On March 30, 2011, I suffered the unexpected loss of my beautiful first born son. At first, I was immobilized. It seemed that every truth I ever knew was gone. When times are tough, things must often be understood from beyond the level of the mind. They must be questioned on the level of the soul, where they are always answered.
I credit a meditation method taught by Neale Donald Walsch, in which I learned to ask God to help me understand , as the catalyst for an entirely new understanding of change which I have since embraced.
How we feel about change has a lot to do with our perception of what is occurring, as well as our perceived level of control over things, and how we ultimately assess or label what is happening and its impact.
Many of us acknowledge feeling jittery when things in our lives begin to noticeably change. I use the term “noticeably” because things are always changing. Life is just another word for change. Indeed personal growth, as well as life itself, cannot occur without it.
Though it sometimes feels as if too much change occurs at once, or perhaps not enough is occurring, and it often feels as if change is occurring too quickly, or not soon enough, all of these perceptions are imagined. I now understand that change occurs exactly when it is supposed to occur, according to the concept of Divine timing, which applies to everyone and everything.
I find when things are good; life is happy and comfortable, and I am with people I really like…when it all seems relatively simple, I often wish things would stay the way they are longer than they actually do.
During times like these, change is perceived differently. If change feels too soon to me right now, isn’t it really a message to calm down and focus on the present moment only? For it is only by showing up maximally in the present, and shining a bright inner-light on each day, that we can lengthen its value, deepen its meaning, and experience each day more gracefully and more gratefully lived.