Oprah Winfrey speaks with life strategist Tony Robbins about developing the skills to transform your life today. Tony lays out specific daily strategies people can use to overcome suffering in their lives, and how to manifest a beautiful state. He’ll also discuss his new documentary, “Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru.” Tony’s wife Sage also joins the conversation to talk about the insights they have discovered through their journey as a couple.
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I apologize for the suppression and rejection that you have endured since time immemorial. I am mortified by the myriad ways that you have been bullied and violated. I apologize for the savage and brutal acts of violence you have suffered. These malevolent acts are unforgiveable. There is no excuse, no justification, no point of redemption. At the same time, I am confident that they represent the archaic place that we have been, and not the authentic place we are going. In poet Susan Frybort’s words: “HATE is the abomination, not sexual orientation.” In the awakening world that we are co-creating, we are slowly coming to know the difference. I stand firmly beside you as you continue to fight for your right to the light in a still hateful collective. And I invite all other awakening humans to stand beside you, too. Please accept this apology from all of us. Please let my voice speak for the many of us who haven’t found our voice yet.
I apologize for the countless ways that you have been denied equal rights throughout these dark ages. I am sorry that your rights have been buried beneath a bushel of blame and shame. We had no right to deny you access to jobs you were qualified for, to the adoption of children, to marriage with your beloved, to innate human rights and freedoms. We had no right to censor, stifle and suppress your voice. Your right to equality is inherent in your very existence. Providence already granted you that when you were born.
I apologize for those who have assaulted you in the name of God. The moment someone attacks in God’s name, their actions are no longer sourced in divinity. They are motivated by hate, and they will not be shielded or excused by Providence. If only within their own hearts, they have sentenced themselves to a lifetime of perpetual damnation. Any religion that condones such acts is not a religion—it is hateism, and inherently Godless. There can be no peace for those who believe otherwise. None at all. They have forgotten the most fundamental requirement for a Godly life—compassion for their fellow humans. By exchanging compassion for hatred, they have given up their bridge to God. That bridge is one built from the girders of human connectedness. If there is anything to pray TO, it is everyone’s right to love who they love.
I apologize for my personal contribution to your suffering. As a teenager, I mocked and assaulted boys who were not traditionally masculine. I stood outside the St. Charles tavern in Toronto, and cheered on those who gathered for the annual Halloween egg-throwing at gay men. I used the word ‘faggot’ with scathing abandon, and often wrote it on the lockers of students who I had labeled as gay. Rooted in my own confusion about my father’s sexuality, my macho conditioning, and the misplaced aggression from a bullying family, it didn’t occur to me that I was persecuting you just as I had been persecuted in my own childhood home. I felt like I was confirming my own ‘normality,’ my own ‘not differentness,’ my own worthiness, after years spent on the periphery of society. I claimed my stake to something blindly called ‘normal,’ at your expense. I am sorry for channeling my self-hatred towards you—it wasn’t yours to carry. I had no right to dim your natural-born light.
I apologize for the ways in which you have been made a scapegoat throughout time. Like so many trailblazers who have brought evolution to our doorstep, you have been wrongfully targeted and vilified for things you are not responsible for. When some people cannot face their own self-hatred, they pass it onto others. When they cannot own their desires, they mask them with violence. Let’s make no mistake—many of these scapegoaters are not ‘homophobic.’ They are not afraid of the LGBTQ community any more than they are afraid of any other paradigm-shifting community. They are heartphobic—cowards afraid of living from an open heart. They have shackled their own hearts, sentencing them to a life behind bars. Their fear is manifest as hatred; hate that is both rooted in what they have been taught by like-minded others, and in their fundamental fear of opening their hearts to love. It’s too vulnerable for them, too courageous, too genuine. It’s easier to hide behind the armor of their conditioned hatred than courageously peel the layers and embrace humanity. Little do they realize that those they enslave, actually hold the keys to their liberation. By not embracing them, they have locked themselves inside of their own fragmentation.
I apologize for not being more invested in your struggle for liberation. I know something about being shamed and alienated—in my home, at school, as a Jew in the culture at large and yet I saw your struggle as somehow distinct from my own. But how could it be? Not a single being among us has not had an experience of feeling alienated in one way or another. Not a single being among us has not been shamed at some point in this lifetime. Yet we turn away from those who struggle for their own emancipation, as though their experience is different from ours. This just perpetuates everyone’s isolation— one back turned, leads to another back turned, leads to a disconnected, fractured collective. It’s time to recognize that all forms of rightful liberation are a shared human experience. When we liberate one group of us, we further liberate ourselves. Until each and every one of us rises into fullness, the collective cannot actualize its wholeness. I am sorry that I turned my back on your struggle. It was my struggle, too.
I am deeply sorry about those members of your community who left us by their own hand, because it was too difficult to remain here, under inhumane conditions. I am particularly saddened by those who left us before revealing and fully exploring their innate sexual orientation. Condemnation and absence of societal support forced many to bury and hide their desires, leaving them alone to live tormented and isolated lives. I especially apologize for the loss of the many young teens who felt they had to repress and deny their sexual impulses during the very vulnerable stage of adolescence. So many vital young lives lost, for no good reason. I have heard some of them referenced as cowards, ironically, by those cowards who made their lives so painful. It is the height of arrogance and insensitivity to imagine ourselves judges over a person’s decision to stay or to go. Only the individual knows what trauma they are carrying, what darkness blankets their inner world, what courage it has taken to stay even this long. Only the individual soul knows what path they have had to walk, and when their time has come.
I am grateful that you had the courage to own and display your truth, despite the overwhelming challenges that you faced. Your brave insistence on standing in your authenticity has changed this world, a world in dire need of transformation. Not only have you trailblazed a more inclusive perspective, you have set the stage for the next steps in human development. Without your contribution, we were affixed to the lifeless shackles of convention. Locked into archaic gender and sexual identifications, we could not even begin to glimpse the breadth of human possibility. You have offered us the ways to explore, embody and expand ourselves that we have been unknowingly desperate for. Thank you for championing a more expanded vision of possibility for all of us. If anything, society should bow down before you and thank you for supporting our emancipation. The real question is, how can we prove ourselves worthy of you, after dishonoring you for centuries… How can we regain your respect?
