I feel so blessed to have had so many wonderful opportunities so far this year but they didn’t come without some healthy reminders of how going from busy to out of balance can quickly take a toll physically, mentally, and emotionally. Thankfully, however, teaching my programs to others can be a much-needed wake up call to walk my talk and stay in alignment with what I am sharing.
There I was taking on job after job, grateful for every one of course, and I didn’t notice the moment when gratitude turned to exhaustion. I was teaching the value of clarity and finding peace and I had NONE! When I realized that I had created the dizziness all by myself I began to put boundaries back in my life.
I took a look at what I was doing that was really not necessary, let go (which has always been a challenge for me because I hate to let anyone down which is another book or blog altogether), and slowed down.
Here are a few ways that I went from spinning to twirling…
1. Drop the “Super” cape! Prioritize and delegate:
I found myself waking up each morning and attempting to tackle everything that was in front of me. Traveling from city-to-city made it challenging to keep up with emails, text messages, and social media much less writing, speaking, appearing on TV, and most importantly, being present and supportive for my kids. By the time I got through the end of the day (did you catch the phrase “got through”?) I was exhausted, depleted, and struggled to sleep. Why? All the things I didn’t do that day which were were creating anxiety.
The funny part of this whole thing is that I was doing exactly what I tell my clients not to do, take on the world. The good news is I knew the difference and it was time to STOP! I created a to-do list each morning. On one side of the paper I wrote down everything I felt I had to do. I drew a line down the center of the page and on the right side of the page I wrote what I really did not HAVE to do. I found people to help me with the projects that I did have so that I wasn’t taking on the world alone. Even if it means asking a family member to pick up the kids or telling your client that it will be a few more days until you are able to finish a project. We put so much pressure on ourselves when in reality it’s okay to let go and be honest that you need help or more time.
2. Say NO.
This is a biggie for me! I am a nurturer and a caretaker who doesn’t want to let people down. I have so many wonderful people in my life and clients who I always want to be here for. Unfortunately, I have a tendency to put myself on the back burner which leads to what? Exhaustion and burnout!
Saying no is actually a gift we give ourselves and others. I have realized that when I turn down work, or a night out when I really should rest, it is the best form of self-respect and self-love. No one wants to be around you if you’re cranky and pooped…and if you try to cover it up it people still feel it in your energy. What can you say no to on a daily basis?
3. Listen to your Gut!
Your intuition is that feeling or little voice talking to you saying, “I don’t feel good about this, something isn’t quite right here and I just can’t pin point it.” The good news is you don’t have to pin point it. Listen to it. Your intuition or “gut feeling” is always right. Step away and figure out what is right for you, then head in that direction.
While that might be something we all know, what most people don’t tell you in the self-help world is that no matter how much you live your purpose and think positive you are not immune to chaos, stress, and difficult times. However, having the tools and awareness when you do face challenges are the keys to overcoming it quickly and getting back on track.
Several years ago when I was going through a rough divorce and was living on welfare with three kids I was at one of the lowest parts of my life. My best friend Jeanne wrote me a note on a card to let me know, I have support and to ask for help when I needed it. She also encouraged me to trust my gut and say no to a marriage that was over rather than stay. I felt as if I was spinning out of control as I was alone with three babies and fearful for our future.
She said:”Spinning and twirling are two different things. When you find yourself spinning….just twirl twirl twirl to the melody of your soul then stop and sit in that space…. because you my dear are a beautiful creative creature and capable of everything you desire.
I am here for you, I love you.” I pass this on to you my friend. I am here for you and I love you….
So go twirl!