The first step in changing what might not enhance or enrich your life is figuring out if you are a doormat, rug cleaner, or a picture; only after recognizing yourself in one category can you take a step back and either accept which category you fall into, or decide you are going to change categories, making your life as sparkling as you would your home.
A doormat is useful. It saves a regular rug cleaning by absorbing all the dirt, grit, and nasty that might be tracked in onto your valuable carpet, and it saves you time in the doing. A doormat person gives all, and receives nothing; after their usefulness wears out, they are often thrown out, just as one might do when their doormat has absorbed all the filth it can. For this reason, you need to take a long, hard look at just how much time and effort you give to others, and how much they give back to you. The penalty for giving all to others is that you won’t have time or effort left to give to yourself.
A rug cleaner is there for those moments when the doormat has been temporarily retired or rendered useless by the mob of children who just came in mud splattered and laughing, grabbing up their highly stainable juice which then gets dumped on your rug. It is at this point (after cries of horror and redirection of said monstrous children) that you pull out your rug cleaner to get all those worrisome spots out. A rug cleaner person is there for you in times of need, but has the wisdom and foresight to come in when help is truly needed, rather than the doormat who just gives and gives because it knows no other way. If you are a rug cleaner, you are wise. But that wisdom is limited by the fact that rug cleaners tend to isolate themselves a bit; only coming forward in times of need. Your hoover is more sociable. It gets taken out and run around the room more often than your rug cleaner… but even a rug cleaner needs it’s time to circulate out and about in the room.
A picture sits there. It is pretty to look at, at times even commented on with delight. But it gives nothing, and takes some polishing and dusting to remain picture perfect. So it is with a picture person.
In this case, a picture really is worth a thousand words.
Not one of them is good.