Gratitude for the ways that you have proudly liberated human sexuality from its closeted confines. It was much too tight in there for all of us. Thank you for expanding the field of expressive possibility so wide that it can accommodate everyone’s sexuality. You have not only blessed your own community— you have also planted seeds of awakening for evolving heterosexuals, who can now feel more comfortable exploring their outer edges without shame or self-hatred. By shattering traditional sexual mores, you have also invited us to explore intimacy with greater imagination. So many creative and spiritual doorways open when the body is free to explore and express itself sexually. Without true and complete sexual freedom, our entire species is held back from the next stages of becoming. And by celebrating everyone’s right to love who they love, you have created an opening for each human heart to find its rightful home.
I applaud your courage to walk hand-in-hand, man-to-man, woman-to-woman. I applaud your courage to share a kiss or a hug with your beloved in a public park, just as man and woman do freely. When society closed its doors on you, I applaud your efforts to open up new doors to your community—creating safe spaces to dance, connect, imbibe, celebrate, and enjoy one another’s uniqueness. I recognize that the battle is not over, but you have given us a basis for hope as we co-create a world that lovingly accommodates everyone’s individual truth.
Thank you for the courageous, pioneering work you have done to challenge traditional gender identifications. You have given us permission to break the fetters of our conditioning and imagine ourselves whole. I saw you beaten on the streets of Malaga. I saw you chased down the alleys of New York. And yet you returned the next day, to show your beautiful face. By doing so, you have carved a trail for those who wish to shed their conditioned disguises, and embody their true gender. You have set the stage for those who long to transcend gender altogether. And you have created room to roam for those who feel congruent with their gender identity, but wish to explore an alternative way of being. I admire you for boldly and courageously displaying your innermost gender on the outside, even if it is different from your biological form. By making our experience of gender more fluid, you have made us more emotionally, energetically and creatively fluid. The more fluid we are, the greater our opportunities for awakening and moving together towards wholeness.
I am grateful for your bravery. Bravery is a curious thing. There are two forms of courage in this world. One demands that we jump into life with our armor on. The other demands that we bare ourselves before the world. You have modeled both to us—fighting for your right to the light, and baring your vulnerable tender hearts for all to see. This is the mark of a true champion. Champions are not just sport stars and athletes. They are the ones who stand in the fires of their authenticity and remind us that we are all worth fighting for.
Tremendous gratitude for the ways that you have helped expose the cracks in the relational capacity of those who oppose you. In many ways, their greatest failing is a spiritual one, for they fail to understand that true love is sourced in divinity and entirely unconcerned with sexual orientation and gender. When you have had the highest form of intimate encounter—one that is soul-sourced and soul-driven—you immediately recognize that gender is entirely irrelevant. The soul doesn’t care about body parts. It has no interest in the form our earthsuit takes. It simply loves what it loves. The ultimate form is polyphrenic, an inclusive embracing of all archetypes and energies. The perfectly blended juice of divinity. Drink from love and see as God sees. And God comes in every possible shape and form.
Until we truly respect and honor everyone’s right to be who they are, there is no hope for this world. We will never actualize the divine magnificence that lives at the heart of each and every birth if we cannot explore all of our many facets. This begins with a deep regard for the uniqueness of each soul’s journey, for the individuated path that each needs to walk. You have modeled this with your support for each other, and in the ways that you have fought determinedly to express and embody your truths. I know it has been a tremendously challenging journey, but your courageous insistence on standing in your truth represents one of the most significant and luminous points of transformation since the beginning of time. It is my greatest hope that we follow your lead, as we move to the next stages of our human evolution.
I have a deep faith in humanity, despite all the reasons not to. It’s all too easy to give up, to stop believing, to turn away from the light. There is evidence everywhere that the darkness will prevail. But I am not persuaded. Even though we are so bloody mixed up, so blind to our wondrous nature, so afraid of the love that sources our existence, I can’t stop believing in us. We may only see glimpses of our divinity at this stage of development, but they are a harbinger of things to come. The way we overcome, the way we find our voice, the way we craft light in the darkest of tunnels, is a reflection of our true nature. This human spirit is unstoppable. Such a majestic species.
I look forward to the day when we can all meet one another in our true nakedness, stripped free of misplaced aggression, unresolved emotions, pain-induced projections, and the distortions of duality. For too long we have been on opposite sides of the river, the bridge between our hearts washed away by a flood of pain. But the time has come to construct a new bridge, one that comes into being with each step we take, one that is fortified with benevolent intentions and genuine self-revealing. As we walk toward one another, our emotional armor falls to the ground, transforming into the light at its source. And when we are ready, we walk right into the Godself at the center of the bridge, puzzled that we ever imagined ourselves separate. We are not just here together to keep each other company. We are here together to show each other God. And we show each other God by opening our hearts. The portal is each other.
To fully arrive, there is much work to be done. The transition from survivalism to authenticity as a way of being is fraught with perils and vested interests that seek to hold humanity back. We must be tenacious in our efforts. We must be perpetually vigilant. We must stand our ground and assert our rights with vigor. And we must fight—time and again—to re-define ‘normality’, as you have so bravely demonstrated. Normal is a relative concept. What is normal to a fear-ruled survivalist is a too tiny cage to someone moving from truth. As we move towards the outer edges of human possibility, our ideas of normal exponentially transform to accommodate our next stage of expansion. This is the nature of an awakening world—to continually stretch the canvas of normal until it artfully encompasses all the shades and colors of the human rainbow.
In support of this intention, I call on everyone who is seeking to usher in new, more expansive ways of being. Those who are endeavoring to test the edges of convention and break through the shackles of misidentification. I call on all of you to actively support one another in our collective efforts. It doesn’t matter if you can relate to another’s unique quest or form of expression—what matters is that we walk beside each other on the trailways of transformation in service of a more authentic world. Our unified efforts are the key to sustainable change.
I call on everyone to support YOU, our brave pioneers, our burning trailblazers, our Lesbian Gay Bi-sexual Transgender Queer, Questioning, & Curious community. Through your valiant efforts we have witnessed tremendous progress and profound triumphs. Yet there are still those endarkened corners of our collective consciousness that are waiting for the light. Do not give up your commitment to boldly embody who you are. One by one, these dark corners will continue to unfurl to the light. As awakening humans, regardless of our sexual orientation, let us stand in front, beside, and amongst you—honoring who you are in its authentic expression. As awakening humans, let us honor your right to fully shine as who you are, in all its glory, and let us celebrate that you are symbols of the freedom we all seek from limiting identifications. We march beside you, uniting our steps towards a more connective and enheartened vision of human possibility. Deep bows to your courage. Deep bows.
