To lose her child must be the most painful experience for a mother.
How can life go on ?
The questions are many.
A short while ago we met a remarkable lady, Tina. We can only mention her first name, because she has an upcoming law case regarding her birth.
Tina went through a tragic birth experience where she lost her daughter. Tina had to go through the process of mourning and grief. Many times she was thinking: “ What if..? “
We have a Fan-page called Conscious Parenting on Facebook.
One day Tina commented a post regarding birth. From then on we developed a strong and deep connection – we got to know each other.
We asked Tina how she felt about our message to the world, about conscious parenting. The reason for us asking her this question was that we are posting many pictures in order to activate feelings in our readers. The pictures are warm, and the intention is to create a longing for those with children, but who has forgotten their natural instincts.
Therefore, when we read Tina`s story ,we were suddenly afraid that our pictures could activate grief instead of encouragement.
With loving words she told us that she supported our mission completely , and needless to say we were very relieved and happy to hear that.
Tina has made an awesome video about herself and how she transformed this extremely painful experience into an awakening and how she again was able to find joy in her life.
What can society and women do to prevent that other women will undergo such painful experiences in the future?
Answer: I think that women like me must share their stories. We must make other women aware of the dangers of induced labors, especially with drugs like Cytotec that specifically warn against its use in labor inductions. I think that we as women have to take back our power. We need to educate ourselves, ask questions and know all of our options. We need to push for informed consent. This is the only way that a woman will be able to make an informed decision.
What is you vocation today?
Answer: I am an inspirational writer and speaker. I am a mentor to troubled youth and I also make jewelry and teach jewelry making to men, women and children who are in need of healing.
What “lessons of life “ has this traumatic experience taught you?
Answer: What a rich question… and one that could take a lifetime to answer!!! Perhaps the greatest of lessons is that truly, love always wins!!! This traumatic experience taught me the importance of being conscious of my thoughts, words and actions. I’ve learned that indeed you do need to be what it is you want to see in this life. If you want to see love, you have to be love, if you want to see compassion, you have to be compassion… if you want to see inspiration, you have to be inspired!!!
What will you share with others who have lost their child?
Answer: I am a part of many online groups for women and men who have lost children. What I always say is that healing takes time. It is a journey… and that journey takes you to where ever it is you need to go. Know that every emotion is important! Speak and share your story or find a way to express it, for when we keep inside what we need to let out, it becomes anger and it prevents us from feeling our true self or our true nature. Trust that your child came to you with great purpose… that they give you the gift of experiencing this life with new heart and soul. Remember that love and spirit never die… and it is that love that connects us forever. Our children are with us always!!!
And what advice will you give women who are going to have a baby?
Answer: The advice I would give to women who are having a baby would be to really enjoy it, embrace your womanly body and trust in your ability to birth without complication. Talk to your body, thanking it everyday for knowing exactly what it needs to do. Speak to your baby, envision love, joy and bliss… and send gratitude for all that is to come. It’s a good Idea to have a birth plan but be open to change if need be. Have an intention for how you would like to experience the delivery of your baby such as the one written by Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart http://vividlife.me/ultimate/2010/03/03/be-the-boss-when-you-give-birth-a-want-list-to-the-birth-clinic/ I can honestly tell you, there is nothing worse than feeling completely powerless. Had I used my womanly wisdom and power, things might have been very different.
What has given you the positive outlook you have on life?
Answer: I’m a very spiritual woman, I always have been. I have a strong faith and I trust that everything in my life is perfect, that even in pain, there is something to be gained. I believe that every experience takes you to where ever it is you need to go. I believe that my daughter came to show me the way back to myself… to remind me of my purpose and my powerful voice within. I believe in finding the good, seeing purpose in everything and living in gratitude. There have been so many people in my life that have inspired me through their difficult life experiences and they have given me the gift of seeing life the way that I do… so many people are living examples of grace… and I simply gain hope, courage, faith and inspiration from these people.
Do you believe in God?
Answer: Without a doubt… I believe in a God that is pure love. I experience God in everything that I do… in all that I see and hear, feel and taste… I experience God in all that I am.
Thank you so much, dear beautiful Tina, for this deep healing and wisdom.
To find the right questions to a woman who has experienced grief like this, was not easy.
It touched our hearts so deeply.
And even more to receive her divine answers.
We feel very grateful and honored for these wise words – from a woman who has inspired us to work even more to make a better world for everyone. A wonderful example of how a life crisis can be transformed into spiritual growth.
Our dear friend Tina is now working to inform women about how to avoid the dangerous drug Cytotec in a birth process.
And because of an upcoming legal trial – we are not able to reveal her full name right now. Feel free to leave a comment for our friend !
Tina is also working to improve the conditions for children and youth in Africa.
Her goal is to enlighten children about life quality and purpose of life.
Thank you, Tina – from the bottom of our hearts !
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