At this time of year many make New Year’s resolutions, i.e. lose weight, give up smoking, get that new job, etc and these are all very good things to be doing. Some succeed with their good intentions, some do not. Last year I started my ‘health year’. It was good until Easter then it became a struggle. It had been hard work and I started giving myself good reasons to slow down with it. After all it has taken me 15 years to gain my weight why should I expect to lose it in 1 year. So although I am a lot healthier now than I was this time last year I did do a lot of backsliding. It is by utilizing our soul energy that we see the results in this life. How can we take advantage of this time and motivation to bring this soul energy to life?
Step 1 – Decide upon your top 3 core values. What are they? For example we often say our families and our relationships are the most important thing in our lives, yet how much quality time do we devote to them. A few years ago I took this to heart and my children and I have lunch together once a week. It is not set in stone but we all make that effort to make it happen. Sometimes it can be difficult, other things (usually my work) can get in the way very easily if we let it. Or going back to ‘losing weight’, if we really believe “the body is the temple of the soul” why don’t we look after it? It is much easier to believe it’s not. We manage to keep our homes in good order, spending time cleaning, decorating etc. If we don’t, they lose value when we want to sell them so we tend not to do so.
Step 2 – Put them in order. What is most important to you, where do you want to make the biggest changes this year?
Step 3 – Review what is practical and feasible. Don’t give yourself goals you can’t achieve. Lots of little steps will get you there.
Step 4 – Make that personal commitment to yourself, to be the best you can be in this area or these areas of your life and pat yourself on the back for every small step you take.
Step 5 – Diarize them. I know this sounds crazy but what usually lets most of us down is we forget. After all it is a new routine you are creating, a new and positive habit, and like breaking old habits it can take time to do so.
Step 6 – And when you forget and backslide, just smile and forgive yourself and pick up where you left off.
You may also like to consider creating a ‘Vision Board’.
It is amazing how simple fun tools can actually manifest into reality. Everything (bar one) from my last vision board has manifested itself. One or two took two years but they all became a reality.
f you have made resolutions in the past and failed to stick to them and would like ongoing coaching to help you achieve them this year and make that difference, contact me and I can tailor make the support you need.