“From the moment we are born, the most important aspect of life becomes relationship. Relationship is central for survival and for a sense of belonging and well-being. To understand relationship is to understand that this is what makes us human.
In the beginning we learn to relate to what is closest and most dear to our hearts and this is the love that a mother has for her child. We understand that relationship is an expression of love, a sharing of love and a communication of love.
Most of us forget this core aspect of relationship, as unfortunately our mothers are human and even though deep inside there is love the mundane and practical expression of this gets distorted and the child begins to need love rather than express love.
This sense of neediness is what our society has condoned as normal and acceptable. Hence it is difficult to see this neediness as it is such a core aspect of how we see the world.
A child gets frustrated when the mother needs time to focus on other things than the relationship to the child. This creates even more need and so the relationship becomes distorted and as the child grows older this distortion carries on to the relationship he/she has with friends and ultimately with the relationship he/she has with their partner.
I see the world today as suffering from a lack of conscious relationship and full of what I term “needy” relationship. I see this as the cause of many worldwide problems that aren’t always attributed directly to this issue.
Let us embrace conscious relationship in all its aspects so that we can release this neediness and allow our lives to become filled with love.
Written by Tony Samara
Sat Tony Samara, author of ‘Shaman’s Wisdom,’ ‘The Simplicity of Love Meditation,’ ‘Different Yet the Same,’ ‘Karma, Mantra and Beyond’ and ‘Discover Your Inner Buddha’ has been inspiring thousands of readers to discover inner peace and greater fulfillment in their lives, through the power and simplicity of practical Spirituality. At the core of his teachings lies the evolution of human consciousness, which in today’s world is vital for achieving deep, personal happiness, inner peace and the illumination of one’s inner quest.
5 comments
Beautiful!! Thank you Tony!!
As a mother of four children it is very comforting to read Tony’s words. Thank you for sharing Tony.
Yes, so true – I can say that cause I experienced that with the lots of bitter. And it is so good to know that and to realise the reasons of not having happy relationsship. That helps to do steps forward and to go away of the feeling that you are not good. Thank you and much Love:-)
Thank you! Your words are always full of Love and Wisdom!
Love and Gratitude!
Radha.
the problem for me , is not only the lack of conscious in the relationships , rather the lack of conscious in every moment that we carry or face it, about the life