Dear Janice (aka Our Lady of Weight Loss) ~ My husband left me for another woman two years ago, and I’ve been divorced for a year now.
In 1992, I started working with a man named Bob, to whom I was very much attracted…..honestly. And, yes, it was mutual. Nothing came of it, as we were both married. I haven’t seen Bob in almost 15 years. At that time I was 40 years old, and weighed 125 lbs. and at the risk of sounding immodest, I was pretty darn cute. Now … fast forward … 15 years later, and I weigh 185, and at the risk of sounding pathetic, I am fat and frumpy.
Bob and I have rekindled our friendship on the Internet. We talk on the phone and exchange e-mails daily. We’re both single now, and he’s coming to visit me on in 4 weeks.
I desperately want to see him, but I fear he’ll be repelled by my appearance. I know I can’t lose 60 lbs in under a month, but I’d like to lose as much weight as is realistically possible.
What can I do? I’m so paralyzed with fear, I’m thinking of calling off our date. ~ Thanks, Linda
Dear Linda ~ First let’s talk self-esteem, photos and then realistic weight loss … and then what to do. Okay? Okay!!!
Self-Esteem: Are you judging yourself solely based on your weight? Please, right now write down at least 10 great things about yourself and keep the list going. When a person is comfortable in their own skin (no matter the weight of the skin); when a person loves themselves, they ooze confidence, which is definitely attractive.
Photos: Have you seen a recent photo of Bob? 15 years is quite a while and I’m betting he’s changed, too, in more ways than one. Maybe you won’t like him. Just a thought.
Bottom line: I invite you to consider if he is worthy of you!
Weight loss: If you were to be on a say, a healthy weight loss plan, you would max lose 2 pounds per week. When I permanently removed over 50 pounds, I averaged about 1 pound per week, even in the beginning. Slow n’ steady always wins the weight loss race.
Bottom line: Are you losing weight so Bob will like you? Or, are you losing it for you? If you want to embark on a healthy living plan for YOU, let’s set up an appointment for a free consultation.
What to do? Breathe first, always. Deep cleansing breaths. Have an honest conversation (but not a self-deprecating conversation) and send him a recent photo. If Bob says he doesn’t want to see you because you are on the chubby side, so be it. His loss. Do, however, make it a good photo J Hair, make-up and an outfit that fits.
TIP: Always wear clothes that fit. No matter your size. It is KEY to looking great. And in my book, All Is Forgiven, Move On: Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat Burning Steps to Sveltesville, there is an entire STEP dedicated to what to wear to look thinner! Not that thin is the beat all, end all. It’s only a little slice of the pie.
Spread the word … NOT the icing!
Janice (the voice of Our Lady of Weight Loss)