OWN: OPRAH WINFREY NETWORK REMEMBERS ELIE WIESEL WITH SPECIAL RE-AIRING OF HISTORIC 2006 INTERVIEW FROM ‘A SPECIAL PRESENTATION: OPRAH AND ELIE WIESEL AT AUSCHWITZ DEATH CAMP’ THURSDAY, JULY 7 AT 10 P.M. ET/PT
In Addition, Winfrey’s 2012 “Super Soul Sunday” Interview with Wiesel Will Re-Air Prior to the Special at 9 p.m. ET/PT
In memory of Nobel Prize winner and Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel, OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network will present on Thursday, July 7 at 9:00 p.m. ET/PT a special re-airing of “Super Soul Sunday,” featuring Oprah Winfrey’s intimate one-on-one conversation with Wiesel, immediately followed by the historic 2006 interview “A Special Presentation: Oprah and Elie Wiesel at Auschwitz Death Camp” at 10:00 p.m. ET/PT.
On “Super Soul Sunday,” Wiesel shares his thoughts on love, regret and abiding faith. And in the historic 2006 special, Winfrey and Wiesel travel to Poland to walk through the grounds of Auschwitz. Wiesel recounts his memories of internment and shares excerpts from his New York Times bestselling novel Night.
Cuddle: A Documentary: Why Nurturing Touch Matters
Join Edie Weinstein and Jason O’Brien as they dive into the puppy pile and explore the importance of safe, nurturing, non-sexual touch as a means of healing emotional wounds, meeting skin hunger and strengthening relationships.
Jason O’Brien, founder of Fast Lane Productions, is an award winning film producer, director, writer and editor, and has had a life- long love of movies after seeing the first Star Wars film. He has created numerous short films and award winning movies, including the recently released Cuddle: A Documentary
Join Edie Weinstein and Annabella Wood, a Unified Physics musing, award winning singer songwriter, handywoman, Truck Driving Mama, as she takes listeners on a road trip through the connected Universe in which we are all One.
Annabella Wood is a singer-songwriter, truck driver, handywoman, coach, interfaith minister and teacher of The Work of Byron Katie. In college, she was told that her belief in Spirit precluded her from becoming a serious scientist. She proved them wrong.
My children both went to a Waldorf school. Rudolf Steiner founded the original school for the employees of the Waldorf cigarette factory in Stuttgart. He used to ask the teachers, “Have you loved your children today?” He told teachers that part of their job, before they went to sleep, was to visualize each child in the class, and to see not just the current stage of development of the child, but to also visualize their highest potential.
This was, and still is, an incredibly visionary way to go about education. My kids both went to such a school. One of the teachers, to one of my children, clearly followed Steiner’s directions: she would visualize the highest potential of each child before bed. She was on fire with vision. All of the kids from that class are doing extraordinary things today. I would say that is so, because she loved them. She didn’t love them theoretically, she actually practiced love every day: loving her children in such a way that they blossomed. The other teacher, who was teaching my other son, came out of mainstream education and didn’t have as strong of a visionary background. And those kids didn’t benefit quite so much.
Loving somebody is not just a concept or a fleeting feeling. Loving somebody is a commitment.
We spoke about this in a recent Awakening Coaching Training Online session. I asked one of the coaches in training, who is also a mother, if she loves her son.
“Of course I do,” she answered.
Then I asked her what it means to love someone. What are the signs or symptoms?
“It’s hard to describe in words,” she said.
Love is actually hard to talk about. When something is real, but hard to talk about in words, then what do we know is probably true? It means that it is coming from your intuition, from your being, from what is natural to you. It means that it is probably not something that you have learned from a book, not something that you can understand, not something that you imitate from somebody else. It means that it is actually something that is rising from the innermost of your being, from who you are.
“I adore him, and I’m very proud of him, especially if he does things I have never expected him to do,” she went on.
Another quality about loving is allowing yourself to be amazed, to appreciate qualities of brilliance that did not come from anything you taught or gave. It is a feeling of awe. You are inspired and amazed.
“If I am very angry with him, I suffer in my heart,” she told me.
When you love, if you react in a way that you feel is influenced by your own emotional state, your love for the other causes you to feel pain.
But also, there are times where you get angry and it feels that it’s the right thing to do, it feels necessary. That is also an expression of love.
Loving sometimes include supporting the other to be more than he or she thinks is possible. It can include holding him or her accountable, and pointing out weaknesses or mistakes. It includes seeing a bigger vision than he or she thinks is possible. Sometimes it can mean popping a bubble and saying, ‘Wake up.’
Loving a child can sometimes include taking away things that he or she thinks are pleasurable. It can also sometimes include rewarding, and giving him or her things that give pleasure.
Loving somebody is a multi-dimensional experience. It has many different flavors and frequencies. You can’t love somebody from a set of rules: you know how to love somebody because it is natural to you. You know how to love somebody because it is deeply engrained in who you are. You are love. You simply have to shake off everything you think you should do or shouldn’t do, and that gives you the power, the natural freedom to love, to be tough when you need to be tough, to be supportive when you need to be supportive, and empathetic when you need to be empathetic.
Love is natural to you, it just needs a freedom to express itself.
Just as Rudolf Steiner encouraged his teachers to love the children in their classes, as a more important principle than educating or disciplining, so love is also the governing principle in Awakening Coaching.
As a coach, you are entering into a relationship with somebody you don’t know at the beginning. You enter the relationship to love them deeply, in a way that they actually feel loved. The governing principle is not that you do this and that technique in a specific order. The governing principle is that you let love determine what will serve that person most.
Everything we practice in Awakening Coaching (Radical Awakening, Radical Releasing, and Empowerment Practices) are all just channels through which your Love for the client can flow. Your Love is yours, your Love is not something we teach you, it is not something we have any copyright for, it is not something we have created. Your Love comes from within you, from your innermost being.
Because you love the client so deeply, you want the best for them. You have heard their dreams. When you read somebody’s list of what they most want to accomplish in their life, on that list is probably going to be the way they want to serve, be a good mother, or a good wife, a great father, or a good husband. That is tangible and touching. You hear their innermost dreams that they hardly dare to dream.
You also hear what gets in the way, the things that they suffer, habits that you can probably recognize from your own experience. You feel compassion for that.
You hear the strengths they have developed: they may been doing yoga for 25 years, they may have quit alcohol. You hear about all the disciplines they have put in place.
And then you hear why they have hired a coach: what they want to get out of coaching.
When I hear all of these things, I am overflowing with love. I am overflowing with the kind of love my student just described when talking about her son. Out of that feeling of love, not a love that is only cushy and supportive, but a love that can be firm, and direct, and hold the client accountable, out of that love I can always feel what is the best thing to do next.
A great coach does not ask “How can I do this coaching correctly?” but “How can I most love this person?” When you are really feeling that love, it is a fierce force, stronger and more authoritative than anybody else telling you what to do.
