• Look at the facts and make a decision
• Discuss it with our confidant(s), analysis the situation and make a decision
• Try to avoid the decision if possible otherwise follow other’s opinion
• Follow our heart
• Mix and match the above

None of the above decision making practises are wrong. When making a big decision which involves emotions or life changing outcome is involved, the decision making capabilities become limited because of our emotions.  Even when a decision is taken and put in action, we sometimes question or use ‘what if’, ‘only if’, ‘why’ scenarios.  When we start to question ourselves or/and our decisions, our actions seem even more difficult to stick to.

I remember not long ago, I had to make a big decision of my life and emotions played a very big role.  Because of those emotions, it was very hard to make the decision but even after I had made a decision, the ‘ifs’ came in to play and the emotions associated to my decision made it even harder to follow.

Next question is what happens to us when we are faced with a situation which requires our decision or change of circumstances.  Below is a processes we generally go through.  It is not necessary that we all go through every step or don’t go back and forth in these processes:

1-  Numbness

2-  Denial

3-  Depression

4-  Acceptances of Reality/letting go

5-  Testing

6-  Searching for meaning

7-  Towards success

At the point of dealing with the after affects of our decisions, especially when the emotions come into play, we can follow some simple rules.  The rules below are simple and doable.  These ideas are based on our thinking behaviour/habits and can help you stick to your decision?

• Remind ourselves to why we made the decision at the first place
• Write down the points to what happened for you to make the decisions you did

Important note: These processes will take time to come into effect so keep doing it until you have been able to reprogram your brain.

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Fear of making the wrong choice can freeze us into doing nothing; simply out of fear of thinking we may make the wrong decision.  Some of us really struggle with making choices in our lives but each decision we do make is a choice which leads us to the next step in our journey of life, and another experience to discover more deeply who we really are.  Every choice we have made to date has been  a constant unfolding that has led each of us, to who we are today.  The decisions we make open the door for new experiences filled with joy, fear, stress, peace, vulnerability and love and at the end of the day, they are all choices towards a movement of expressing our way through life.

When we surrender to the fears that come along with making choices there’s a sense of  freedom that arises in the knowing that you can’t make a wrong decision, it’s just  a choice which will provide an experience.   It’s all in the way we choose to view our life circumstances through our mind that makes it appear as if there is a problem with a specific choice we make or not.

If you listen to your heart when making choices and not let fear be the ruler of your decision making, you will discover there is no problem with making a choice.  Decisions which are not driven by ego and fear have a particular feel to them.  Take a moment to reflect back over the times when you have made choices in your life that resonated with your heart, the decisions that were not made out of fear –  how did your body feel?  I know mine feels free and joyful with an  undeniable energy that runs through it that simply says  ‘yes’.

Keep your life simple by knowing that the choices you make in your in life in this moment are perfect and there is no problem with choice when we live life in the moment – that too, is also a choice.

Honour your spirit and walk towards the journey your heart desires.

In  love,

Lorraine

VividLife.me Contributor

About Lorraine

Lorraine Wilson has been on a journey of self discovery for many years. She openly shares her experience with others and offers hope, inspiration and an invitation to “Keep Life Simple” through self inquiry.  She lives on the West Coast with her children.

Lorraine has been influenced and is incredibly grateful for the teachings of Gangaji, Adyashanti, Eckart Tolle, Pamela Wilson, Muni and His Holiness, The Dalai Lama.  She has worked in the field of communications and broadcasting for over 30 years and utilizes her communication skills as a program facilitator and provides one on one support to others who desire to investigate their life journey.

Stayed tuned for ‘Keeping Life Simple’ on VividLife Radio. The program will be an opportunity for everyone in the community to come together to discuss and be supported in the never ending discovery of who we truly are.

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