When you experience a spiritual shift, there can be moments of real joy, enthusiasm and insight. But it might seem that some elements of your life are not in sync yet, or may be even seem more troubling to observe. It’s almost as if the brighter you shine, the more pronounced the darkness becomes. Let me give you an example. A client of mine said she was feeling on a high, and that she was truly moving forward. Within minutes of acknowledging and basking in this feeling, she received text messages from two of her closest friends which said: ‘I’m so bored’ and ‘I’m so grumpy today’.
Her first response was ‘what do I do?’
Spirit said: It’s not about what you do, it’s about what you release.
Release the need to fix.
Release the guilt you feel over your own expansion and joy. (Embrace your worthiness)
Release the self-analysis over how your new high will affect others.
Release the need to join them ‘over there’ in their darkness.
Release the falsehood that being a good friend means indulging in the self-created drama of others.
Release the fear that by behaving differently or pursuing new things, you will be rejected.
Release the falsehood that you can have a 100% guarantee that your loved ones are feeling 100% great, 100% of the time.
Release the idea that you can’t feel okay until THEY feel okay, or until the external looks different.
Release the idea that staying stuck for the supposed benefit of others is noble.
Release the desire to become evangelical and try to drag other people up to your supposedly ‘higher’ new platform, simply because it would make you feel more secure.
Release the need to seek reward from this self-limiting behaviour.
My client found that when she contemplated these points, she could find her way back to the original high.
It is not uncommon to feel great and then look around your life and feel that some of the elements are not quite up to speed. This leads to further questions like:
What do I do?
What choices should I make?
What should stay and what should go?
De-cluttering your life can be very cleansing and uplifting, and sometimes necessary. But look at your intention. Do you need to change what’s out there in order to justify what’s in here? Does everything have to look tidier and logical in order for you to enjoy it? Do these choices rest entirely on your shoulders, or could they be collaborative? If the decision-making process is causing you angst, it’s not because of the finer details. It is your discomfort with how you are perceiving the dilemma. When you release the angst, the answer will arrive in your awareness.
When de-cluttering your life, you do not have to make a conscious decision or action about exclusion. Now, this may sound silly, as of course sometimes we decide to let go of a job, or a relationship. But understand that deliberate exclusion is not the necessary element of feeling better. There is a difference between exclusion/banishment and acceptance/release. If the negative elements of a job are paramount in your energy when you resign, you might find that the same patterns emerge in your new job. There has to be a point when you make peace with what is.
Even if you intend to change your physical circumstances, your parting shot does not have to be: I cannot stand that job/person/house anymore. The best thing you could do is to actively look for the positives in your current circumstances, before you make the outer change. This will not trap you in those circumstances. Nor do you have to do it out of duty, or to be ‘a good person’. You do it because acknowledging the positive helps you to see abundance more clearly, and makes it more possible to receive and appreciate what comes next. Gratitude and appreciation of the what is open you up to receive the what-will-be.
The ‘buzzkills’ you experience after a shift are an invitation to commit more fully to your bliss. Like a mythical hero, you must seek out, uphold, celebrate and honour your bliss. This helps you to attract more of what you want. When you focus on the bliss, and bliss-making circumstances, anything else will either fall away on its own, or not seem to create such angst and resistance in you after a while. Law of Attraction will see to that. Rather than being an exclusive or alienating experience, your new way of being can liberate others. It can inspire them to find their own bliss. You are lighting the way, and leading by example.
From this new perspective, a choice is no longer something you have to wrestle with. It is a powerful but effortless statement of intent. I have found that sometimes my clients wanted Spirit to make the choice for them. I’m sure I have wished for that too, from time to time. But the reason that Spirit are not instructive is because they trust you implicitly and are fully aware of your worth and potential. They know you can make the right choice for you, and that you will revel in being the creator of that choice. When you share Spirit’s viewpoint and learn to trust yourself and your gifts, the answer will come to you naturally. The fog will clear. You will not only move forward in the literal sense, but you will FEEL the sense of progress also.