Out of that love you feel How can I most support you now? Out of that love, you have heard what the client wants from coaching, and you feel I really want those things for you, too.
If you were to say this explicitly, it might sound like this: “You have shown me what you want. I feel touched by what you want. Out of my deep Love for you, and my care for you, I would love for you to do these specific practices this week, to move you forward in what you dream of living into.”
You don’t actually have to say those words. A corporate client, for example, may feel a little weird if you speak in this way. To talk in terms of love might be a little difficult for some people. But essentially this is what is happening, spoken or not. Love is always the governing principle.
When I train coaches, I am giving them total permission and encouragement to be great lovers, more than anything else. I don’t think we can put this so overtly on our Awakening Coaching website, that we train people to be a great lovers, because that would sound more like a tantra school. But that is essentially what we are doing. We are giving you a space to deeply love people, so that love becomes a more authoritative force than anything else.
You learn to trust love to decide each and every step of the coaching process.
Ruth Weisberg joins Edie Weinstein as they discuss the idea that for some, electronics are more intimate companions than loved ones. She believes that we should be “heart wired rather than hardwired,” and that we are “seduced by devices,” when we would be better off seduced by other people.
RUTH WEISBERG puts the ‘multi’ in multimedia: She is a radio and TV broadcast personality, the producer and host of a cable TV talk show, “Storytime and Show ‘n Tell with Miss Ruth,” and a voiceover narrator and voiceover instructor.
Re-defining Yourself, Teaching Others How to Make Life- Changing Choices
Ryan Skinner joins Edie Weinstein and discusses his descent into addiction. At the lowest point of his life, was offered a hand up and pays it forward through teaching others how to make life- changing choices, as well as through The Ryan Fund to support orphaned children of addicted parents.
Ryan Skinner is an inspiring writer and speaker, as well as co-owner of Summit Financial Partners who has taken his own harrowing experience and reversed his fortunes and now gives back to others through his charity called The Ryan Fund.
Economic trends and the evolution of social media have led to a shift in the way yoga is being effectively marketed. The old model of packaging and selling a style of practice has largely been retired. Now, everyone agrees, the teacher is the brand. With this comes a string of inevitabilities that are at the heart of what plagues most professional yoga teachers today.
I don’t know when it happened but, at some point in the last few years, the amount of time I spend engaged in multiple forms of online content creation, distribution and promotion has begun to rival, if not overtake, the amount of time I spend teaching yoga. Wherever you look for advice on how to be a successful yoga teacher or center owner, there is always an internet marketing component. You simply must have a Facebook page, Twitter feed and, depending on what circles you traverse, an Instagram account.
I fought it for as long as I could. I remember arguing with my producer friend about why my website was not “J. Brown Yoga.” I said: “There is no J. Brown style of yoga. I did not invent anything and I’m not comfortable presenting what I do in a way that communicates otherwise.” He said: “Your website is not you. It’s just a way for people to find you. And your name is J. Brown. And you teach yoga. The google search to find you is ‘J. Brown Yoga.’ So, your website needs to be ‘J. Brown Yoga’…… period.” And he was right. There was no escaping the truth that in order to survive I would need to embrace the internet and its effects on brick-and-mortar business.
We are living in a time when the comfort that people once had with the corporate model has waned to almost nothing. No one wants to buy yoga from anything that feels like a corporation.
The prevailing knowledge has become that creating a logo-ed entity or product no longer works. The thing that people are buying is the teacher. The teacher is the brand. That’s why all the big companies out thereselling yoga stuff are primarily doing so through the personalities of individuals rather than through the old standard image of success. A personal connection to someone creates an emotional response that makes the corporation feel like a spiritual friend more than a strategy to obtain and aggregate information so you can be more effectively manipulated into shelling out your hard-earned dollars.
Case in point is a recent Gaiam campaign with the moniker #Everybodybends. It consisted of a series of videos, each featuring an individual person. The promos are intimate, filmed in a hand-held way, and spotlight truly genuine and inspirational teachers. They share their real experiences about important and meaningful aspects of yoga and how it has affected them in their lives. At no point is there any reference to any particular product or buying anything at all. Just a quick shot of the logo at the very end. They just want their brand to be melded with the infectious authenticity of the teacher.
The aim of brands is to project an image that will speak to a targeted demographic or market. When the brand is a yoga teacher, the line between the person and the public persona becomes inevitably obscured.
If your career is based on an image that is only really a moment in your life, or an idea about a lifestyle that you are hoping to create for yourself and others, then what happens when you change, or life doesn’t live up to your hopes? What happens when the image that best sells and provides you the most resource starts to betray who you become or wish to be? Most of us are just doing our best to make a living at something that we don’t hate. The prospect of actually making it happen with something you love is sort of the dream. That is why so many people are attracted to yoga as a profession. But It’s hard when that dream seems to become increasingly dashed by the bleak and harsh realities of an internet gone sour with the broken hopes of too many, and an economic system that is making it harder and harder for independent operators to navigate and compete.
I am a brand. I don’t feel that I have much choice about it. Of course, I could just do something else, but I choose to be a yoga teacher. For when something is your passion, when you see life better and enjoy everything more just because you get to do that thing, you can’t just choose not to do it. So, if surviving as a yoga teacher means being a brand then that’s what I have to be. But it has to include my flaws. It can’t be a glossy picture of something that isn’t me just because it sells well. And if authenticity is the thing that people want, then the brand has to be a true expression of that. My brand is me. Being true to myself only makes my brand stronger.
p.s. If you are an independent yoga professional looking for new ways to connect and share in mutual benefit then check out The Online Yoga Co-op.
Pretty much all of us experience frustration on a daily (or even hourly) basis. We get frustrated by other people, by ourselves, by technology, by work situations, by small crises that come up all the time.
You know you’re frustrated when you find yourself sighing, or complaining about people, or fuming about something that happened, or going over why you’re right and they’re wrong.
Frustration is normal, but holding on to frustration is not so fun. It’s not even helpful: if the situation isn’t great, adding frustration on top of it just makes it worse. Often frustration will make us not happy with someone else, and worsen our relationship with them. Or it will cause us to be less calm, and handle a situation less than ideally.
How can we calm ourselves and let go of our frustrations, so we’re not so irritated and angry throughout the day?
Let’s talk about why we get frustrated, and how to address this problem.
The Origins of Frustration
Where does our frustration come from?
It’s from not wanting things to be a certain way. Not wanting other people to behave a certain way. Not wanting ourselves to be a certain way.
