Imagine having someone by your side who could be companion, playmate, confidante, lover, friend, most ardent cheerleader and the stone by which you polish yourself, smoothing away the sometimes hardened or rough edges. In this person’s presence, you are at your best and with them you can dare to bare your soul. Together you bring out the shadow side of each other and then consign it to the Light and you bring out the Highest in each other and celebrate it to the fullest. These are words that I wrote while in seminary and I use them in wedding ceremonies that I officiate. They could also describe my next guests on my Vivid Life Radio show: It’s All About Relationships. Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are the authors of the bestselling book called The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide To Creating Extraordinary Relationships. They discovered that in the course of the evolution of their relationship, they had something of value to offer to other singles and couples who wanted deep and true love. The two of them have wisdom to share about what it takes to arrive at the same place as a soulmate, by preparing for their arrival. Their take seems to be that it isn’t enough to want someone there to meet a need or fill a void. What they suggest is that you BE the one you are searching for, since as I like to say “No one will ever love you enough to make up for you not loving yourself.”
One of the things I most enjoy about their work is the unabashed enthusiasm they have for life and love and it is most definitely contagious. I had the pleasureable task of reading their book last year and interviewing them. It will be interesting to see if their answers have changed as their relationship has evolved.
“A soulmate is someone with whom we experience a profound connection on every level: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.”
“Do we have more than one? Yes—potentially, six billion! If we were all fully enlightened, we would recognize and live our soul connection with everyone on the planet. We would recognize that everyone is our soulmate.”
I had wondered if they had thought their relationship to be ‘beshert’ which is Hebrew for ‘meant to be’. ‘”The universe was not going to let us miss that we were “meant” to be together! As is always the case when we’re truly in tune with our soul’s path, the serendipitous events and moments were off the charts.” I am eager to hear what those cosmic coincidences were that had them knowing that things were divinely orchestrated.
I wonder sometimes, if there is a metaphsyical matchmaker in a room somewhere, on a computer (kind of like in the movie Bruce Almighty) and requests are coming in fast and furious for the love of one’s life. S/he sits back and takes a deep breath and begins to type in the coordinates, the who-what-when-where and then decides that the time is right for the appointed meeting. This scenario reminds me of one of my favorite movies called Made In Heaven in which four characters, played by Timothy Hutton and Kelly McGillis exist in two different lifetimes (the first time in Heaven and the second on Earth.) http://youtu.be/pH_JiuRYdgc and have the opportunity to meet the second time around.
I consider the various partners and lovers who have come my way and with whom I may share a dance for a short time or a lifetime and feel grateful to have crossed paths. Welcoming the One who will be in the latter category. I’m sure that by hearing from this loving couple whose ideas have sparked other’s relationships, I will learn something new as well.
Please join me each Thursday on It’s All About Relationships from 8-9 pm est on Vivid Life Radio. www.vividlife.me