READ: APOLOGIES TO THE DIVINE FEMININE (from a warrior in transition) by Jeff Brown

I apologize for my inability to distinguish the benevolent warrior from the heartless warrior, a reflection of my own confusion dealing with the battlefields of yore. When I opened my heart too wide, I was vulnerable to attack from warring factions. I was conditioned to believe that I had to stay rigid, focused, prepared for any eventuality, in the desire to protect myself and others from attack. But I went too far, and closed too tight, and eradicated the bridge between our hearts. I am seeing this now and I am sorry.

I apologize for my perpetual absence, a reflection of my own inner absence, my inability to connect from a heart jammed tight by unresolved emotions that I did not have the tools to work through. I still lack many of these tools, but I am open to their emergence.

I apologize for my inability to distinguish relationship from war. Like a warrior in enemy territory, I would sneak in and out of your life in the night, plundering and selfishly taking what I needed, then crawling back to the other side of the abyss with the spoils. I gave little back for fear that I would become vulnerable to attack. I had war on the brain and I could not see the river of love waiting on the other side of the battlefield. I now recognize that love is the antidote for the armoured warrior, but I could not drink the antidote in my driven state.

I apologize for not seeing you, my eyes blinded by congealed rage and unshed tears. If it is any consolation, and I imagine it is not, I could not see myself either. I saw only that which served my hyper-vigilance, my warrior focus. My mirror was a battlefield.

I apologize for my ungrounded materialism, my power driven tyrannies, my obsession with accumulation. Somehow I imagined that accumulation would protect me and those close to me, but I failed to recognize that it just perpetuated the madness. I also apologize for my egoic abuses, a reflection of my own misguided ego, pumped up to deal with an inherently competitive world. I couldn’t distinguish the healthy, confident ego from the cocky, unhealthy ego. I went much too far in the wrong direction.

I apologize for a sexuality that was objectifying and disconnected from the heart. I know you longed for real intimacy, a merging of our souls along the heart-genital highway. But there were too many defences around my heart, and no bridge could form between our souls. There were moments when your loving ways freed me from my body masks, but I had no template to stand in that heart-fire. I am sorry for this, for I know that the path you longed for was the path to God.

I apologize for my horrifying acts of violence, a reflection of my own congealed rage, my own inability to distinguish real enemies from friends. There are no words that can undo what I have done in those moments of madness. I know this, I do. I would hide my face in shame, but that won’t make things better. I need to own my misdeeds, and then find a way to believe in my capacity to move from a more loving place. I call out to other male warriors to be accountable for the actions of our gender, not in a way that is self-hating, but in a way that is courageously self-honest and genuinely compassionate. The heartfelt warrior acknowledges the error of his ways, and has the courage to do all he can to make amends over time.

I apologize for my inability to develop a conscious relationship. You were right there with your beautiful heart on your sleeve but I was too attached to my individualism and afraid of this unknown terrain. I know the forests, the marketplace and the ways of the outer world so well, but my inner geography is foreign to me. You called me to a place I was ill-prepared to go, although I sensed, below the surface of my bravado, that you called me home.

I am grateful for your willingness to believe that who I was in those rare moments of vulnerability was the real me. You were right- the real me lives inside of my heart- but a few moments now and then was the most I could handle. I saw you as dangerous, for in your presence I began to taste a surrendered way of being. Nonetheless, your faith in my goodness kept me going through many a battle, and restored my faith in life when I most needed it. You were the light at the end of a barbaric tunnel, and I am blessed.

I am grateful that you stuck with me through thick and thin, and I also understand those times you had to give up and let go. I now recognize that there is meaningful difference between a love-ship and a relationship. Love alone is not enough. Without a shared willingness to become conscious, there can only be frustration. I was so often impossible, clinging to my unconsciousness like a soldier clings to his weapons. I recognize the courage it took for you to keep your heart open in the presence of my resistance. You had every right to seek an authentic relationship, as your spirit was ignited in its presence. Your beautiful heart had every right to be met in its openness and willingness. I am grateful for the time you gave me, a moments respite from the hiding places I mistakenly called home.