It’s a rejection of how things are.
From this, we start to tell ourselves a story: she shouldn’t act that way, she should do this. And she always does this! Why can’t she just see that she’s wrong? She’s so irritating!
We tell ourselves stories all day long, and we get caught up in them, and this is where we dwell in our frustration.
A Guide to Overcoming Frustration
You can’t help frustration coming up, no matter how Zen you’d like to be. It’s natural, and so are the stories we tell ourselves.
However, you can develop an awareness of it. Are you mad or irritated with someone right now? Do you find yourself clenching your jaw because of a situation? Sighing? Complaining to someone, wanting to vent? Are you fuming? Arguing your case in your mind?
When you notice yourself experiencing frustration, pause. Just sit still for a moment, even just a few seconds, and notice your frustration. Notice how it feels in your body.
Then start to notice the story you’re telling yourself. What are you telling yourself is wrong with the situation? What are you saying the other person should or shouldn’t do? How are you characterizing the other person or situation?
Now ask this: is this story helping me? Is it making the situation better or worse? Is it helping your relationship with the other person? Is it making you happy? If it’s not helpful, maybe you’re creating your own unhappiness, entirely in your mind.
Instead, perhaps you can see this frustrating situation as a lesson in mindfulness, in letting go, in acceptance, in finding happiness no matter how other people act, no matter what situation you’re in. Every moment has a lesson, if we’re willing to look. If we open up ourselves to this situation, we can learn a lot about how to see other people not as we want them to be, but in the glorious messy beauty of how they actually are, without needing them to change.
If you’re learning from this situation, you can also see that the other person is suffering. Not in the sense of “life is simply miserable and I’m suffering in agony,” but in the sense of “something is making me unhappy.” Something is causing the other person to act “imperfectly,” because they’re conflicted about something, they’re frustrated themselves (as you are). In this way, you are both experiencing the same thing. You are connected, and you can understand how they feel because you’re feeling it too. They are behaving imperfectly, yes, but we all do that. That doesn’t make it right, but perhaps you can empathize with them, maybe even try to understand their story, where they’re coming from. Try to see how the way they’re behaving makes sense to them from their perspective. It does, you just can’t see it.
Now perhaps you can let go of your way. You want things to go your way, want people to behave the way you want them to. But you don’t and can’t control the universe. You aren’t entitled to getting everything your way. Other people get to act imperfectly, behave their own way, and it’s true that you don’t have to agree with them or love the way they’re acting, but insisting in your own mind that things go your way or people act the way you want them to won’t work, and will only make you frustrated. So let go! So “c’est la vie” and loosen your grip on the way you want things to be.
Finally, say “yes” to this experience. It’s perhaps not ideal, but what is? Say “yes” and embrace the way this moment is. Practice this saying “yes” on a regular basis, and you’ll loosen up on your clinging to things, you’ll start to appreciate what is beautiful about the present moment, and start to be frustrated less often.
This salad is so incredibly simple to make that even with the busiest of schedules you could still whip it up for lunch for yourself every day! Gathering and preparing the ingredients will take less than five minutes and then you will be enjoying it in no time! This salad contains a delicious range of ingredients that are all bursting with nutrients. Choosing this recipe for lunch is a great way to boost your energy levels and your mood as you head into the afternoon, especially if you have begun to feel your energy drop mid-morning.
Cumin is a super nutritious spice and, in my opinion, isn’t used nearly enough in cooking! It is most popular in cuisines from the Middle East and India, but it brings such a great punch of flavour that it can really improve a wide range of dishes, both in terms of taste and nutrition. Studies have been conducted into the possible anti-diabetic properties of this healthy little seed. The results of these studies demonstrate that cumin can help to reduce low blood sugar. Cumin has been used throughout history to aid the digestive process and ease indigestion. It is also rich in magnesium which you must obtain through dietary sources as the body does not produce it.
To make this salad for two people you will need the following ingredients:
1 ripe avocado, diced
1 cup of cherry tomatoes, chopped
1 cup of black olives
2 cups of pre-cooked quinoa
400g of canned chickpeas, drained
1 teaspoon of ground cumin
A handful of fresh coriander, chopped
1/2 a cup of raw cashew nuts
1 tablespoon of extra-virgin olive oil
A dash of salt and pepper
Simply add all of the ingredients into a big salad bowl and mix together well before serving onto two plates. It’s that simple!
This is a recipe from an upcoming course on my e-learning portal, The Flexi Foodie Academy – head there now to check out what’s already on offer!
Oprah Winfrey speaks with legendary writer and producer Norman Lear, who brought the groundbreaking and socially conscious shows “All in the Family,” “The Jeffersons” and “Good Times” to television, about changing the TV landscape and his life as a spiritual seeker and political activist. In the episode, they discuss our desire to lead more purposeful lives, preparing the next generation for the world we live in and maintaining our humanity. They also discuss his new documentary film “Norman Lear: Just Another Version of You,” and his first-ever book, the memoir “Even This I Get to Experience.”
Getting in Touch With Touch, The Essential Need for Healthy Touch
Entertaining and engaging relationship and sexuality educator, Marcella Lyles joins Edie Weinstein as they explore the importance of consensual touch that supports overall health and wellness and enhances relationships in all areas of our lives, as well as the negative impact of skin hunger gone unmet.
Marcella Lyles, M.ED is a Business Professional and Sexuality Educator, speaking on Sexual Health, Intimacy, and Relationship Wellness. The founder of The Skin Hunger Project and a Cuddle Party facilitator, she champions the cause of healthy touch.
Healing from the Inside Out, A Proven Detox System for Healing
Dr. Anastasia Chopelas invites Joyce Gerber to describe her proven detox system for healing ailments traditional medicine has been unable to heal even with their harsh chemical and surgical interventions. Her system allows the body to gently recover without violent side effects.
Joyce Gerber is good health’s best kept secret: highly trained with an amazing pedigree in nutrition, herbology, iridology and a variety of therapeutic massage techniques. She uses all these skills to gently reverse even the most stubborn of conditions.
I’ve lived this crazy feeling for so long— feeling blocked by some invisible forces that I could never quite explain.
Consciously, my beliefs are so clear to me that it’s stunning. I know what I’m all about, consciously.
Chances are, you do, too.
You know what you like and don’t like, you know that possiblities are endless, you know that you have so many abilities, you know you can think positively and work toward the things you want…
But, despite all I can say and know consciously, something was holding me down like weights on my ankles. Something would kick in and steer me away from the things I said I wanted when they’d arrive. Something would make me move slower when I said I wanted to move faster.
