If you’ve found your way here for advice on love, then I can only assume that you are still searching for this elusive experience. And you’re not alone. Globally, more than 225 million searches are conducted each month on the Internet for advice on what is love? For those who have been less than lucky in love and are trying to do it better, healthier, or wiser this time, you have my love and support.
Over the last decade, no two people that I’ve counseled have shared the same definition for love. For some it comes packaged as a tall, beautiful companion with the perfect smile, the perfect pedigree, and the perfect earning capacity. For others it shows up as an intelligent, quirky, best friend who makes you laugh until you pee yourself. I’ve heard grandparents extoll the virtue of perfect love the first time they hold a grandchild. I have seen little boys melt into the pure experience of love as they navigate their world with a new puppy by their side, while little girls hold out for the fairytale promise of prince charming and a happily ever after.
Such diverse examples perfectly illustrate a singular point; love is a completely subjective experience that makes it one of the most challenging to seek out and sustain. What are you really looking for? And most importantly where are you hoping to find it?
The Foundation for Lasting Love Love is an internal experience, emotion, or feeling that arises within your being when you are in harmony with yourself, your life, or another. It evokes a profound sense of completeness, harmony, peace and joy. To find lasting love is considered one of the greatest blessings in life. But to have it, you must first source and then ground love within you.
A Road Map for Love. There is a harsh truth about love. If you are searching far and wide for that perfect partner to kindle the exquisite experience of lasting love without first resolving all of the emotional and psychological blocks that keep you from unconditionally loving yourself, you are looking for love in all the wrong places. The path you are traversing is a slippery one that can only end in heartache.
Your roadmap for finding love begins and ends with you. Love cannot be nurtured or sustained while you are unresolved in your relationship with yourself. In all relationships, once the hormonal rush abates, or the newness of the experience begins to tarnish, you will find yourself tangled in an emotional jungle of judgment and blame of your love interest. It’s a naturally occurring default position that you go to in order to protect yourself… when things go wrong it’s always the other person’s fault.
The truth is that until you truly love all aspects of yourself – the good, the bad and the ugly – you cannot BE FULLY PRESENT to love another nor will you ever be able fully receive their love in return.
The Gift of Acceptance Are you shocked yet? Loving the good in yourself is easy, but the bad, and the ugly? Right now you have the capacity to begin this process of self-love. Acceptance is the magic bullet. With the consistent practice of acceptance, regardless of how you are showing up, you can begin to introduce spaciousness into your daily experience and lay a strong foundation for love.
It looks like this: I accept myself when I’m being short-tempered and unreasonable. I accept myself even though I’ve gained 20 pounds. I accept my shortcomings when I fight with my partner and won’t give in to his wishes. Acceptance opens up an inner doorway that leads into internal harmony. When you are in the acceptance of yourself, just the way you are, love of self spontaneously begins to arise from within.
Vibrational Change and Shattering Emotional Content
We are vibrational beings and hold onto unresolved emotional and psychological traumas within our bodies that I have come to call vibrational density. Vibrational Transformation shatters the emotional content that keeps self-acceptance distanced from you and blocks your ability to fully experience self-love.
Vibrational change, which in reality is vibrational increase, begins to break-up the vibrational density that is lodged within your body clearing the way for the deepest experience of self-acceptance.
We are living in accelerating times. You are being vibrationally supported to experience the deepest levels of love possible. These states are your birthright.
You are empowered to choose the path you traverse as you search for the greatest experience we can have in life – true love.
Panache Desai is an inspirational visionary and contemporary spiritual master whose gift of vibrational transformation has inspired and shifted the lives of tens of thousands. He shares eternal truths, inspirational insights, and vibrational tools to create the life of your dreams. Panache is a modern-day avatar who acts as a direct link to Divine consciousness empowering people of all ages, economic and educational backgrounds to transform their lives by connecting them with their limitless Divine nature. Young, hip and funny, Panache brings his global community together weekly via LIVE webcasting. http://www.panachedesai.com/
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