A Damaging Life Lesson…
My daughter came home from school one day; she was in 6th grade and very upset. She received her first formal warning ever, during Language Arts, for what she felt was not a very good reason. The teacher had asked the class to be quiet on several occasions that day; he finally told them that the next person to speak would receive a “Step” or written warning. Two seconds later, she asked him what page they were on in their book and subsequently received a Step. When she asked why, the teacher exclaimed because “life is not fair!” She told me he said that to the class all the time, it was basically his motto. It left her feeling very unclear and uneasy; I assured it is not true and the statement goes against everything we believe.
The truth is; life is actually neither fair nor unfair; it is simply what you make of it. The Law of Attraction means that life is made up of what you attract into it. There are many perople, especially adults, who would absolutely disagree with me and argue endlessly to defend their point of life being “not fair”. They are wrong but perhaps do not know enough to realize it. They mean well, I believe that when something bad or unpleasant happens, telling children that “life is not fair” is simply a way to help them cope or try to understand the randomness of the world. Nonetheless, it is harmful and incorrect.
The Law of Attraction or the theory of Quantum Physics is quite simple; like energy attracts like energy. Every thought we have and word we speak emits energy so it is very important to remember that, when it comes to energy, like attracts like. Therefore, if we posses mostly positive thoughts and speech about people and situations, we will attract positive people and situations and vice versa. Where it can get complex is when you become aware of your thoughts, every single one of them. You see, for most people, they are not aware of their very own thoughts. Many people are not aware of their ego (the negative, false voice relentlessly yapping inside our heads) or the subconscious beliefs it creates and therefore are not really aware of their thoughts and what they are potentially attracting into their life.
Becoming conscious of your ego and controlling your thoughts is a huge step in attracting what you truly want into your life. The ego loves negativity so a lesson like “life is unfair”, is an idea our ego would take hold of and exacerbate if allowed. The ego, however, is not stronger than your true self. Your soul is connected to the Creator and the highest power of love and nothing is stronger. Simply being aware that the random thoughts in your head, those negative messages, are not real is enough to smash the ego. The ego cannot handle the truth and it tends to become quieter once it is exposed.
Awareness is the key and intuition is the tool that helps you become aware. Intuition is why you feel uneasy in certain situations or even with certain beliefs you have been taught. It is our intuition that will help expose egoic thoughts and beliefs. When something is not really the truth on a universal level, you will know it based on the way you feel when hearing or thinking about it. So, when you hear a statement like “life is not fair”, ask a few questions of yourself. Does it make you feel good? Does it feel like a positive message? Does it make you feel uneasy? If you are silent and still, you will find that these types of negative statements do not feel right in the pit of your stomach or the center of your heart.
When you do not feel right it is because you know what you are hearing or seeing is not completely true, its energy is not aligned with the highest energy of God. In reality, “Life is not fair” is nothing more than excuse to dismiss what somebody may or may not have done in their own life to obtain their dreams or fulfill their life’s purpose. When somebody does not care for the circumstances of their life, such as a job, a home, their spouse, their family; they turn to declaring “life is not fair” as a way to understand why life has turned out this way. Instead of blaming life, examine the choices made you’ve and beliefs you’ve held; only changing those will bring about your desires. If you believe that life is not fair, you will continue to attract the same outcome that brought you to that conclusion.
Another use of this life lesson often comes up to explain away tragic situations. When a sudden death occurs or a natural disaster; adults often refer to the unfairness of the situation. In truth, everything in the universe is Divinely ordered; all is always as it is supposed to be in the present moment. Yes, tragedy can be extremely difficult to deal with and explain, especially to children. Yet teaching or thinking that life is not fair is a tragedy in itself. Sometimes explanation is not possible because you cannot possibly know everything that was occurring before a tragedy struck. You can never know what a person was attracting into their life; you can never know why a natural disaster occurred in a certain area. These are God’s plans and the reason is not for a human to comprehend.
You cannot ease sorrow over a tragedy with a statement like “life is not fair”. It actually makes it worse and sets up a self-sabotaging belief that is harmful and untrue. Misfortune is an important teacher and you should be allowed to examine it when it strikes. Sometimes it is through heartbreak and struggle that we gain strength and bond with others. It is through difficult times, like the loss of a job or home, that we get creative and try or learn new things and meet new people. If you have faith that all happens for a reason that you may not understand yet, you will make it through difficult times without the need to blame life or others for what is happening.
The road to your life’s purpose will not be smooth. There will be bumps and bends to teach you what you need to know. Have faith in God, in yourself and if you are scared or sad, remember it may be your ego talking. When something happens and you cannot explain it, don’t try and just have faith. Forget about fair and focus on life. You can either make it what you want or make excuses for it.
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