You know, that same something that makes the healthier diet start tomorrow, the exercise program sort of fall flat, the creative project never take flight…
If you want to know what that something is… you can look to your life to show you. Everything that’s in your mind is reflected in your life. Your beliefs- even the deepest, most subconscious- unfold in your universe all around you.
We all have core beliefs about ourselves, others, our abilities and life in general. The most vast and slippery and hard-to-pin-down beliefs are the ones that are subconscious. According to many doctors and experts and studies, it’s the subconscious mind that’s really in the drivers’s seat for a lot of life— up to 99% of the time!!! Whenever you aren’t fully “present” (awake, engaged in the moment completely) the subconscious is running things with very clear programs we’ve sucked up early in life that play like records through our lives.
Those patterns you’ve seen repeat themselves in life? That’s subconscious.
The self-sabotage that baffles you and makes you feel like you don’t have enough willpower or luck? That’s subconscious.
Deeply and completely take responsibility for writing a new chapter of your life and that subconscious will have new grooves etched in that support your wellbeing.
- bypass the old beliefs
- add new beliefs to the subconscious and integrate them into your life.
- follow with thoughts, words and actions that build a new paradigm of cause & effect.
So… let’s start with a question:
Where do you find yourself spinning your wheels and constantly sliding into behavior and situations you don’t want?
1.Be super-present wherever in life you’re apt to sort of wipe out. For some people, it’s vital to be extremely present in relationships to bypass old habits that are subconscious. Some people need to be dramatically present at work so as to not slide into automatic (and unimpressive) behavior. I know someone who was having a really incredible time enjoying sobriety until sleepless days with not enough food and exercise (all vital to stay present!) piled up and a torrent of unconscious behaviors – and addiction- became unmanageably present.
Presence is a practice.
How to be more present? Some ideas to start are very simple- sleep well, eat, exercise…. Try to avoid negative environments filled with destructive people. We are all more apt to show up where we feel safe and vibrant and thriving, so keep the energy in your space really high!
2. How to add new beliefs to the subconscious and integrate them into your life?
My not-so-secret-secret to add new beliefs to my own life is super-immersion for at least a month. When I want to make a change, I swim in it. If I’m working on a project, there are piles of books everywhere… I watch films and podcasts about it, talk about it… explore the ideas for myself…
3. Live it! Infuse your home with symbols of your goals, values and gratitude present everywhere you look. Keep a journal to stay mindful of your actions as you’re making changes. Fill up your life with the actions that support your new ideas… and as you practice, practice and practice them, things will expand.
There are all kinds of awesome tools to eliminate the negative charge and stored fear of life’s traumas, so many ways to change mental programming and break through blocks. The simplest ways are usually the most powerful: getting present, start infusing life with new beliefs and living them every day. Then you can get fancy with healing modalities and mind technologies (!) … but deciding to move through life with the simplest of this practice is quite stunning.
Here’s to living in harmony and without limitations…! xoxo Dana
It took me until I was 26 to realize that my parents didn’t know everything. Most people realize that in high school and go through a rebellious phase right around the same time. I was a little slow on the uptake.
My parents are both incredibly smart, accomplished, wonderful humans. But, they are just that: human.
I thought that I would finally feel like an adult when I turned 30. I didn’t.
Then I thought that I would finally feel like an adult when I got married.
When that didn’t do it, I thought for sure that I would finally feel like an adult when I became a mother.
I find that I still feel as though I’m just making it up as I go along. And I’ve come to realize that this is likely how I’ll feel for the rest of my life.
I’ve also come to realize that I’m not alone.
I’ve spent time with a lot of people who look like they really know what they’re doing: NY Times Bestselling authors, multi-millionaires, household name celebrities, pillars of communities, professionals with many letters after their names, etc.
These folks have two things in common:
1. In at least one significant area of their lives, they don’t know what they’re doing.
2. They continue to move forward anyway.
Realizing my parents and many of the other people I looked up to are winging it just like me could have been devastating.
I mean, if the people publicly lauded for their expertise don’t even know what they’re doing, is there any hope for the rest of us?
Instead, I found it liberating.
Well, if they don’t have it all together but they’ve still managed to become exceptional, then what’s my excuse?
Now that I knew there wasn’t some “Guidebook to Life” that I would be receiving at some unidentified date when I finally became an adult, I could get moving making my life what I wanted it to be.
Pick any person you look up to who you think has it all together.
I guarantee you they feel small sometimes.
I guarantee you they have self doubt.
I guarantee you there’s at least one area of their life where they feel lost.
What’s extraordinary about them is that, enough days to make it count, they don’t let these things stop them.
The internet and other kinds of media make it really easy to make things look a certain way.
It’s important for us as consumers to know that things rarely are the way they look.
And it’s important for us to use that as permission to keep at it.
No one is going to give you the rules.
No one can teach you a step-by-step proven system to rock at the life you want.
No one has it all together, no matter how it may seem.
I certainly don’t know what I’m doing, at least not in all areas of my life. And you know what? You probably don’t either.
I’ve yet to meet one person who does.
But moving forward, despite feeling as though you’re making it up as you go along, absolutely is.
So despite the fact that none of us know what we’re doing, we gotta keep on keeping on.
Sitting around waiting for someone to give us instructions to live the way we want to live and have the kind of impact we want to have is just silly.
Those instructions don’t exist.
Moving forward in spite of feeling like you’re making it up as you go along is how you figure it out.
I don’t know what I’m doing and you probably don’t either. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep doing it.
So keep on truckin’. I’ll be fumbling along right by your side, but making progress all the while.
OVER TO YOU:
Most of us are running around way too much. Say you bump into a friend you haven’t seen for a while and ask, “How are you?” Twenty years ago, a typical answer would be “fine.” But today the reply is more likely to be “busy!”
We’re caught up in e-mails, phone calls, long hours working, schlepping kids from here to there, and trying to match velocities with everyone else who has speeded up.
Whatever the particular causes may be in your own life, it’s easy to feel like a short-order cook at the lunch rush.
There’s a place for revving up occasionally, whether it’s dealing with an emergency or cheering like a maniac because your fourth-grade daughter has finally taken a shot while playing basketball (that was me).
But chronic speediness has many bad effects:
- It activates the same general stress-response system that evolved in the brain to protect us from charging lions, which releases nerve-jangling hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, weakens your immune system, and wears down your mood.
- It puts the alarm system of the brain on red alert, scanning for threats and often overreacting. Have you ever noticed that when you speed up, you’re quicker to find things to worry or get irritated about?
- It gives you less time to think clearly and make good decisions.
