Following my the radio interview with Denise Cunningham I decided to take the title further and look behind the scene. Denise is a Canadian writer, who’s inspiring book will hit the market on the 1st of March.
During the interview we talked about abuse, unhappiness and life threatening illnesses; in her case as personal experiences, that turned her life upside down and changed it for the better.
In Earth School we all go through certain experiences. Usually not out of choice but hit by the guidance of the macrocosm or as a result of careless planning. Some of us, like myself, search for experiences with the understanding that it is the essential part of the task and as a practitioner and counselor I would be able to provide tangible examples to those in distress.
Nevertheless, experience is what we need to fulfil the mission of earthly living. We all have one essential thing in common: the need for experience. That is what Earth provides. Experience comes through the physical body for every emotional, physical or mental effect would hit the physical body as the final. When one worries about something one would end up having a headache, and if carry on with it for a longer period one would experience digestive problems.
There has to be an understanding that similar energies would like each other. It means that an abuser would pair up with someone who is “willing” to take it. The likes attract theory works for the benefit of the partakers in every case for they actually mirror each other’s behaviour pattern. It is generally said that the abused is the victim because he or she is the one getting hurt either mentally or physically. Bear it in mind that mental abuse would result in physical disease.
However, there are always two victims in the mentioned situation and they are both driven by fear. Fear of not being respected, fear of not being loved, fear of new situations, fear of not understanding; in one word fear of life. The difference is in the projection of fear. One of them would let it out and other would subdue it. The mentioned behaviour patterns would usually come from upbringing or some sort of moral understanding of the role play in couplehood. The aggressors are usually males and the abused are usually females. Occasionally we find couples acting similarly, meaning that they are both subdued or both extrovert. They are in the more difficult situation for they feel “comfortable” with each other therefore there is no push to alter the way of existing.
Being in the mentioned situation, the first step to take is to decide upon getting out of the game. Only then one is able to see or invite possibilities for the future. These visions would mirror the level of one’s self confidence. The more one has the more open roads would be presented.
The next step is even greater than the previous one. It is the step, the first step on the selected road towards changes. To take this step one needs to understand that fear is an illusion, for it is projected to the unknown. This is the time when one has the freedom and the responsibility to change with the comprehension of living for the self and by having the courage to take the road to the unknown one would actually assist in the life changing effort of others. I mention courage here as the key to open the gate of your microcosm and expand it into the Universe.
This is the time when one definitely needs help of evaluation of the self through life. Help from an outsider who could point out the steps ahead and who could give courage by strengthening the present to become the bridge to cross into the future.
This is the time when the power of togetherness is the strongest. However, one needs to learn how to ask for help. Why is it important? By doing it one shows strong intent for the change. A determination to reach a better existence. By togetherness we help each other to create a better and happier place to live in.
Love and peace