And yet, if you’re willing to let a breaking heart have it’s way with you, if you’re willing to pay the price of suffering the insufferable, what’s on the other side of that is evolution of the most beautiful kind.
Most people live in the grey areas, the spaces in between the dark and the light.
Most people try to avoid the lows at all costs. They aren’t comfortable in the depths.
Most people strive for equanimity and stability. They crave balance.
The thing is, we don’t grow in the middle. Very few moments are legitimately life changing, and the few that come along are almost always on the ragged edges. Sometimes those moments are unbearably painful. Sometimes they rise out of us on the wings of joy and elation.
Those moments that change us don’t happen in the middle.
Comfortable feels cushy, but it’s often a very stagnant place to live. Growth is almost always uncomfortable.
Your ability to feel joy is directly proportionate to your willingness to embrace your pain.
You cannot numb yourself to the things you don’t want to feel without numbing yourself to the best of what you do want to feel. Emotions come in a range and you simply can’t expand the range on the high end if you aren’t willing to expand the range on the other side.
There is great and immense beauty in the depths of a breakup or the sorrow of profound loss.
It is in those places, those seemingly dark places where many of us see ourselves for the first time.
You may feel lost.
You may feel wounded.
You may feel defeated.
However, your willingness to own all that you feel opens the door for something magical to happen.