Even though “the need for speed” may have become a way of life, it’s always possible to make a change. Start with little things. And then let them grow. Honestly, slowing down is one of those seemingly small actions that could really change your life.
The Here are some ways to slow down. I suggest doing just a few of them: don’t rush to slow down!
- Do a few things more slowly than usual. Leisurely lift the cup to your lips, don’t rush through a meal, let others finish talking before jumping in, or stroll to a meeting instead of racing. Finish one task before moving on to another. A few times a day, take a long, slowbreath.
- Back off the gas pedal. One time, as I zoomed down the freeway, my wife murmured, “What’s the rush?” She made me realize that slowing down a few miles per hour meant arriving just a few minutes later, but with lots more ease along the way.
- When the phone rings, imagine that it is a church or temple bell reminding you to breathe and slow down. (This suggestion is from the Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh.)
- Resist the pressure of others to get things done sooner than you really need to. As the saying has it, their lack of planning does not make it your emergency.
- Find what’s good about this moment as it is, so you’ll have less need to zip along to the next thing. For example, if you’re stuck on hold on a phone call, look around for something that’s beautiful or interesting, or enjoy the peacefulness of simply breathing.
Over time, wrap up existing commitments and be careful about taking on new ones. Notice and challenge any internal pressure to always be doing and getting more and more. What’s the net bottom-line effect on your quality of life: Does racing about make you happier? Or more stressed and worn out?
All the while, soak in the ease and well-being that come from slowing down – and don’t be surprised if people say you look more confident, rested, dignified, and happy.
It’s your life, no one else’s. Slow down and enjoy it!
You know those moments when you hear a song or see a movie and it wakes up some deeply stored cellular memory within you?
This happened to me the other day. I was watching the movie Enough Said and the main character was saying goodbye to her daughter as she boarded the flight to head off to college. Before I even realized it my eyes flooded with tears, and I started sobbing with this immense sense of grief.
About 13 years ago, I left for college in San Diego, 2,000 miles away from home, when my Dad was in the final month of his life. He was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer 3 months earlier. For the first month of school, I was in denial, unsure of how to fully assimilate my experience as it was happening.
A month later I came back for his funeral. I was admittedly anesthetized from compulsively overeating sticky buns that morning, and honestly remember very little. Bits and pieces.
What I remember with clarity was the moment I said goodbye to my mom that day in the Milwaukee Airport. My dad now gone, our family home and much loved land being sold to the highest bidder, and my mom doing her best to keep it all together after losing the love of her life. I felt like my heart was being ripped from my chest.
This moment was the final piece that left me feeling without stability, support, or sense of home. I say final piece because the physical experience of losing my home and family as I knew it was secondary to a longer process of abandoning my body and my heart.
And so this overwhelmingly uncomfortable experience of “homesickness” began. For years this was the only word that accurately portrayed my emotional experience. What I realized was that this feeling of being homesick was there whether I was travelling alone in South America or back in Cedarburg, Wisconsin celebrating Thanksgiving with my mom and brothers.
The feeling eased with time and the more I grew into myself as an adult. Being in the mountains and in nature always felt like home. And then I found meditation.
I had an on-again, off-again relationship with meditation for years, studying under many wonderful teachers but never quite experiencing the full power of a consistent daily practice for more than a few months at a time. Many times I was doing it from a place of ego. Trying to get somewhere with my practice or create a particular outcome. It was one more “should” on my list of to-do’s that lacked heart and the purity of presence. It wasn’t until my separation and subsequent divorce that I truly experienced the magic of meditation. I was consumed by questions that had no answers, and the thoughts in my head seemed too great to bear. And so, I did the only thing that I could do to not go insane. I surrendered. I dropped into my body and my heart. And I felt home, even for just a moment. I’d feel the warmth of love, the comfort of trust, and the sense of being held by something so much greater than myself: call it Cellular Intelligence, Spirit, Love, God. And I’d remember.
There are still times when I forget, and my practice gets gobbled up by to-do lists, but every time I return to the practice, drop into my heart, and let my breath carry me back home, I feel whole again.
Here are some of the many reasons behind the magic of a daily meditation, contemplative prayer, or remembering practice:
- Meditation turns on the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the mode for rest and relaxation and the state in which all healing takes place. Most of us launch ourselves into the go-go-go-do-do-do mode of the sympathetic nervous system from the moment our alarm goes off and we reach to check our phones in the wee hours of the morning. We abandon ourselves in a constant state of reaction, depriving ourselves of the richness of being. If you want to heal health issues, persistent habitual patterns and compulsions, or deleterious ways of thinking and perceiving, then it is so important to intentionally create this sense of calm and peace in your day so that healing can take place on the emotional, physical, and spiritual levels.
- Next, when we meditate, we connect into the energetic seat of the self, which is the heart. We create intimacy with our heart, allowing it to soften and open. From this connection we create more meaningful relationships and experiences with life.
- We turn our awareness back to the pure experience of being ourselves. Many women I work with find themselves acting out of a desire to please others. They have lost touch with who they would be without this experience of constantly seeking approval and external validation. Meditation is a practice that allows us to remember who we are.
- Many times, when we are trying to change our eating or lifestyle habits, we find ourselves derailed by impulsive cravings and disembodied choices. In an instant of reactivity, we throw resolve and intention to the wind. In order to make empowered choices we need to slow down enough to realize that a choice exists in each moment. It’s only from a place of deep inner presence that you can learn what your body and soul actually need for healing to take place.
- Meditation teaches us the patience and skill of sitting with uncomfortable feelings, emotions, and impulses. Through a meditation practice we develop grace in the difficult moments by being and breathing without attaching to emotions or thoughts.
- We begin to start training that little monkey brain to stay focused and steadfast on the commitment and intention at hand. These days we’re so used to multitasking that our minds are no longer trained to focus and follow-through on one singular focus or intention. This has powerful ramifications for our work, our personal development, our creative pursuits, our relationships, and so much more.
Here are some tips to help you create a daily meditation practice or rediscover the juice within your current practice:
1) It only takes 5 minutes. 5 Minutes of silent, compassionate, mindful meditation is better than 20 minutes of sitting in a distracted state of daydreaming. If you feel inspired to go longer, by all means, do so.
2) Start by creating the container. Light a candle; use essential oils like rose, which opens up the heart space, or light some incense.
2) Everything you need is already within you. No need for fancy guided meditations. In fact, if your pattern is to abandon your heart space and dwell in your mind, I strongly recommend experimenting with silent rather than guided meditation. When we intentionally create the space to drop in without distractions and with loving awareness and curiosity, we create more intimacy and an easeful connection with ourselves.
