I got really incredibly stuck many years ago. I thought I had everything figured out, finally. I had committed to modest ambitions, finally, goals that were “doable” and “realistic.” I had spent an enormous amount of time dialing back my own love of the fantastical into something smaller, safer and what I thought was far more “normal.”
Talk about a crushing blow to find that my “scaled back to miniature” life plan couldn’t yield a single result.
I said I was “balanced”… but I was bored.
I thought I was being “moral” …but it’s not quite morally excellent to give less that you can.
And for all my normal, balanced, modest desires, I was languishing. Sinking.
If its true that you are either growing or deteriorating, I was evaporating… fast.
Only in retrospect could I really understand what I did to myself during that time. And now I understand why nothing worked out.
Big vision is life-changing!
Nothing is normal.
First off: There is no normal. Nothing is normal. No one is “normal.” There’s no picture of what a “normal” brain looks like. There’s nothing that holds as the standard of normalcy.
If you have outrageous thoughts and visions of doing big things, commit them to paper. Let them move you.
Do you know what comes next?
Here’s a life-earned fact that seems to hold true for all my clients and for my friends and for me: If something isn’t getting finished, maybe you aren’t so sue about the vision of what comes next. If the next steps are blurry, scary or otherwise unapproachable why should you get through the steps you have now?
Small vision can help you say very stuck.
Let yourself see more of what you want to come next.
Are you scared of what comes next?
If you aren’t psyched about the next steps, this is where you can get help… clarifying the future.
If love is terrifying to you, I bet you’ll bail or stall on even the best relationships and the most magical experiences because the next steps you see are too nebulous or unapproachable.
If you have no idea how to build a website but you have to do it once you finish researching a new project, that research may carry on for a loooooong time.
Big vision is so important. Everyone from New Age gurus to very sound MBA’s at top tier schools will tell you that a plan is far more effective than no plan.
Think about it: would you ever invest in a business with no plan? Of course you wouldn’t! You want to know the future of your investment.
But… its sort of easy to let life kind of flounder in some ways without any vision… I’ve done it for years. And while sometimes synergistically cool things happen, without a sense of what I wanted it was easy to let go of things that were actually amazing in retrospect!
Can you give yourself the time to create a broad, expansive, exciting vision? Try sitting down and write out a vision of a year… and another… and maybe 10 years from now . It might change. It might get totally flipped. You can always create a new one. Make sure it excites you. Make sure it’s your plan, and not anyone else’s plan for you. Having it will help you to get un-stuck and feel more magic in your days…
I know its so basic, but the simple things are usually the best.
Take it a step further and see where you are stuck. Do you know what comes after you complete your present to-do list? If you can see what you want next… and feel good about it… it will be effortles to breeze through whatever is lingering around, un-done.
Dream super-big. It’s not crazy or unrealistic… it’s thrilling! xoxo Dana