, Pure From Within, Holistic Life Style, Hearts for a new Life Foundation, Pearl Shanti Happpy, crazy and me, How To Give Birth as a Godess, and the group ♥ Let`s Start a Conscious Parenting Movement ♥ on Facebook, and the blog www.enlightenedchildren.com.
She is a regular parenting contributor for Selfgrowth.com, USA.
Moreover she is one of 7 experts who are co writhers of the book “For the love of our children “- about children with special needs.
http://fortheloveofourchildren.com/ebook.html
Pearl Shanti writes contributing articles for several alternative magazines in Norway and in other countries.
She has been interviewed by major newspapers in Norway and been a guest at national and international radio shows.
She presently lives a holistic life style in Malacatos, Loja- Ecuador – with home school for her son Leopold.
Pearl Shanti is psycic and has seen other dimensions her whole life.
After being a successful business woman for several years, she gave up this in order to go deeper into the spiritual world she had been seeing since childhood.
Pearl Shanti is a Reiki Grand Master, healer, rebirther, heart opener, animal whisperer, nutrition consultant, Feng Shui advisor, herbal specialist, author, coach, philosopher, metaphysician, French Gourmet Chef, children listener, artist, workshop facilitator, The Melchizedek Method facilitator, raw food specialist and life a alchemist and most of all mother for 3 lovely children, 7 -17 and 27, and she is grandmother for 3 beautiful boys
She has been a healer for more than 30 years, had her own healing center and ashram – and she is an expert on survival skills and living from Mother Nature`s resources for several years in the deep forests in Norway.
She has been living on prana/light and knows that everyone decide how many years they want to stay in their physical body and that death is an illusion.
Pearl Shanti has been wanderer on this planet. She has lived in Norway, Spain, India, Nepal, Sri Lanka, England and now Ecuador in the Andes.
This youthful grandmother has lived in ashrams in India and found a previous lifetime in Spain.She has climbed Mount Kailash, met wild elephants in the jungle in Southern-India and bathed in the holy Ganges.
Moreover she practices yoga, pranah yoga, karma yoga, meditation and study The Law of Attraction. Pearl Shanti focuses on building good karma and to live a conscious lifestyle in an natural way with pure simplicity .
With her big heart she has been helping people all over the world, and she has consciously incarnated here on earth to share from her deep selfless wisdom.
The children in the world, including her own, is her passion – and her vision is to improve the conditions for the children by inspiring others to become MORE Conscious Parents.
The children are the greatest treasures on earth – and it is her purpose to help parents support their children to bring forth their highest potential, to be happy and healthy.
Her philosophy is that ALL the children on this beautiful planet are our responsibility – not just our own kids.
Pearl Shanti`s calmness and tolerance makes it easy for children to confide in her- they know that she can see them for who they truly are.When working for the school Nature Kids in England these abilities were especially useful.
To be parents is a blessing and a gift when we regard life as a joy – not a struggle…
Her experiences in her own life have shown that conscious parenting works.
She is here to serve in a truthful and humble way.
Moreover her desire is to help motivate parents in improving their lives – to assist families to manage their lives with harmony, LOVE, health and spiritual growth.
All parents do the best they know how. Pearl Shanti is not here to promote “superior” parenting or lofty ideals. She only wants to inspire parents to become more conscious and find solutions that work.
Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart is a wayshower in the new parenting paradigm – guiding parents all over the world in her most important “call” from her heart…
The new parenting paradigm will create a new world as One Family – and it is our task as parents to become the change we want to see in the world.
In her own words:
“We, the parents, are the children’s future and hope … We are the change … and changes can happen quickly if we work together … We ALL do the best WE KNOW HOW …
THERE’S always more that will make us even better at what we do !! But it’s not about what we could have done, should have done , or what we continue to do , but about what we are able to do now and CHOOSE TO DO NOW WITH WHAT WE NOW KNOW !!!! ”
“Pearl Shanti oftentimes encounters aggressive and frustrated parents – parents who feel lack in their lives and projects their pain on Pearl Shanti.She has a feeling of defenselessness, calmness and understanding, and she is thus able to give a useful and loving reply – no matter how aggressive or hostile the comment is. Peace is her defense – and this approach gives the parent room for insight and self-reflection, and in this way the parent is invited to take responsibility and be open for a new way to look at a situation.”-Andiran Lionheart
To quote Pearl Shanti:
“There are never problems, only tasks to be solved.”
And by her gentle guidance many parents will eventually see the solutions in their own life – as well as in their relation with their children.”
“I am here to awaken the wisdom you already have within you”
–Pearl Shanti
Pearl Shanti has recently started the charity program Hearts for a New Life Foundation, which helps young single mothers in Ecuador to a better life.
You can read more about that on this home page: http:/www./heartsforanewlife.org
Moreover she has published books about parenting in collaboration with Hive Pubications.
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