Power of the Human Spirit – a healing story
June 9, 2010 by Joylina Goodlings
Filed under Personal Growth
The Power of Love and the Human Spirit – Doris’ Story
Let me tell you the amazing story of my friend Jen’s Mum. Firstly her name is Doris; she is 88 years old and a widow. She has 3 sons and 1 daughter, Jen. She also has a twin sister (Aunty May) still alive.
In August 2006 Doris was diagnosed with bone cancer and the hospital said she had only a week or two to live. She had not been well for some time but this still came as a shock to the family.
My friend Jen, being the only daughter, seemed to be the person who took on all the responsibility. She was obviously devastated that her mother was dying but like most women just got on a dealt with stuff. The doctors told her to get the family together if they wanted to say goodbye.
So she contact Aunty May and told her the bad news and arranged to go and fetch her so she could come and see her sister and say goodbye for the last time. The rest of the family came, all the brothers and daughters in law and grandchildren gathered round. Doris was drifting in and out of consciousness with the morphine that was controlling her pain. It was a very sad time. At one point Doris came back into consciousness and looked Jen in the eye and said “you all think I’m dying don’t you”, and with tears in her eyes Jen gently replied “yes mum”.
“Well not here” Doris said. “I want to go home”. “I shall die in my own bed when I’m ready”.
The Doctors were not happy about this but the family were insistent. If Doris wanted to die at home then nothing was going to stop them making this possible. Jen contacted that wonderful group of people Macmillan Nursing and also her friends. Jen is a healer and so are a lot of her friends. She contacted me and I immediately put Doris on my distant healing list and started sending distance healing. I also offered to go and see Doris on a regular basis but Jen had another friend Jenny, just to be confusing. Jenny was not only a Reiki Master but was also a qualified carer and she agreed to be part of Doris’s caring team that Jen was putting together.
Jen arranged a complete schedule of carers, nurses, visitors etc, so that someone would be with Doris at all times. All the family were taking it in turns going to see Doris, getting breakfast, lunch and dinner. The nurses were going to give Doris her medication and to look after her and Jenny was going to become her general carer and give her healing every day.
Let me make one thing clear. Healing energy is NOT a cure. It is not intended to be a cure. A healer connects directly to God’s love and channels the energy of unconditional love directly to the client. In this case Doris. Doris’s soul then uses the energy for whatever purpose it chooses. In this instance we assumed it would be used to help her let go and pass over in a peaceful way.
Doris was home and feeling much happier and was well cared for by her team of carers. One of whom is also a Reiki Master. Doris had never really ever let anyone care for her before. She had always been the one caring for everyone else. She did not find it easy but one week became two. Then two weeks became three, then three weeks became four and before you know Doris is feeling much better. A month has gone by and she says not only does she have no intention of dying but also she wants to get up. This of course is impossible. She is much too weak. The nurses say she would be unsteady on her feet with all the medication she is taking. Doris responds with she doesn’t want the medication. This of course if ridiculous because as anyone who has ever had anything to do with bone cancer will tell you it is one of the most painful forms of cancer you can get and needs constant management. I know my grandmother died of it.
Jen and the nurses explained to Doris that she really needed to take her medication and every day they gave it to her, even though she said she did not want it. After all we always know best don’t we. But with all the love, care and healing she was getting she was well enough to get up and sit in a chair rather than being in bed all day. The doctors and nurses were amazed that she was still alive let alone getting stronger.
Now Doris was feeling better she was actually allowed to be alone some of the day, in between visits. One day when Jen went round she saw a teacup on the draining board. Assuming that someone had not washed up after himself or herself she had a bit of a moan. Doris said no it was not the nurse it was hers. She had made a cup of tea for herself. Jen thought her mum was hallucinating. After all she had not been out of bed unassisted for about six weeks.
