When the movie “The Secret” debuted, it became an instant buzz. Everyone wanted to know more and more about this Law of Attraction concept. The idea is that everything is made up of energy and since energy vibrates, that means everything that exists actually vibrates whether you can view it or not. All thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that you create and put out into the universe is exactly what will be handed back to you on a silver platter.
If you are feeling positive, you will attract back positive feelings and the same goes, if we are vibrating negative feelings that, too, will be attracted back to you. Sound easy? Absolutely.
There is, however, one very important key element missing in all of this and that is action. That’s right, the law of attraction doesn’t state we have to take action, we just have to think about what we want and the universe will manifest that right back to us. Now for an addict or alcoholic, this is definitely the softer and easier way to gain sobriety. You don’t have to go to meetings, get a sponsor, read the big book, or for that matter do any work to become clean and sober. You just think, believe, and feel sobriety, and it will just happen.
This is similar to the instant gratification mentality of an addict or alcoholic, that if you just have this drink or take this drug, you will suddenly feel better. This was intriguing, but I could not fathom how just thinking something would bring it into existence, however, physicists or law of attraction proponents might disagree.
I became interested in the Law of Attraction and how it might help addicts and alcoholics while working at a famous Malibu Treatment Center. I noticed after the clients viewed the movie, there was this complete silence in the room and the energy of the environment completely shifted. There was this transformation that permeated the rehab and suddenly clients who had been depressed, un-motivated, and detached suddenly became hopeful, inspired, and suddenly eager to soak up everything their treatment program was providing them. How could this be?
In recovery, the belief is that there must be a complete makeover of your life, if sobriety is to be achieved. The law of attraction did not provide these tools, however what it did offer was the idea that if you live on purpose and if you have meaning in your life, you are aligning yourself with what the universe wants for you. Whether you call it God, universe, source, higher power, Buddha, or Jesus, everyone has a calling and a greater purpose. This idea of purpose and meaning in one’s life seemed to be the catalyst that was energizing these clients.
It was at this point, I was determined to find a way to integrate the law of attraction into these recovering alcoholics and addicts’ lives, and that is where the Law of Sobriety was incubated.
Addicts and alcoholics in many ways are looking for a transcendent experience when they use and drink to transport them out of the intolerable reality in which they are living. They are already on a spiritual quest of sorts by using mind altering substances to gain relief and to escape their very existence.
Some call it emptiness, a soul sickness, a bottomless pit, but whatever it is, addicts and alcoholics are missing out on any sort of joy and will go to great lengths to find it. Alcohol and drugs may provide them with a temporary reprieve, but it is certainly not the long term answer to the pain and emptiness most addicts and alcoholics feel on a daily basis.
Happiness is something we seek outside of us, but joy is already within us. If an individual is living a life of purpose and meaningfulness, then joy is possible. Once the addict aligns its energy with their calling and takes certain action steps to get there, then the universe allows the addict access to a deeper form of satisfaction that is un-available with the self destructive behavior that comes from alcoholism and drug addiction. This is when the addict connects with a universal life force and it is here that space opens up creating a life that is filled with harmony and peace.
This is the serenity the addict was so desperately searching for but always looking for it in the wrong places. All along, the answers could be found inside the addict’s being. He just did not know how to access it because the drugs and alcohol got in the way.
The action steps in creating a joyful life for the addict consists of living on purpose and with intention, living a life of value and authenticity, learning to live in appreciation and compassion for oneself and others, living a life of right action and the power to chose the right path, living with profound awareness and mindfulness, and learning to let go of resistance and attachments.