It’s been a tough go. A tough go that has all been created by myself. I have been so stressed out trying to accomplish unrealistic goals that I have manifested physical symptoms of stress. I think that realization is worse than having someone else to blame because you have to hold yourself accountable and take charge of your life to fix it. I realize that putting pressure on myself is stressful on the body and mind. It will eventually make me really sick. I am willing to do what it takes to undo what I have done and in the midst of figuring out what that is I came to three wonderful insights.
Time. What a small word with a big meaning. Time used to be my nemesis because I felt like the change that I wanted to see had to come sooner, that I was doing all that I could do to make it happen in a timely fashion but it still wasn’t happening. I now understand that we have a purpose to serve, that we need to show up to the dance but we also need to have fun too.
Pressure. Pressure can only be placed on ourselves by ourselves. Simply put, we are the creator of our own success. The only way pressure can get to you is if you lose focus of who you are and worry about other people’s definitions. It is unrealistic to expect that we concentrate 100% of the time on the pressure that we place on ourselves. This lifetime is meant to be lived. Too much pressure chokes the life out of living.
When I let go of pressure and time I was left needing to add in one thing. The gift of giving. I wanted to help children thrive so badly that I was losing focus on what really matters. Generosity of spirit. The law of attraction is a simple thing, you get back what you put out. If you want more money, give more money. If you want to help children through your book and work, then give your time to one of the wonderful charities designed to better the world. Volunteer more at schools, do what you can to help.
It all makes perfect sense to me now. I have got to look after myself and stop to smell the roses. I need to spend family time playing UNO and take advantage of that Sunday morning run in the rain. This life is meant to be enjoyed and we owe no apologies for that. Time is merely a thing. My husband and I met on a blind date 11 years ago at a little diner. That is an example of perfect timing that was not in my hands. It was always going to happen and I merely had to welcome it.
If I am successful it is because I define my success through my thoughts. I trust in my integrity and am proud of the work I have done. If I am successful I trust in the divine timing of life. It always takes care of us. If I want to receive, I must give. I can’t wait to see how I can help someone today. A tiny act of kindness goes a long way. Take it from me, I had a wonderful support system in place to nurture me back on track. Now I am going to go and pay it forward.
“If you take, you must first give, this is the beginning of intelligence.” ~ Lao Tzu