Jen is fussing around her mother and trying to make her more comfortable. Jen is so grateful for this extra time with her mum. They are talking now about so many things that they had never talked about before. She is getting to understand her mum and her life so much more. Doris talks about the past a lot. Her mum is sitting in her favourite armchair and as Jen tucks a blanket round her legs to keep her warm, because it is getting colder now, and as her hand goes does the side of the chair she feels something, small, round, like sweets. She pulls them out and there in her hand is some of Doris’s medication. Her morphine tablets that are supposed to controlling her chronic pain. Doris looks sheepish. “I told you I did not want them,” she said. Jen had to smile. Her mum was behaving like a naughty two year old. Strange how life is reversed. Once upon a time her mum looked after her when she was a naughty two year old. Now the roles are reversed.
However if Doris did not want the tablets and if she was not in much pain then perhaps they should not be forced on her. Jen and her mum agreed that as long as Doris asked for the painkillers when she needed them they would not be forced on her any more. The nurses were not too happy but then they knew it would not be long before Doris was asking fort them. They were not aware of the power of the healing Jenny was giving her every day and that I was sending by distance twice a day. Between us Doris was getting 3 hours healing a day.
The weeks went by and Doris did not ask for her painkillers very often. Also as Jen was coming and going from her mum’s house, elderly people at the bus stop outside were asking how “Mrs Buckley” was. These people were total strangers. Who were they and how did they know her mum. It transpired that over the years whenever it rained Doris would invite the people at the bus stop in for a cup of tea while they waited for the bus. All these people had been coming in and out of the house for years unbeknown to any of the family. More naughty secrets coming out.
One day Doris told Jen that she had seen her husband (Jen’s father) in the conservatory but that she had refused to look at him. She just told him she was not going anywhere just yet. She was going to enjoy another Christmas first. By now Christmas was coming and it was 4 months since her diagnosis.
Jen went to fetch Aunty May again and the family spent a very happy and sad Christmas together. Happy because it was so unexpected but sad because they all knew it would be the last that Doris would see. (The paradox of life that is always there).
The New Year came and so did the cold weather and no one really thought Doris would be with them much longer. But she continued to get stronger. She had her bad days when she asked for her morphine but on the whole she got better and better. On her good days she would get herself up and dressed and make her own tea. She did not want everyone doing everything for her.
As an aside - In January Jenny (her carer) went to a clairvoyant for her annual reading. As part of the reading this person, a healer himself, said she was working with an old lady and that she really should stop giving her healing because she was supposed to have passed over last year”. This worried Jenny. Surely she was not doing anything wrong. She spoke to Jen who came to me. As I said earlier as a healer we channel the energy and the soul does with it what the soul wants to. It is not up to us. If Doris wanted to use the energy to help her pass over she would when she was ready and if she wanted to use it to enjoy a few more weeks and get closer to her family then she could. It was not up to us to interfere. I certainly was not going to stop sending the distance healing I was sending. So Jenny continued to give Doris healing every day and I continued to send distance healing twice a day.
As the weather got warmer Doris sat in the conservatory where she could see the garden. Jen learned so much and grew so close to her mum during this time, but that will be another story.
One day Doris said she wanted to go out. She wanted to go to Southend for a fish & chips lunch. It had been a favourite place for her and her husband when courting, and when the children were young. But not long after this the weather turned sour again and Doris seemed to become weaker. She was starting to have more bad days than good. The family wanted to do as she asked, especially as they felt time was getting short again, but felt that Southend was too long a trip. They decided that Jen’s brother should take her for a drive around Tottenham where she grew up and where she met her husband and where the family originated.
So they went out for the day. Wherever they went, it did not matter where, she recognised everything especially all the pubs. “That was where I had my 21st birthday,” she would say. “That one was where we had out engagement party”. “That one was where your Dad went with the lads after you were born”. And so it went on as she went down memory lane with her family.
