All Or Nothing

Where does the all or nothing way of thinking come from? Is it a lack of patience, frustration, determination, or maybe even plain old stubbornness?

An all or nothing standard is certainly an extreme that many people force themselves into.

How familiar are the following statements to you?

I’m never doing that again!

This is the last one!

I might as well eat it all, Im going on a diet on Monday …..

This happens to me all the time

I’m going to go to the gym everyday this week! (Great, seeing as you haven’t been in 20 years)

I tried that once before and it didn’t work so I’m not even going to try again

There has to be something said for allowing not just your body to adjust to a new activity but also your brain. Your emotional and logical brain must be given an introductory time to form an understanding, a familiarity, a comfort, and a connection to this new request.

I’m not suggestion you set the bar too low, what we want to do is eliminate the possibility of self punishment when these extreme goals aren’t met. (I’ll never, it’s impossible, or I’ve ruined it).

Reaching any goal should allow a reasonable level of acceptance that there are some grey areas and sometimes doing your best doesn’t mean being perfect.

Here are a few statements that would be helpful when initiating a change:

“I am committed to this decision while understanding that there will be exceptions.”

“These exceptions do not make me a failure nor do they represent a waste of my time”

“A recalibration, at times, will be in order and I’m up for the challenge.”

Healthy goals are balanced goals.

As you successfully achieve each step on your way to your final goal or desire you build a beautiful trust in yourself, a positive track record and a confidence that carries you on to your next dream.

Call today to book your session, because …”When you’re healthy, you can do anything!”

VividLife.me Contributor

Lisa Berry is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Certified Personal Trainer, Live Cell Analyst, and Certified Life Coach

Contact info lisa @graciouslyliving.ca or call 905 442 0973