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Where did we go wrong?

by Shayne Traviss

This morning I woke up to the beautiful sound of singing birds as the fog lifted over the Marina where I live. Everything seemed to be just perfect as I enjoyed my first cup of coffee while sending out my regular morning quotes through facebook. That is until I turned on the radio.

I am usually not a person who listens to the radio, I don’t even have cable TV. A personal choice I made a few years ago because I wanted to really disconnect from this world of illusion that we somehow created and reconnect to the truth of who I am – A statement that sends a lot of people running for the hills with judgment. “You’ve gone all hippy on us”, “Oh there you go getting all spiritual again” are comments I hear frequently. Which leads me to the title of this post.


Where did we go wrong?

As I listened to the radio for a few short minutes this morning I heard a Police Officer was dragged and killed by a van while trying to catch an offender, a lady used her baby as a weapon in a subway fight and Kim Kardashian is number one on Google… I was blown away, and disheartened.

Where did we go wrong?

We seem to have become  monsters. Completely separated from who we are. We live in a world where celebrities have become Gods,  our protectors are treated as enemies and people use their own children as weapons.

Where did we go wrong?

When connected to who we really are life is such a beautiful thing. There is so much to be greatful for. So much beauty in the world and so much love to be shared. That is the truth, before anything else we are spiritual beings having a human experience. We are here to learn, to experience, to connect with the divine within ourselves and to reach out across the world with love. We are to understand that we are one and what you do to others, you do to yourself. That life begins and ends with you and that you are to love yourself so that you are able to see others with the same love. We are not to look outside ourselves, to harm others or to put other humans above us.

I invite you all to answer this question silently to yourselves or if you feel moved by posting a comment…

Where did we go wrong and how to we return to the truth of who we are?





Liza June 29, 2011 - 12:14 pm

I don’t think there is a simple answer. Somewhere along the way, we stopped listening to our own soul and heart and started listening to everyone and everything else. We gave away our personal power and sense of community, connectedness to the illusions of such things. For whatever reason being cynical, distrusting and quite frankly rude, have become the desired state of being. People call it being “realistic” but I think that is a lie. I am not sure how to “fix” it but I think people are starting to realize that there is something deeply wrong with where we are today. However, any change in society starts with individual change. I have to be the example, not with words, but how I exist in the world and interact with it. That catches more attention than anything I could ever say.
Grace and peace to you.

Anny June 29, 2011 - 12:37 pm

At the risk of not being popular with you Shayne, it’s well and fine to run away and turn off all access to the world and preach from the pulpit of love. It is another to stand in the storm of life and be the love. I still live in this city and I am bombarded by the noise and chaos of where people are everyday and I stand in who and what I am and I glow from that. It has an impact, from here… not from somewhere out there, or on high a mountain top away from everyone… or from a book. All those things can direct people only so much. Doing the work in the trenches is what will make the differences. Be aghast all you want but you have to be the change you want to see in the world…not hide from it.

As for where we went wrong, in my opinion, we stopped listening. If someone, anyone needs to go to those extremes to be heard, we are not listening. Deep listening is so very different than just hearing the noise around us. We are accustomed to noise and we tune it out.

It’s hard to listen when you can’t hear someone. Having dinner or a coffee in a restaurant is like being on an airport strip with a jet taking off. The acoustics are so bad you end up with a sound hangover for your trouble.

margaret mlekush June 29, 2011 - 1:55 pm

We went “wrong” when priests and pastors began saying , “God love you no matter what!” as if He is The gold master card of grace to be maxed out and thrown away, account closed……When in reality we are asked to leave the sinful ways of the past and launch a new and better way of LIVING……..Love is not revelling in violence, promiscuity, crimes but walking away from Sodom to Galilee to know Jesus………And yet we went so far in pursuit fo freedom from any rule, value, civility, responisblity to suggest to have grace one needs to launch a moral civil life is FIGHTING WORDS these days illiciting violence from the hardcore bullies……….And so reality has become trying to ministry to the confused on line or with friends to “be safe: and yet accept if CHRIST WORD active didn’t save them its mor potent than any sinner’s paraphrase and the fallens’ condition might be the will of God……….And so preach, teach and yet don’t condemn self if it falls on deaf ears and just love and trust the Lord………..Truly its a tragedy when good people perish , innocent kids perish but the promise of faith is consloing that good people rise agian and the dead remain in the dust and God’s Will by such means separates good and evil……..MJM

Shayne Traviss June 29, 2011 - 3:12 pm

Thank you very much for your feedback!

Liza, i really enjoy your comment thank you so much for sharin!!!

Anny, to be popular with me was not the objective here…lol! to see what was offered up was… I don’t believe in running away from problems however if I am in control of my life and my experience, which I am and I feel it my choice to filter out the things that cause me discomfort without judgment from others, I don’t claim to have all the answers but offer up a platform for questioning and discovery. Here’s a question for you Anny… If it hurt to keep pricking yourself with a pin over and over again, would you keep doing it?

Margaret, thank you very much for sharing your opinion…however I/we do not wish to make this a religious argument but a platform for exploring a return to love!!!

Jan June 29, 2011 - 3:55 pm

When there is no silence, when escape becomes a way of living, we lose our ability to experience our own source of energy and peace. Hopefully, the awareness of why things have “gone wrong” will swing the pendulum back to truth and the knowledge of our own being as spirit expressed in this fragile, yet powerful human vehicle. We are meant to love and heal one another. The communication systems available to us now can be used to injure or to heal. It is up to each of us, individually, to “be the change” and carry our love out into the noise of the world everyday.

Shayne Traviss June 29, 2011 - 4:01 pm

Jan, love it… thank you for your truth!

Lisa Bonnice June 29, 2011 - 7:34 pm

Shayne, I loved your post. I’ve tried to cut myself off from the world like you have, so I know how joyful it can be to do so and how shocking it is to reconnect. Now I sort of keep one foot in both worlds, just to stay in balance with all that brouhaha.

To answer your poignant question with my two cents, I think that it’s not so much that we’ve gone wrong, I think we’re seeing the pendulum at the peak of its swing into imbalance between the masculine and feminine. At the risk of getting all “new age” on you, we are leaving the Age of Pisces and duality, and entering the Age of Aquarius and unity. We’ve tried matriarchy, we’ve tried patriarchy and we’ve discovered that neither of them works. So now they’re crashing together and the world we see is the result.

Fortunately, there are signs that the pendulum might be ready to begin its downswing again, with stories like NY’s recent vote to legalize same sex marriage, and all of these government “leaders” who no longer get away with treating women like garbage. I look at the deconstruction that’s happening on one hand, but then watch for the reconstruction on the other. This is what gives me hope. 😀


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