Now it is 16 months on from that first diagnosis and Doris and the family are looking forward to their second unexpected Christmas together. Jen is fetching Aunty May again and the two old ladies will be sharing a bed. Two commodes, one on each side. of the bed. Doris’s carer is quite happy to get two old ladies up and dressed on Christmas morning so they can go out for the day together and spend yet another family Christmas. But this year no one is assuming it is the last. For with the power of Love, Healing and the indemonstrable human spirit Doris will live as long as she chooses.
The difference between healing and curing – clearing the myth.
June 9, 2010 by Joylina Goodlings
Filed under •-Feature, Insights
Introduction
Many people ask, “what is healing? how can healing help? Doctors heal, what is the difference?”. This article will try to answer some of these questions. We will be looking at the difference between healing and curing, and how the whole body is connected. I believe we as humans are made up of more than just our body. We are spiritual, emotional, mental and physical beings. These levels need to be in balance for a full and healthy life.
What is healing?
Healing is very different from curing.
Doctors diagnose problems and diseases in the physical body and then treat those diseases in various ways so the body is cured. But why do we get those diseases? – our body is obviously not well – why is it trying to tell us something more? Are there other in-balances of which we are not initially aware?
We are connected to the earth through our feet and the universe through our head. The earth has its own energy and so does the universe. We as humans can connect to both and this is the energy healers connect to and channel to others.
There are many different types of healing, too many to mention individually. This article is concentrating on what is known as energy healing and the subtle energy system of the body known as Chakras.
The Chakras
The word itself is Sanskrit and means “wheel”. Chakras are more like spinning energy vortices, which are funnel-shaped. The wider, spinning end interacts with our auric field whilst the stem appears to be embedded in our spine. (The aura is an energy field that radiates through and around all living things. Humans, animals and even plants have an aura which surrounds us and is visible with the aid of aura imagining cameras). The vortices go in both directions through the front and back of the body with the centre of the funnel joining the centre channel, which runs through the centre of our body.
Chakras act as step-down transformers, converting subtle energy – known in India as Prana, in China as Chi, and in Japan as Reiki, (universal cosmic energy). This energy is used by the hormonal, nervous and cellular systems of our physical body. We take in air and food to fuel our molecular building blocks. The aura and chakras take in the subtle energy, which is also fundamental for life. As well as being linked to the physical functioning of our bodies each chakra holds a key to understanding our relationships, our strengths and weaknesses and our sense of who and what we are in the world.
It is important for all the chakras to be energised and functioning efficiently for the all round well being of the individual. Blockages in any of the chakras can cause problems on any or all levels, physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. (For more information on Chakras please see my website http://www.joylina.com/content/view/62/62/).
Different types of healing.
You will hear about many different types of energy healing systems. All with different names such as, Spiritual Healing, Vortex Healing, Reconnective Healing, Reiki, (with all its subsets of Tera Mai, Seichem, Karuna, Angel RayKey, Sufi Reiki, Colour Reiki, Crystal Reiki) to name but a few. Each method will have its own ways of connecting to the energy and performing a healing. But they are fundamentally the same. Whether you connect through the power of prayer to God as in Spiritual Healing or through asking the angels, your God/Goddess, spirit guides, universal energy, the energy of unconditional love, Buddah, Jesus, Mohamed, or whatever, you are connecting to the same source or universal energy. Most systems breathe in the energy through their crown chakra (at the fontenella on the top of their heads) and let it flow out of their hands. Some systems have the hands touching people’s bodies; some just float them over the client in their aura. It works just the same. I personally prefer to work in the aura as I have found it more powerful and more productive but some clients prefer to feel the healers hands on them. The energy will be used for the highest good of the client anyway, however it is delivered.
How Healing works!
