Awareness is key….
A long time ago I took a personal development class and the instructor asked us to consider WHO on earth we were BE-ing. At that point in time, I had no idea what the heck she was talking about… WHO am I Being, what did that mean, I thought. I am BE-ing Marcia that is who I am Being. I have always been Marcia, I was not trying to be anyone else…just me. After a while of what seemed like forever, I managed to calm down the inner monologue long enough to actually listen to what she meant by that.
I came to find out that WHO I am BE-ing means… the actions that I am taking or not taking, the thoughts that I am thinking and the things that I am creating (attracting) by thinking them. Everything in my life has a cause and everything |thought|action| has an effect. The thoughts and actions that I am taking or not, ripple out and effect people around me…and people not around me. It took awhile for this to sink in, the limiting belief side of me believed that other people were almost always the problem or the solution. I had no idea that I was also both.
The way that it finally allowed the light bulb to go on was when I looked back at my life. I thought about my childhood. I thought about my marriage and every relationship that I had had. Then, I thought about how I seemed to have a lot of reoccurring patterns showing up in my experiences. I then asked myself the question …. WHO was the only constant in my life through all of those experiences?
I was momentarily shocked to realize that the constant was ME. I was the common denominator in all of my experiences. ME. So, instead of being able to justify the way that things turned out either good or bad on another person … I had to take the credit for it. ME… I was the constant… so that meant that through every experience, I was also either the problem or the solution.
Up to that point in time… I had never even thought about it. I was the victim of my life, unconsciously assuming the role of sufferer. Since I don’t know what I don’t know…. I had no idea that I did not even know it! Enter Awareness… now that I realize that WHO I am BE-ing not only effects the outcomes of my own life … but also the lives of others, I am able to practice more deliberate creation.
Deliberate creation according is when we consciously decide to practice a belief. Since a belief is only a practiced vibration, when we are aware of what our beliefs are (and where they came from) we are able to utilize the Law of Attraction by applying the Law of Vibration.
*** The Law of Vibration and awareness allows us to gradually shift our own frequency.
Have you ever been in a room with someone who just came in from smoking? You know how you can smell the smoke even before you know they are there? Well, being conscious of our own personal Awareness is key to understanding WHO we are BE-ing. Much like the smoker who doesn’t realize that they stink, or that when they smoke right outside the door, may be offending the people who have to walk though the cloud to get inside a building… when you are on one side or the other of the experience… we tend to give very little thought to how we are being perceived.
When we seize the opportunity to view things from another’s eyes, it opens up possibilities that may have been limited without that experience.
What if I told you that YOU are your biggest obstacle to overcome…what does that make you feel? Well… since you are the only real constant in your life. YOU are what YOU bring with you into every relationship, every job and every trial and celebration that you have been a part of.
So, with that said, reflecting back on your life, how many times have you repeated the same life lesson over again? Even though things in life may show up in a different package …deep down it is the same lesson showing up again and again until we GET it! And then when we think that we “get it” ..it shows up again to show us how important the lesson is in the first place.
Sometimes the frustrating thing is when we see what other people’s life lessons are ..and we can pick out the patterns in their lives so easily that we just want to shake them to say …but don’t you get it? But what if life is a practice in getting up…. much like a toddler learning how to walk…we have to be the one that moves our own feet. We have to get back up with encouragement or without! It really doesn’t matter how many times you fall, what matters is that you keep getting up again. Every time.
The same goes for the people that we love…. They have to be allowed to get up on their own..no matter how much it hurts to watch them fall… if we rush in to ‘save the day’ we hinder their growth process. All of the good intentions mean nothing when we take away their opportunity for learning and replace it with our own “judgment” of how we think things should be.
As I was driving home the other day, I reflected on how similar that being in the driver’s seat is to Life. For most of my life I thought I was a passenger, feeling like life was happening to me instead of claiming responsibility for the journey that I was on, it was much easier to sit back and ride along.
However, when I glanced up at the mirror I realized that I was in the driver’s seat all along. I was merely looking at the reflection of my life; where I had been. I could go no further on my journey when my center of attention was simply on my past. Focusing on the rear-view mirror will never show me what is in my future, it only show’s me what has gone by and where I came from…that was a part of my trip…but not as important as where I was going.
In the driver’s seat of life, I get to chart my path, I decide who rides with me, where I may stop along the way. By starting the car, having a plan, and putting the car in drive, I decide what is next. Sometimes, people may come onto the highway and cut me off… I keep going, sometimes slower vehicles may slow me down, but that gives me the opportunity to look around..and not speed pass some great opportunities that I may have overlooked. Even with great friends suggestions acting as my GPS system, I AM responsible for getting to the destination.
“The past will never change, but you can
change the future by changing your actions
today. It is really a very simple process.
We, as humans, are always in a process of
change. Therefore, we might as well guide
the direction in which we will change.”
—From The Traveler’s Gift
I wear the seat belt to remind me that yes there are going to be bumps on the road…but that is all a part of the trip. I may drive down a gravel road or a smooth highway, either way; it is up to me to keep focused on the road ahead. I can glance behind me for a moment to remind me of where I have been; however focusing on the road ahead will bring me closer to my destination.
My Grandfather used to say, “No matter who you are, No matter what you are, You Must Start where you are.” I would like to encourage you to Start. (Turn off the cruise control.) Decide where your destination will be, put your life on drive, focus on the road in front of you, know your goal and make it to your destination. Even though it sometimes feels like you are on the road alone, you are not. Some of us occasionally travel in a four wheel drive and are only a phone call away to give you a push.
Remember that Every Action that you Take, Every Decision that you Make…Everything that YOU do MATTERs.
I love you,