Wanting to achieve perfection in our lives can certainly be motivating, but it can also set us up to believe we’re just not good enough if we don’t achieve the levels of perfection we set for ourselves. Forget about others having expectations of us being perfect, more often than not, we are the ones who put such demands on the levels of perfection we need to achieve and beat ourselves up when we can’t seem to reach these goals we’ve set for ourselves.
We strive for perfection in so many areas of our lives but it’s important to be mindful about what is underneath the desire for all things to be perfect and to ask yourself, what is perfection, really? These questions can serve as a point of inquiry and lead you to discover what’s really driving the agenda of setting such high levels of perfection for yourself and for others.
We all have our own perspective on what is perfect or not. What might be a perfect situation for me may not be not be perfect for you. So if perfection is real, why are there so many thoughts about what is perfect and what is not? It’s exactly that, they are just thoughts. The moment we reach one level of perfection, all of a sudden it’s not good enough and we set higher standards for ourselves and others. This is simply the mind telling us what is perfect and what is not. Try this exercise the next time you are judging whether you, someone else or something is not perfect or good enough. Pay attention and simply be aware and notice ‘oh, I’m making a judgment around perfection’. Be 100% present and then just let the situation be what it is, without the need to judge whether it’s perfect or not, and then see what you discover.
Perhaps when we all stop striving for a certain level of perfection and let go of the stress that comes along with seeking such perfection we’ll see that we can in fact love who we are with all our perceived thoughts of imperfection. What a relief to simply acknowledge and surrender to ‘I’m not perfect, and done with it. After all, it’s just a thought…..
About Lorraine Wilson:
Lorraine Wilson has been on a journey of self discovery for many years. She created ‘Keeping Life Simple’ with the intention of sharing that which her teachers have shared with her. We have an innate wisdom of what is really true in our lives and when we discover this through self inquiry it provides the opportunity for us to live our lives in freedom. Lorraine is a guest speaker, group facilitator and provides one on one mentoring for those who wish to live a mindful life. For more information visit www.keepinglifesimple.org
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