I am not afraid to admit it – I make my husband’s lunch.
It took me a while to get to this point – of being ok admitting it never mind actually doing it. I use to make Ian promise to not tell anyway I was making sandwiches at midnight. What would my women friends think? I have every feminist book ever written, I bristle at the term “good wife” and I refuse to take my husband’s last name and yet I am madly in love with this man. There was just always something about marriage that sort of contrasted my view of myself as an independent and free person and yet I committed. When we were first married I was very adamant that I would not be a good wife which to me meant cooking, cleaning and generally meeting his needs at the expense of my own. I have matured or perhaps just began to create my own view of marriage as a means to connect to love. (Duh…sort of like the point of it I know.)
Gender stereotypes and projected roles are very much alive in our society. Many women do lose a sense of themselves as they feel they must throw themselves solely into the role of wife and mother only to feel angry, unheard and lost years later. And often it is women who are the worst critics of other women. It is a time for true sisterhood for us all – those who make a great pie and those who do store bought but that is for another post.
To be honest I am not good at cooking or cleaning but I have come to realize that it is not what we do but why. Being a good wife or a good friend or a good anything does not mean meeting up to some societal expectation or projection of who I should be or what I should doing. Rather being a good anything means being in service to another and to my Self with love. The act becomes Karma Yoga or Seva (service with love) and a way of honoring the Divine in myself and others.
I don’t make sandwiches because it is my wifely duty. I do it because I love my husband and the light within him. I do it because it brings me joy to think of him eating well and I love making something just for him. I do it because I want his life to be easy and joyful. I do it because I don’t cook well but I do make a mean sandwich and I serve it with love.
How can you be in the service of love today?
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