Initially I wanted home birth, but for medical reasons this was not possible. I had to accept the facts, but still I wanted to be the boss – I wanted to do it my way. The health professionals were going to do what they were educated for….which was to assist me.
To the Birth Clinic
Hønefoss Hospital , Norway
The summer 2005
WANT LIST FOR PEARL SHANTI LODUR-LIONHEART
I want to be in control of my own birth process
I want to move about, take a shower/bath whenever I like
I want everyone to be quiet around me
I want to be disturbed as little as possible by doctors
I want to give birth in a room without birth chair, steel equipment etc… I am afraid of hospitals and these things disturb me
I want to meditate and do yoga
I want to give myself aroma therapy and be able to do rebirthing, conscious connected breathing
I want to receive from my husband, Andiran Lionheart, reflexology, massage and help with rhythmic movements
I want to receive natural, pain-relieving therapies, like acupuncture, from the birth clinic, if necessary
I want to bring my own CD`s, to listen to relaxing and soft music …
I want people to speak with low voices, because I will focus all my intention within to connect with my Power to find the strength to give birth in joy, I wish that no-one talks to me before spoken to
I want the lights to be dim
I want to have all my intention within….everything quiet..it is enough to know that you and my husband are there
I will focus on breathing and visualization
If I can be calm in this phase, we can prevent “tearing”.
THE EXPULSION PHASE
I want to give birth in water
I want to listen to drumming during the expulsion phase
I want to give birth according to the techniques of Dr. Frederic LeBoyer, the French obstetrician
I want to experience complete peace and harmony within
I want to be in full control
I want my husband to be in the water with me
We will receive our child in total peace and harmony
We will lift the baby slowly to the surface, and we only want whispering voices around us
I want the baby to be on my stomach…and in my arms all the time
I want the lights to be dim
I want the umbilical cord to be cut when there is no more pulsation
The baby needs both his lungs and the placenta in order to start breathing
We want to be in the water until we feel like leaving
My husband will cut the umbilical cord when it is ready
We want the medical examination to wait at least 3-4 hours
I want no breastfeeding help or bottle feeding
AFTER THE COMPULSION
I want no hormone injection
I want the placenta to slide out when it is ready…no infringement by anyone putting pressure on my stomach in order to press it out
We would like to have the honor to look at the placenta and the fetal membrane, which has nourished our child for 9 months
I want no vitamin K injections, or other vitamins, vaccines and injections
In my breasts I have all the natural vaccines and vitamins my child will need, and this milk contains all the antibodies, fatty acids, nutrients and vitamins my baby needs in order to strengthen the immune system and counteract infections
We want our son to be weighed on a scale of fabric, instead of steel
We do not want our son to be stretched in order to measure the height. The baby`s back needs not to be stretched, it is easy to use a tape measure and follow the natural curve of the baby
We want to be present when the doctor examines our son
We do not want him to be turned upside down
We want to bath and take care of our son ourselves, and we want to use our own clothes, clothe diapers, soaps and ointments.
I want my son to be with me all the time – he will not be taken anywhere without me.
I want to go home as soon as possible after the birth, preferably the same day, if everything happens according to the plan.
We have another child waiting at home.
I realize that a birth not necessarily happens according to a plan. I am open for change, and I accept the natural development of the birth process. This is the 3 rd time I give birth, and I have a strong desire to give birth in love, freedom and joy. I want to take control over the birth process this time..it will be beneficial for both the child and me.
This time I am looking forward to the birth process – because I know I will give birth in joy and bliss !
Pearl Shanti Lodur-Lionheart
SO HOW DID ANDIRAN FEEL ABOUT THIS ?
To become a father is an awesome experience – the greatest event in life.
And I was very proud when my wife sent a several page want list to the birth clinic.
We were very happy when the director of the birth clinic approved our list, and she even added that they wanted more parents like us who took 100 % responsibility for the birth process.
Because of the list we were treated with the utmost respect and attention, and it gave me great pride to observe how my wife went trough the birth process.
When Alex was born 10 years earlier, the doctors made some serious mistakes, and both Alex and my wife were clinically dead for a short while. Because of this , the doctors recommended a ceasarian operation this time too, especially since my wife gives birth to BIG babies. (She is only 1.50 m).
However, my wife has a strong willpower and chose to give birth in a natural way without medication – but instead in meditation…
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