The objective of a healing is to bring all the auric bodies into balance. The spiritual body, the mental body, the emotional body and the physical body. I believe that if there is an in-balance in any one of the bodies, i.e. either the spiritual, mental, or emotional body is dis-at-ease for any reason then it will appear as a disease in an appropriate part of the body. The doctors then try to cure this problem. But I believe if the in balances in the other parts of the system, spiritual, mental, emotional, are not dealt with as well, then the disease will recur
Healers assist the client in bringing balance back into the entire system by connecting to the universal energy of unconditional love and acting as a channel. This allows the client to draw whatever energy they need to heal themselves. In my experience the less ego a healer has, i.e. the less they try to do anything specific for the client, the more they let go and allow the energy to flow, the more it works on whatever level it is needed to restore balance to the client. When the person is balanced then the body heals itself.
A healer therefore is channelling healing to a client for the client to do with whatever they wish for their highest good. The energy is passed to their soul, spirit, higher self, (call it what you will). The client’s soul then uses the energy in whichever way is best for the client from an overall perspective. We as people may think we know what we want but we may not be totally consciously aware of the whole picture of our life from a spiritual perspective. If I chose to experience death by cancer in this lifetime that is what I will do and no amount of healing or doctors’ interventions are going to stop it. But the healing will most probably make it easier, allow me to express my emotions and fears to my family, become a lot closer and have want many people call a good death. Also my family may then have done most of the grieving process with me and be able to move on into their lives more easily. I may of course, have agreed to experience a number of emotions in my life, such as grief and loss. If I have not dealt with them, if I have buried them, perhaps they start to eat away at me, in the form of disease such as cancer. If I am m able to let go of these stuck emotions, I overcome cancer as well. When the dis-at-ease on the emotional level is healed then the physical level can heal as well.
There has been much written on the connection between the physical well being of an individual and the psychological well being of that individual. This goes back to the 1800’s. An English doctor named Gendron, in a treatise published in 1701 wrote that “… cancer was caused by a misfortune occasioning much worry and travail”. H. Snow in his book 1893 “Cancer and the Cancer Process” says that after examining 250 out patients and inpatients with breast or uterine cancer. He concluded that of those patients over 200 had reported experiencing emotional problems, suffering and confusion before their disease”. (p 165 Summary of the New Medicine – by Dr. med. Ryke Geerd Hamer.) There is nothing to suppose the spiritual and mental balance of an individual would not be reflected in the body as well. I believe the whole system will try and tell you where the problem lies and what is holding you back. Dr. Christine Page in her book Frontiers of Health 1992 page 182 writes “Cancer is also known to appear up to two years after the loss of an identity linked with the death of a partner, loss of job….”
Let me tell you a story to illustrate. Once upon a time there was a woman who drove a mini cab. She did not enjoy her job, in fact it made her very unhappy. She had once been very successful in the City. She had been married, had a good job, children, and was happy. But, then everything went wrong, no fault of her own, and she was now having trouble supporting herself. She was bitter and angry about her past and she was constantly irritated with the behaviour of the general public. Picking up drunks from pubs and taking them home was not her idea of fun. She positively hated her job but could not think of anything else she could do. She had tried and tried to get other jobs but was always told she had too much experience, or she was too old.
After a while she began to suffer from gout, very unusual for a woman. She saw her doctor and was given medication. The gout came and went. She noticed that it was always worse after a particularly bad day. After a while it got so bad, there were days when she could not drive so she could not work. She was worried about her income but she just could not drive, her feet were so bad. After this going on for about 6 months she decided to try a healing. She was worried about her income, if she could not drive, she could not earn, how was she going to live? After all if someone was just passing healing energy into her aura, without even touching her it could not hurt her and it might make a difference, who knows, she had nothing to lose. She found a healer who would come to her home and she made an appointment. She found the experience very relaxing, warming, and comforting. She had felt a lot of energy in her hips funnily enough, not her feet, although her feet did feel a bit better. She also found she had been remembering her past. She had felt very tearful during the healing but had been able to control that. She did not want to cry in front of a stranger.
Whilst at home, resting with her feet up over the next few days she found herself remembering her past in different ways, feeling emotions of sadness, anger, grief at her loss. She did not feel sorry for herself, it was as if she was reaching some resolution to her past but she was not sure how. She just felt different.