I am grateful for Grandmother, for no one saw my tenderness more clearly. I am grateful for Mother, for choosing to bring me into being and for nourishing my body until I could find my feet. I am grateful for Mother Earth, for grounding my expansion and enlivening my spirit. I am grateful for the Divine Mother, the real Mother of us all. I now feel her divine presence, so close. Fiercely compassionate, she was always right here, breathing life into me, holding me safe. I sit in her lap as she breathes me.

I look forward to the day when the only thing that ignites relationship is two souls calling out to one another, two soul-hearts beating in the same direction, a whisper of longing that bridges one essence to another. I want to want you not because it gratifies my ego, not because you are outwardly beautiful, but because your very presence invites my Godself out of hiding. I want to touch you with my heart on my sleeve, to know chemistry between us that is not gender identified, but that is essence sourced, loves liquid lava flowing from the heart to the genitals to the great beyond. In this love-struck world, relationship will always be experienced as spiritual practice, a devotional expression of our God-self.

I had always believed that sensitivity is impossible to hold to in a harsh world. Yet in this moment, I feel sensitive, but without the fragility. I am still wearing armor but there is a shift in the direction of my intensity. I can linger in the heart-space a little longer than I once could, I am softening in places. After so many lifetimes with weapon in hand, a tenderling warrior is being birthed in the core of my being. He is confused, but he intuitively knows that this is the way home.

Please don’t give up on me or my fellow warriors. Forgive us our misdeeds, or, at the least, be open to the possibility that we will change as the trail expands to meet our shifting intentionality. The day will come when our warrior spirit loses its harsh edge, and comes into alignment with benevolent action. Some of us are already there, and many more of us will follow. The road to transformation is dependent on a bridge between genders, a benevolent bridge that celebrates our differences with respect and kindness. That work must begin with healing the rifts along the gender continuum, working hard to heal the collective heart until one day we can stand on a bridge across forever, hands held together, hearts open and alight, embracing the sacred masculine and divine feminine living at the heart of us all. I will meet you there.

May you feel the love of the Divine Mother crashing down on your heartfelt shores, graciously lifting you up above the madness of the world, nestling you in the grateful arms of those you have nurtured. Those of us who have received your blessings may not always acknowledge it, but your acts of love have landed within us, growing us stronger and infusing us with love’s light. Thank you.

~A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of “Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation,” recently published by North Atlantic Books. Endorsed by authors Elizabeth Lesser and Ram Dass, “Soulshaping” is Brown’s autobiography — an inner travelogue of his journey from archetypal male warrior to a more surrendered path. You can connect with his work at www.soulshaping.com

 

 

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READ: The Global We-Believe and Achieve

“Be THE CHANGE you want to see”

“Se el Cambio Que Quieres Ver “ 

Gandhi

 

Sergio Jimenez Campos wanted to change the world. Quite an aspiring task and definitely something most of us dream of doing, yet a lot of work to take on for one man. From the beautiful country of Costa Rica, Sergio would search the internet, looking for peace projects that he could get involved in. After posting a few of his beliefs of peace on a blog, Gordon Millar from Scotland read and felt that Sergio would be a perfect co-founder and co-creator for The Global We. With a diverse set of individuals, Gordon and his team were convinced that people can join from all over the world to discuss ways and implement systems to make the world a better place. Along with Martin Aelred from Scotland, Kumud Singh from India and Cat Forsley from Canada, the Global We was born.

 

“Never doubt that a small group of people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead

 

The Global We was formed quickly in 2009 from a group of determined people from literally all points of the globe. With this diversity, they can touch many, but what projects did the Global We take on? To sum it up, all of them. Through YouTube and other forms of social media technology these individuals start creating videos to reach out to strangers across the globe, sharing in issues such as plastic production, wars and the importance of the reconnection of human kind. They started receiving emails internationally asking for help on emotional and personal issues. Members of the Global We would answer based on their personal experience. Sergio asserts that personal experience in life can “provide a lot of light in the fire” of others.  With no money invested and a lot of love, the Global We quickly touched the hearts and minds from all corners of the earth.

 

“The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.” Albert Einstein

 

The Global We quickly became attached to issues in regards to mass pollution. Causes such as “We all share one planet” include the problems with plastic in our era. The Global We stresses that the world must learn how to use it wisely since its overuse can affect our eco system. Let us leave the planet to our children in better shape than we received it! Sergio believes that one should “be the change they want to see” instead of waiting for someone else to do it, use your own two hands to become that change.

