Try is a tricky word. While most people have absolutely no issue with using the word frequently to represent objectives they’d like to achieve, there is an underlying energy to it that will prevent you from yielding the outcome of whatever endeavor you desire. To try is not to do; it is actually to attempt, struggle, seek or strive. There is a long held misunderstanding about trying and the time is now to uncover the truth, so we can change our language to truly align with not only what we mean, but what we want.
Most people cling to try statements simply out of fear. There is a subconscious fear that many have about succeeding in their dreams so it feels safe to use a word like “try” instead of stronger affirmative language like “I am” or “I do”. Trying puts completion of our mission in the future; someday it will happen so we do not actually have to embrace potential success or failure today. Furthermore, if we do indeed fail, trying has an excuse built right in; we tried our best but it did not work out. In reality, trying is an illusion. There really is no “try”, there is actually only DO or DON’T. You either do something or you do not; trying is passively making excuses not to fully embrace or do what you state you are trying to accomplish.
Anyone who has ever achieved a goal knows in their hearts that doing, not trying, got them there. Trying is not a natural state; trees do not try to grow, wind does not try to blow, sun does not try to shine, and so on. Nature is a doer; trees grow, the wind blows and the sun shines. The attitude of attempting is based in fear. People fear failure, change, success, the unknown, opinions of others and more. So often, we get so caught up in “what if” scenarios; that we actually create what we don’t want instead of what we do want, by attracting that negative energy right to us. And then we can use the excuse that “we tried” when it all did not work out as we supposedly wanted. When you set out to attain an objective from the basis of “trying” to do it, you are not fully committed and have already determined the outcome; you will not fully complete it.
Think about it, trying is passive and doing is active. When we fully commit to do something it is ignited with passion and faith; no doubts or worries will stop us. I lived with trying for nearly my entire life related to writing a book. I started many books over the years, always with the thought of “I’m going to try and write a book”. None of those early books were ever finished. It was not until I set out to author “Truth Works” that things changed. This time, I was fueled by enthusiasm and there was never any question that I would finish this book. I did not try to write, I wrote (and wrote, and wrote and wrote). And I will continue to write until the book is done, published and being read by those who need to hear its message. I am not afraid, so there is no need for doubts or worries. Whatever happens, this is my dream and I intend to see it through completely.
It is not always easy to overcome the desire to just “try” though. Our ego can fill our minds with lots of reasons why we should be fearful about what we desire. The trick to overcoming those negative ego notions starts with our language. If you start using the affirmative and active language of being and doing as opposed to trying and waiting, it will eventually become what you believe. In the beginning, you may still have doubts about your abilities, but the mere change in your speech will start to change the energy of your thoughts and actions. The impact of what we say, the way we describe and talk about our lives, is powerful. When I began writing Truth Works, I always talked about it as a completed project. I had a website, Facebook page and marketing plan all before the book was actually done. Writing it was secondary to its existence because in my mind, it was already here. Or course, I did the actual work of writing, but never did I try to write this book. Chapter by chapter, I did the work and wrote the information I wished to convey. When I got stuck, I took a break. When I finished each chapter, I celebrated for getting ever closer to fulfilling my dream. I do not feel guilty when I get stuck or do not meet certain deadlines that I have created; I understand that sometimes there might be other priorities. I set deadlines and sometimes I meet them but sometimes I do not. As long as I’m progressing I know all is well. I do not try to make time to write, I just write; even if I only have 10 minutes to write, I do it.
In the past, I used time as an excuse not to complete other books that I started. I squandered my free time by choosing to focus on other things (like television, chores, work or anything else I could think of). I would tell myself lies like “15 minutes is not enough to get anything substantial written, so why bother?” The message I most frequently told myself was that I was “trying to write a book”; which was not true. What I was doing was not writing a book; I was avoiding it. Instead of just being honest that perhaps the time or topic was not right for me, I made up excuses and chose denial.
Sometimes trying is, in reality, avoiding; which is done out of fear. Fear of disappointing others, fear of failing, fear of change, fear of succeeding, fear of anything and everything. Trying is a convenient way for people to never actually have to fully commit while claiming that they have; it’s an illusion. It’s important to understand that the language of “to try” will leave you always trying because to try is not to do; it is to attempt, procrastinate, avoid and languish. In the end, you are far better off in doing or not doing because there is truth in the concept of either of those choices; at least you have chosen and are being honest about why. Continual trying without effort, completion or energy is inauthentic; when we constantly try and try again we will actually never succeed.
Change the way you speak of your endeavors to exclude the word try; you either “do” or “do not”. Be honest about why and know that you can change that reason at any time. I am an Author; I am not trying to be one. What is it that you have been trying to be? Now is the time to alter your beliefs and know that you already are ____________________. So, if at first you don’t succeed, be honest about why, change what needs changing and DO IT AGAIN!
Gina Sendef is a independent Spiritual Self-Help Author and Angel Intuitive. Writing is her life long passion. Her first book, “Truth Works, Divine Life Lessons for Kids of all Ages”, is a self-help book geared towards reading age children, teens and young adults. The premise for Truth Works is to undo harmful affects that exisit when our children are taught traditional life lessons like “life is not fair” or “money is the root of all evil”. The goal of the book is to undo this programming at a young age, ensuring the subconscious belief system for our children is optimistic, safe and secure. When we address these destructive beliefs in childhood and expose their false nature, they cannot reside in our subconscious minds for a lifetime as the basis for our beliefs. We are left with the pure, positive and absolute spiritual TRUTH. The book can be purchased at www.ginasendef.com. She created Angel Works as a means to work with the positive and loving energy of the angels to provide people with guidance that will improve their health, uncover their life’s purpose, enrich their relationships and enhance their lives. http://www.ginasendef.com/