This is Part 3 of a three-part series. CLICK HERE to read Part 1: Heart opening experiences in Greece lead to illumination of my life purpose.
PART 3: A surprising outcome showing that nothing is what it seems and miracles really do happen.
I soon learned that my apparent disconnection from my friend in Greece was another learning experience for me. I was forced to let go of my hopes of communicating with him since he just one day stopped responding to me altogether. I was feeling quite sad about this but eventually I moved to a place of acceptance because I knew that it was aligning me to a different outcome. I wasn’t sure what that was, but I just kept working at myself with a goal of not falling for the false belief that I needed anyone or anything outside of me to bring me to the feeling of freedom that I had experienced during those days abroad.
The time came to tell my husband that he needed to take 50% care of our children if he expected 50% custody of them after the divorce. This was a serious thing because up until that time I had been caring for them 100% of the time when it came to putting them to bed, getting them up , making their lunches and taking them to school and picking them up again and taking them to after school activities, etc.
For them to be comfortable with the new arrangement, they needed to be able to feel comfortable with Dad doing some of these things Mom had been doing.
It took about one week and then my husband did step in and start working more with the kids. He was really great at it and the kids loved having his interactions. It transformed something in him at this point where he really started to get it with the kids and started to really enjoy being with them. I could see him looking at them with interest and engaging them directly in conversation. I felt more and more connected to him through his joyful looks and the feeling was undeniable.
I began feeling quite confused at this point because I didn’t want to have these feelings for him, but at the same time, this was one of the things I knew had been missing in my life. I had made a promise to myself after Greece to never turn down another opportunity to explore a physical and soulful connection to someone. I just didn’t expect this to happen between my husband and I at this point in the game.
Something was also happening to my husband. He woke up one morning feeling no more worry and anxiety. He just knew things were going to work out and he was so full of joy he couldn’t help letting me know about it. He became almost sappy and full of romantic things he was saying and began to really woo me in a way he had never done before we had even married!
I had conversations with my therapist about this and she encouraged me to continue to try to stay open and see where it takes me. He was really doing everything he could to show me he was willing to change, to become conscious, to really pursue a conscious existence. He stopped rolling his eyes at me when I brought up my ideas about Oneness and began to take interest. He began attending my yoga classes with me and was quick to turn off the TV to have a conversation with me.
I had fears, of course, I would be crazy not to. The biggest fear was the fact that I had already taken a huge investment into Divorce, including complete acceptance of my apparent future fate. I had also stood up for myself and didn’t want to compromise my newly formed principles by taking him back so quickly. After all of the hard work I had endured I certainly didn’t want to backslide because I was afraid to be alone. I was prepared to be alone if I had to and I didn’t want to back down.
However, I kept thinking that my children deserved another chance at a happy family and I owed it also to myself to see if this would really work out. I didn’t want to miss a possible opportunity because I was “afraid” of things really working out.
I finally embraced the idea of a reconciliation by releasing my fears completely and decided that I already knew that I had it in me to change my story anytime I wanted. So I no longer had to worry about making the “wrong” decision because if I didn’t like how things worked out, I could always change them again. I had experienced first hand what miracles would come about just from taking this leap, from standing up for myself and really accepting myself for who I was and to not “hide” who I was any longer. I didn’t want to live a life where I always had to worry about whether or not someone was going to like something I did or didn’t do, and you know what? I don’t have to!
So here I am, happily married still, to a “new” husband. I have never felt more loved, and adored, and cherished, and respected, than I do at this time. And even though I do not hear from my friend in Greece any more, I still think of him and he will always remain a special part of my life that will never be forgotten. I wonder if he’ll ever realize how much of a positive impact our interactions had on me and my husband and my children and our friends and family and the list goes on. He is even impacting you right now just from reading this post. And I wonder if you realize how many people that you have affected by being who you really are? By opening your heart to a stranger and having meaningful conversation with them?
The answer is limitless, simply infinite. Every person that comes in and out of your life holds the keys to infinite soul growth and love. See this miracle in everyone you meet and your life will be a magical adventure.
This story holds many morals and I couldn’t possibly lay them all out here. I think most people would like to hear how things are going now. I’ll tell you what I know and that is we have never been more open and free with each other than we are right now. I have no problem telling him how I’m feeling and I’m pretty sure that he feels the same way. Not only that, but by breaking our “promises” to each other and releasing each other from our “vows”, we actually made our marriage stronger. We eliminated “roles” and “you have to do this because I am doing that” mentality. We became a strong team instead. We use more of a “I’ll help you with this because you have been doing some really great things and shouldn’t have to do any more” mentality. We actually have each other’s back in a good way and if we don’t, then we know we can handle it.
I can’t honestly say that things will remain this great between us. If things go wrong again, I know exactly what to do. And there is something really great about that feeling! My family and I will forever be grateful for the events that transpired from my trip to Greece, and we will never forget the time that Divorce saved our marriage.
Written by Angie Lile
Angie Lile is a mother of twin daughters, wife, filmmaker, business owner and a spiritual activist. God’s Clue is her first children’s book and was inspired by true events that occurred while trying to explain the passing of a beloved family pet.~~
Angie currently volunteers for the grassroots spiritual movement, Humanity’s Team, which was founded by Neale Donald Walsch.
Angie also produces a children’s web-series called ART-Felt Learning, which teaches children about our interconnectedness through interesting art projects.
Of course she hopes to write more of these books as life presents them to her.