 

How does the Global We work with each different culture, religion and creed around the world?  The answer again is simple. Embrace the difference and find commonality between the barriers. Uniting for a cause to make the world a cleaner and overall better place to live is a universal language that stems across each country, through each person. To reach this international fan base, Sergio himself speaks English, Spanish and Portuguese. He has friends and family around the planet, and with his coworkers they are able to reach their fan base in India as effectively as in England. This effectively aids in improving their global communication and increases the creativity of new ideas and the support from each incredible person from around the planet. This helps the Global We handle their huge fan base around the world in many languages.

“Remember, intentions are the first part of an Action. Motivation is basic for our First Step ” Sergio ´Checho – Che-bro´ Jiménez Campos

 

What does the future hold for the Global We? Sergio insists that the future is created by every step we take. He encourages individuals to grow their own personal gardens, keeping our neighbours healthy. Mother Nature can heal us, so we must be her caretakers to ensure her safety. Over time, the Global We has connected with Ipeace, Costa Rica, Edinburgh, India and California’s Global centers of Peace and Progress to share ideas and thoughts on the commitment to peace.

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READ: A Season of Spirit by Gina Sendef

‘Tis the season to be?  This time of year is a special one for many reasons; be they religious, personal, familial, celebratory.  Whatever the case, the holiday season is different from the rest of the year.  For many, it is a happy time, for some it is a lucrative time and for lots it is a stressful time.  Whatever this time of year has meant to you in the past; this year, let it also be a season of spirit.

Take the opportunity to form a deeper connection with our Creator and the angels.  In the story of Jesus’ birth, angels played a vital role as the messengers of his arrival.  Today, they are still trying to reach us, sending messages of love.  Let this be the season that you allow yourself to receive those messages and feel the loving presence of the Divine.

We are not alone; we are all surrounded by love every moment of every day.  It is there if you choose to see and feel it.  Often, we are filled with anger, resentment, sadness, irritation and other distractions that block our ability to sense this Universal love.  There is a way back to it if you choose to follow it.  Living in gratitude will align you with your higher self who only knows love.

Find at least one thing for which to be grateful every waking hour of every day this holiday season.  Keep a List of Thanks and write down your gratitude discoveries.  Soon, you will raise your vibration and begin to see and feel the Divine love of the Universe and your angels.  When you embrace a season of spirit, yours will surely begin to shine!

Gina Sendef is a independent Spiritual Self-Help Author and Angel Intuitive. Writing is her life long passion. Her soon to be self-published first book, “Truth Works, Divine Life Lessons for Kids of all Ages”, is a self-help book geared towards reading age children, teens and young adults. The premise for Truth Works is to undo harmful affects that exisit when our children are taught traditional life lessons like “life is not fair” or “money is the root of all evil”. The goal of the book is to undo this programming at a young age, ensuring the subconscious belief system for our children is optimistic, safe and secure. When we address these destructive beliefs in childhood and expose their false nature, they cannot reside in our subconscious minds for a lifetime as the basis for our beliefs. We are left with the pure, positive and absolute spiritual TRUTH. She created Angel Works as a means to work with the positive and loving energy of the angels to provide people with guidance that will improve their health, uncover their life’s purpose, enrich their relationships and enhance their lives. http://www.facebook.com/pages/Truth-Works-by-Gina-Sendef/179796375389186

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READ: Keep the Money Peace

Keep the Money Peace
How to create peace out of potentially difficult money situations this holiday season

By Christine Arylo

When you get down to what separates great, long-lasting partnerships from ones that start with the best intentions but fizzle out over time, there are a few very basic rules and behaviors that while seemingly common sense, most people don’t have a clue how to go about.

One of the most vital is HONESTY. When life is smooth, honesty is easy. It’s when the bumps come up that the temptation to fib, to disguise or avoid the truth seem like the simplest path. But over time, little lies  build to bigger lies and resentment – neither of which you want hanging around your relationship.

Especially with the holiday’s coming up, you could find yourself in all kinds of sticky situations that take your peace on earth and turn it into a whopping fight.