One day a friend came to see her. She wanted to have her bedroom remodelled but did not know what to do or what she wanted, she had always admired her friends’ home. Our cab driver immediately came up with lots of ideas and sketched these for her friend. She was a very creative person and enjoyed drawing, painting and design. Because she had done her own home she knew where to get all the materials at a reasonable price and how to do it herself. She offered to help her friend when she was better. The following weekend when her feet were better she went round to help her friend get it started. She was on her feet all day, up and down ladders, to no ill effect. So Monday she went back to work. By the end of the week she was in severe pain and felt she could not drive over the weekend so went to see her friend. She helped out with the decorating again and was surprised that she had been on her feet all the time but was in no pain.
Back to work she went on Monday but by Wednesday had to take time off again. She was getting seriously worried about what she could do. By this time her friend had finished the remodelling of her bedroom and was really pleased. It had not cost anything like as much as she had anticipated and it was different. All her friends she had showed it to were really impressed and asked where she had got her advice. She was really please and came round to see our cab driver, to thank her and to tell her of all the interest and so an idea for another way of earning a living was born. Our cab driver did go back to work but for gradually less and less hours, for now she was advising people with their interior design needs and decorating. Word spread quickly and she soon gave up cabbing altogether. She was still on her feet all day, up and down ladders, just like depressing a clutch all day, but she was happy doing something she loved and she was no longer getting any re-occurrences of Gout. Her spiritual, mental, emotional and physical bodies were back in balance.
How the healing worked!
How I believe the healing worked was, she was unhappy on a spiritual level. She was not using her own creative skills. She was bitter about what she had lost in her past, and she had not let go of her bitterness on an emotional level. Her ideas held within her mental level were blocked she could not find a solution to getting a job she enjoyed. Her feet began to play her up. Feet often signify how we feel about where we are going. For instance if there is fear, of what lies ahead, we may not want to walk that particular path. If we have sore feet we cannot walk, we cannot go forward.
She saw her doctor and took the medication he prescribed which did alleviate her physical symptom but the rest of her being was out of balance. When she was ready she approached the healer. She received the healing. The energy was then used by her higher self, (soul, spirit, call it whatever you like). Firstly she let go of the old emotions, the bitterness from her past, then she reconnected to her spiritual creative self, then the mental plane came back into balance as new ideas started to flow. As she started doing things she enjoyed, that felt right for her, her body did not react badly, even though she was physically using her feet in much the same way. Thus when her spiritual, mental, emotional bodies were balanced her physical body healed and she no longer had occurrences of gout and no longer needed her medication from the doctor. She was no longer fearful of moving forwards in her life. She was healed.
Conclusion:
There are many healing stories like the one above, some very remarkable, some less so, where healers have helped people without them even necessarily being aware of it. Our lady cab driver may never have related the change in her life over the following weeks to her healing. But that is what healing does. It allows people to move on in their lives freely. It is not difficult, it is not something special. It is something everyone can do, and as we have said there are many methods being taught to do it. I believe it works on the power of unconditional love and if we connect to that energy and pass it to others freely, we help people change their lives in a positive way. It is up to each individual soul how they use the energy they are given, whether to bring balance into their entire spiritual being or to reject it. It is not for us as healers to question. Just to pass on the energy where possible.
For further reading I recommend,
Frontiers of Health – Dr. Christine R Page 1992
Your body speaks your mind – Debbie Shapiro 1996.
© Copyright – Joylina Goodings 2005
Change our world
June 9, 2010 by Joylina Goodlings
Filed under •-Headline
2010 is a known to be a 3 year. 3 is a magic number. It dissolves discord created by the polarity of 2 and results in integration. Our world has been suffering from so much discord brought about by the polarity of differing and opposing forces and thought forms. For example, judgment, what’s right and what’s wrong. Look at the wars in the Middle East. We have been suffering from a feeling of separateness and yet mystics through the ages and those of us who have experienced a near death experience, tell us we are all one.
