
There are many opportunities for teachable moments for kids and parents together when you lose or experience disappointment or even get ready for an event like this. In the moments before or directly after a loss or disappointment look at yourself and others around you.
How is everyone behaving?
How are you behaving?
Are you too serious for the situation at hand?
Are children crying or throwing things?
Are you aware?
Do you blame others?
Are you accusing others of cheating or playing dirty?
Are you more upset than the kids that played?
Are you out of control or swearing?
Is your coach practicing good sportsmanship? (sportswomanship 🙂
Are you practicing good sportsmanship? (sportswomanship 🙂
Do you get mad?
Do you have an attitude?
Are you as a group of parents getting along?
Do the kids on the team get along?
Are siblings fighting?
Do you think about what you could have done differently?
Do the moments replay in your head over and over?
Do you go for ice cream and pizza and bury the feelings?
Are you thinking you could have coached it all better and won?
If you are coaching and it’s your turn to say something and you’ve lost the game, do you come off as a sore loser?
-OR-
Do you express gratitude?
What does your heart say?
Do you have composure, elegance, grace and style?
Are you under control of yourself and your emotions?
Are you clapping for the team that won?
Did you put forth your best effort? Did your team?
Do you thank everyone for coaching and being there?
Do you thank your team?
Do you step back and just be appreciative for the opportunity?
Do you work harder?
Do you think about how you could improve?
Do you thank your lucky stars you were there participating?
Do you see the blessings?
Do you see all of the positive things that happened?
Are you showing compassion to the kids? Howabout the last out or the kids who might be blaming themselves due to errors?
Are you supportive?
Do you suggest taking the team out for a fun activity just for distraction and fun?
Are you remembering the kids are just kids? They are under 18 and in some cases just 9, 10, 11 years old.
If you are coaching or a team member and you have lost, do you take a moment to say something positive about the other team sincerely and from your heart?
Do you take a moment to thank all of the parents and family that perhaps spent hundreds or thousands of dollars to attend and bring their child to the event?
It might be some combination or all of the above to get you through 🙂 But to get through it think about this:
Do your kids give up?
Do you give up?
Do you try harder next time?
Do you practice a little more?
Do you maintain your positive, peaceful self?
Do you teach this to your children?
Do you become more aware?
How do you help yourself and others be their very best?
Do you accept responsibility?
What are you saying to your children and what are they saying to you?
What do you do if someone’s behavior or conduct isn’t on the side of percolating peace?
Consider positively contributing to make the experience better next time, minus blame and shame and coulda, woulda, shoulda.
Perhaps the experience or sport actually isn’t right for you or your child and instead of a “give up” attitude, it becomes a slight shift to doing something else more suitable.
Consider if you are a leader or a follower. Either is ok, but understand who your role models are in either case or both and the example you are also setting.
Think with your heart.
Practice Gratitude, not Attitude.
It’s disappointing when things don’t go our way. I get it. You can’t change the outcome no matter how many times you replay it. But your behavior in those losing and winning moments speaks volumes without you ever having to shout or utter a word. The same goes for how your children behave.
Just something to think about.