Here are some simple ways to make sure you keep Money Peace flowing in your relationships this holiday season:

Say You…

• Spend a chunk of change without consulting your partner
• Blow the budget you both agreed to
• Put something on credit when you’ve agreed you are paying off your debt

What NOT to Do…

1. Hide the bill and pray he/she never finds out.

2. Feel guilty, wait for them to figure it out and beg for forgiveness.

3. Sneak your misdemeanor into another conversation or get to them while they are busy or distracted.

4. Fess up but slough it off as not a big deal, you’ll find the money somewhere, after the holidays!

To Create Money Peace…

1. Admit to yourself that you acted outside of the agreements you had with your partner. You have to accept responsibility with yourself that your action was outside of either a stated or implied agreement (we always recommend having explicit agreements about money choices.) Face the music. Say out loud to yourself, “I chose to XX and I know that my action was outside of our agreements / expectations of each other.” And then take a deep breath (don’t skip the breath, it’s important to releasing your own emotions!) Coming clean with yourself will feel good and erase some of the guilt or apprehension. You can’t be honest with your partner if you aren’t first honest with yourself.  

2. Plainly and succinctly take responsibility with your partner and then tell them the facts.  This is not the time to go into some long story to justify your actions. Just own what you did, not with guilt but with honesty. First, ask for his/her attention to talk about something important. Second, state that you broke an agreement. And third, tell them the specifics. “Joe, I broke our agreement about making big purchases without talking to you about it. I bought XX today for $XX.” Then shut up.

3. Let your partner react. Before you get to the “Why” (which in your mind may either have been a good or bad reason) your partner will need to have their emotional response. Seriously, it’s the least you can do. Your job is just to listen. Let them have whatever feeling they have. Don’t try and defend yourself, unless you want to create a fight. This is also not the time to explain why. Just listen. If in your partner’s reaction, they ask why, include your response as part of step four, after you own it. (Note to Partner… You are allowed to honestly react but not to bludgeon, scream, attack, tear apart or try and make your partner – who is trying to be honest with you — feel guilty or ashamed. You can be angry but you still owe this person your respect and unconditional love. Be angry at the action, not the person… and DON’T take it personally, their action was not a personal attack on you.)

4. Own your action again, apologize for breaking the agreement and then, finally, you can share… not your defense but your heart.  Your simple response is, “You are right. I acted outside of our agreement. I am sorry.” Let that apology land. Then take a breath and say, “I’d like to share why I made this decision…” and then share with them, from your heart what motivated you to make the choice to spend money this way. Be vulnerable. Do not get defensive. Do not bring up any of their actions from the past to throw in their face. Remember, the two of you are on the same side, and have committed to helping each other be the best people you can be.

5. Create Conscious Next Steps.

          i.  Discuss the “Now what?” Come to agreement on how you manage any financial stress this may cause, and work together to make it work.

         ii.  Create an agreement or modify the previous one. Converse about what really works for you both and talk about it until you both feel really good.

        iii.  State your agreed to expectations out loud. This will make sure there is no confusion, and will eliminate the need for any secrets.

And my favorite last step to this whole process…

Pinky Swear on your agreement and then seal it with a smooch!

SPECIAL WAY TO AMP UP YOUR MONEY PEACE… Keeping the Money Peace isn’t always easy, but it is doable when you have the right mindset and some simple Money Zen skills of your own. To amp up your Money Zen skills, check out a MONEY PEACE POW WOW between Christine Arylo and her Money Dream Team – a spiritual minister, a Harvard PhD Economist, a serial entrepreneur and a MBA former financial analyst.  Anyone can listen and discover how to kick money fear out of your relationship and your life.  GO HERE TO ACCESS THE CALL

 

About Christine

Christine Arylo, an m.b.a. turned writer, speaker and teacher, is an inspirational catalyst who teaches people how to put their most important partnership first, the one with themselves, so that they can create the love and life their hearts and souls crave. The popular author of Choosing ME before WE, Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love www.mebeforewe.com, Arylo is known as the “Queen of Self-Love.” She created Madly in Love with ME, the international day of self-love (Feb 13), dedicated to making self-love a tangible reality for women and girls around the world. Check out her free Self-Love Kit at  www.ChooseSelfLove.com

 

 

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