I was having a conversation with someone in the community recently about maintaining the balance in life and how some days we experience extreme highs and other days extreme lows and then there is what he suggested, as “just a normal state of being”. The dictionary defines normal as usual, not abnormal, regular and natural. Sometimes when we are living in a state that feels natural the tendency to reach out and make something happen in our lives can occur because it appears as if nothing is happening. Often people think because “no thing” is happening that something is wrong or they may feel bored, but when you experience a constant flow of high and lows normal then becomes a very welcomed state of being for many of us.
When you choose to live a mindful life you can witness the flow of emotions that move through your body and see them for what they truly are, simply fields of energy flowing through your body.
It’s not reality to expect that life is not going to present challenges where emotions such as being, sad, angry, frustrated or fear appear, but what we can do is be open to all of these and many other states without the desire for them to go away. You can choose to be consciously open to what is present, to let it be as it is, and then it naturally goes back to the source from where it came in its own time. The source I am speaking of is consciousness, where everything arises and everything returns.
When the mind projects labels on feelings that flow through our body we have a choice to simply surrender and allow the feeling to be present without any action or story associated with it or we can choose to stay stuck in a story about what happened or didn’t happen, but where you choose to put your attention is where the energy will flow.
Your can view your body as a vehicle the life force is moving through and allow yourself to feel the emotions. Often, acknowledging them as they move through your body can be beneficial to your healing process but it is not necessary to stay stuck in any particular emotion.
Have you ever had the experience where everything seems to be okay in your life and then your mind projects thoughts that tell you something must be wrong and then you begin to start making judgements about your life or the relationships you share with others? Some people find something to attach to that gives them permission to move them away from the feeling of their natural state of being, peace or love and some may even begin sabotaging relationships because being in a place of love is not a normal or comfortable state of being for them.
Then there are those times when situations are not occurring as quickly as we want them to and we begin to feel uncomfortable so we try to force the situation to happen, we start to experience an emotion of some kind, perhaps it is frustration, impatience or stress, but pauses in our life are here for a reason. They allow us the opportunity to be with what is and to contemplate what it is we really want in life, and to simply be at rest in the moment. Next time you have an emotion arise in your body be mindful not to even label it, let it be a feeling that is simply moving through your body, be mindful not to make it your point of focus and then discover what your experience is in that moment.
Remember what we resist persists, what we embrace we erase. Enjoy your natural state of being and notice that peace is always here, it may be underneath an emotion you are having but it is always here, take the time to discover it and be mindful to acknowledge it, where ever your attention goes is where your energy flows. Make a choice today to go with the flow today and every other day.
Lorraine Wilson is a guest speaker, group facilitator and provides one on one mentoring for those who wish to live a mindful life. For more information visit www.keepinglifesimple.org