We are all created from the same energy as the sun, the moon and the stars. As we, as individual beings, begin to let go of the misconception of separateness by experiencing oneness, we will stop judging ourselves and each other. We can then move towards a time when we can respect each others differences.
Three is the number of change and creativity. When you integrate the masculine and feminine principals you create a new way of being. This is a year of creation. It is a year when we can joyfully play, when we can let go of our preconceived ideas of reality and create within ourselves our own new experiences and realities. As we all individually create different wonderful lives for ourselves by focusing on what is good in our life and expanding those feelings of joy then so we create a new personal reality and thus a new golden age for all.
“How can you do this?” I hear you ask. By connecting to the Angels and allowing them to help you heal your lives and change the focus onto the positive so you can create the life of your dreams. We all can. Many have and some are well on the way. All we have to do is chose it.
You may feel that you have no individual part to play because we often feel helpless and unable to influence events. Quantum physics tells us how our consciousness affects our reality and how many consciousnesses together have a growing effect on that reality.
When we cast our minds back over the past there have been many occasions when one individual being true to their soul energy has been the tipping point of change. Gandhi, for instance, and the fall of the Berlin Wall. This happened because group consciousness at that moment in time wanted to let go of being separate. So do not underestimate the power of group consciousness and your part in it. The change it creates to both individual and collective reality. Look how the mind body spirit movement has grown.
This is why it is important for us each to take advantage of every opportunity not only to choose and create our individual realities in time and space but also to join with others to co-create the alchemy of human kind and the lives we chose to live. Both individually and collectively this 3 year gives us the opportunity to make the choices which bring our physical, mental and emotional bodies into alignment with our soul’s energy.
We have chosen to incarnate and live in the 3rd dimension of physical reality. This is our soul’s choice. During this 3 year we will have the ability to manifest in the physical reality the soul qualities we incarnated to bring to this world. How? By creating and living your dream.
The symbol of the 3 is the Tetrahedron the triangle and 4-sided pyramid. It represents the fire energy of action.
If we each individually chose to live in peace, love and harmony with ourselves and those around us, then so we create this reality in the world around us. The 3 symbolizes, manifestation in the physical. It is the number of alchemy and good fortune and right now we all have the power to tap into it.
This 3-year is a choice point. The choices you made in the past brought you to your present and collectively to the state of the world today. The choices we make now, in the present, determine not only our own futures, but the future of us all. One person can and does make a difference.
We are constantly at choice point but this year more so than ever. We can change our world from the materialistic, fear, power and greed to a more loving reality. As we each connect at a deeper level to ourselves we can give birth to living our soul energies. To take advantage of this time, everyday chose to notice and to let go of imaginary fears and misconceptions and chose to live in peace and love with yourself and others. This will create a new reality not only for yourself but for us all. The choice is always ours.
Embracing Change
April 28, 2010 by Joylina Goodlings
Filed under •-Headline, Spirituality
Look forward to some positive changes taking place in your life. Let go of all fear and connect to the excitement within. All you can guarantee in life is change itself. Don’t try to control it, just go with the flow and allow Gabriel to open wonderful new doors for you to walk through. Expect the unexpected. Embrace change effortlessly.
Starting the Ascension Pathway!
April 8, 2010 by Joylina Goodlings
Filed under Events, Journeys
Discover the secrets of transforming your life so you can be happier and more fulfilled right now. These are times of change and transition, as we approach the end of this cycle of the Mayan calendar and the transformation year of 2012. Find out what these important events will mean for you as an individual and collectively for humankind. What can you do to make this transition easy and effective? What is the difference between ego and soul? How can you enable these aspects of yourself to work in harmony? How can you express more of your soul energy? This workshop will answer these and many other questions to help you live a better life, giving you easy and effective tools and techniques to use for your own personal, spiritual and soul development. For further information see www.joylina.com Qoute Vividlife.me.uk)