3) Strip away the dogma and drop the push and force. Focus on the intention of bringing your attention back to the present moment over and over again. When thoughts, sensations, and feelings arise, just label them kindly and return to the seat of your awareness.
4) Make this practice your own. Not ready to sit on a meditation cushion with your eyes closed? Totally cool! Pour yourself a warm cup of tea or lemon water and take a seat outside in the cool morning breeze. Let yourself drop into your body, your heart, and gratitude for the present moment. Nourish yourself with the breath.
Now I know, I know, you might be tempted to read this and then discard it. To stay trapped on that little hamster wheel of ideas without action and implementation. I know the resistance you may be feeling. I know it well. After all, how can something so simple be so powerful? It’s easy to be seduced by complex, scientific and cutting-edge and in the process we often overlook the power of 5 minutes of presence.
This resistance comes up with almost every woman I work with. They want the fix, the perfect diet, the magical potion in a supplement bottle, the perfect morning ritual. And meditation is often the very last thing they are willing to try, feeling the desperation of hitting rock bottom. Because this practice, unlike following a diet or exercising more or reading this book and following that plan, actually requires us to surrender when we are addicted to a compulsion to struggle and control. But until we learn to be with ourselves in silence and with gentle, loving awareness, it’s very hard to heal our relationship with our lives. We continue to live in reaction to fleeting impulses and compulsions- overworking, overeating, binge drinking, drugs, numbing out to TV and the internet, struggling, resisting, judging – rather than acting from the pulse of aliveness.
Give it a try. Just for a week. And please do share any experiences you have below!
There’s always a wound that makes you do the work you do.
Some pivot point in your life where you made a choice—or a choice was made for you—and your soul gets a wake up call. The work you do is an expression of the journey to healing you took for your own soul. Sometimes you don’t see it until many years later, but it’s always there.
As I am perpetually trying to refine my elevator speech, recently it’s become clear that the thread that runs through everything—from my approach to yoga, to how I mentor, to the books and articles I’ve written, to the workshops I facilitate—is embodied integrity.
There’s a reason for this.
A week after I turned 21, precocious and optimistic, I got married. Not even a year and a half later, I had an affair.
The simple story is that this was my subconscious’ way of obliterating once and for all a marriage that, though I dearly loved my husband, I was not sure I wanted to be in. As I’m sure you can imagine, this was a complex time with a multitude of complex reasonings and ramifications, and there is much I could say about all of this.
But what comes to the surface now for me is how horrified I was that I was capable of leading a double life. For 5 months I schemed, wove stories and looked people I loved in the eyes and told the fattest, meanest lies.
I remember the constant fear I wore as a hard layer of armor on my body. I remember how I felt like I was walking right on the lip of the deepest, blackest pit imaginable. I remember I lost a lot of weight.
But I remember very little else. My memory from this part of my life is shockingly vacant.
There’s a reason for that. I wasn’t at all in my body during this time. I wasn’t allowing myself to feel. To feel the heartbreak and fear of realizing my life as I knew it was a total illusion would have broken me entirely. To allow in the sweet and joyful and loving moments was to invite in a wave of shame and guilt. And so I just numbed. Everything.
And in numbing (as I know now—thanks in large part to Mandy Blake of embright.org), I lost my connection to all the resources available to someone who has embodied self-awareness. Namely intuition, courage, empathy, morality and the ability to attune to others and to respond to situations with greater flexibility.
I mention all of this now because in the last few weeks (which, might I just take a moment to say, have been knee-knockingly intense) I reconnected with someone who knew me during this time in my life. I haven’t talked to someone who knew me then (other than my family) for nearly 9 years, and I’ve never had the kinds of conversations about that time in my life like I have recently. Perhaps you can tell in my tone that it’s left me a bit stupefied. I feel both unmoored and profoundly located at the same time.
As I’ve been reminded of things I had no recollection of and of things that I tried for years to forget, I am struck by just how very much there is to feel in this life.
I am struck by how acutely one’s willingness to feel is what connects that person to what is true—in themselves, in another, in a situation.
I am struck by how the most seemingly lost moments of our lives are inherently filled with the answers we need and the next steps, even if only one at a time.
I am struck by the intimacy and vastness and interconnectedness of the world and by the heartbreaking way it seems to conspire in the favor of our wholeness.
I am struck by an immense wave of gratitude that I got the wake up call to come back to my body and for the mentors, guides and friends along the way who have taught me not only how to do so, but also the benefits of doing so.
And I am struck by a deepening commitment (not without fear) of living with even more embodiment and integrity.
I wasn’t planning on blogging this recipe but once I saw the colour I knew I had to. SO PINK. I’m not gonna say too much in this post because I am in the midst of studying for my two final exams this semester. I have written nearly 11,000 words of notes so far. #proud
What can I say about this recipe? It’s very bright, yummy and good for your bod. It takes 5 minutes to make and tastes like earthy sweet sunshine. If you don’t like beets, you will not like this smoothie. If you do like beets, you will love this smoothie. In other news: WHO ELSE WATCHES BROAD CITY!? Holy crap. I cannot get enough. This week I’ve basically organized my days into study sessions and break sessions (like type up notes from two lectures, eat, orally review notes, break time for an hour) and my breaks usually consist of a glass of [organic and on sale] red wine and Broad City. It’s HILARIOUS and makes me wanna get back into doing random weird stuff in the city with my best friend who has the same name as me. We are a power couple.
I am excited for school to be over for the summer because I wanna go camping, meet new people, lie in the sun doing nothing A LOT, and explore the province more. That being said, I love university and am tempted to look at the summer courses being offered just so I can keep on goin with this learnin thing. It’s fun and useful. Talk later, babes. Xxoo
BEET + BERRY SMOOTHIE
1 peeled, chopped beet
1 cup frozen raspberries
1/8 teaspoon vanilla powder
2 cups almond milk
Blend it all up until smooth and delicious. If you wanna add other ingredients, go right ahead.
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Refuge Recovery, Addiction Recovery Through Mindfulness
Best-selling author and teacher, Noah Levine has taken his own experience of moving through anger and addiction, transforming it into a healing force for others. He speaks about Refuge Recovery, which is a mindfulness-based addiction recovery program and community that utilizes Buddhist philosophy as the foundation of the recovery process.
Noah Levine is a dynamic meditation teacher, lecturer, best-selling author and addiction counselor whose unique philosophies align with Buddhism and Psychology, and the founder of Refuge Recovery treatment centers, which helps individuals heal from addiction through communities and treatment options.