Who supports, encourages and guides you? Do you have a cheerleader or perhaps a team of yaysayers who’ve got your back? I was blessed to have had many growing up (mother, grandmothers, aunts and older cousins) and now as a seasoned woman who crossed the 5th decade a few years back, I attract even more inspiring women who are examples of resiliency and success. They show me that if they can do it, I can do it, whatever IT is. I have also been a mentor for others and have a brain that is available for picking for resources and life enhancing ideas. We are all such teachers for each other. When we mentor we plant seeds for the future and for the healing of the planet.
As an emotionally under-nourished, overly-sensitive child, multiple bestselling author and medical expert Karilee Shames’ young life was plagued with maternal loneliness and misunderstanding. Yet she quickly learned to seek out women who modeled the qualities she most sought to emulate and soon realized that she, herself, had become a mentor to others. Amazing Mentors: The REAL Hot Mama’s Path to Power is a tribute to those who have helped to shape her life, and the lives of so many other women, including Congresswoman Lynn Woolsey, US Army General Clara Adams, Yoga Journal Co-Founder Rama Vernon and more.
Her full, rich life includes mentoring, marriage, mothering, writing and speaking.
In her book, she profiles 20 “everyday women doing extraordinary things.” These women “chose me. As I fumbled through my life, these people showed up like little angels or elves.”
A mentor can demonstrate how to make positive changes in their lives, since they have done it themselves. “By showing people it’s possible they learn they can do it as well”
During our recent interview, Karilee spoke of the benefits of being both mentor and mentee.
What is the impact of mentoring youth?
- better attendance; a better chance of going on to higher education; and better attitudes toward school.
- In terms of health and safety, mentoring appears to help prevent substance abuse and reduce some negative youth behaviors.
- On the social and emotional development front, taking part in mentoring promotes positive social attitudes and relationships.
- Mentored youth tend to trust their parents more and communicate better with them.
*What are some statistics of students who receive mentoring?
- Students who meet regularly with their mentors are 52% less likely than their peers to skip a day of school and 37% less likely to skip a class.
- About 40% of a teenager’s waking hours are spent without companionship or supervision. Mentors provide teens with a valuable place to spend free time.
- Nearly 18 million young Americans need or want mentoring, but only three million are in formal, high-quality mentoring relationships. That means more than 15 million young people still need mentors. That unmet need constitutes what we call the “mentoring gap.”
Lets talk about adult mentoring. She says that it “positively impacts the person receiving the mentoring – the mentee and mentoring positively impact the mentor as well.”
- It allows the mentor a new perspective on the company from the mentee’s position – often not shared between corporate strata.
- Likewise, the mentor can get a perspective on how they are perceived by others.
- It creates a bond between the two and an open exchange that would otherwise not be available to either individual.
- It creates solutions for the entire company.
- Personal satisfaction built from utilizing the skills the mentor has learned throughout her career and sharing them with others. Increases the mentors self-esteem like nothing else can.
*How does it pay off in dollars and cents? Source: money.cnn.com
- Both mentors and mentees were approximately 20% more likely to get a raise than people who did not participate in the mentoring program.
- 25% of mentees and 28% of mentors received a raise – versus only 5% of managers who were not mentors.
- Employees who received mentoring were promoted FIVE times more often than people who didn’t have mentors.
- Mentors were SIX times more likely to have been promoted to a bigger job.
Despite all of these perks, there is still a great need for mentors which could take the form of tutoring to coaching sports teams from Big Brothers and Big Sisters or the YM/YWCA to speaking in your children’s or grandchildren’s classroom as she and her husband Richard did. She encourages people to look for opportunities in their communities. Mentors can teach their mentees different things for various aspects and times in their lives.
Karilee taps into the wisdom of the women she profiled even as one of them has since passed; sometimes in person and some in her head and heart.
As you listen in to this interview, you will discover a delightful woman who proclaims: “I’m in my 60’s and I’m at the point where it’s not fun, I’m not going to do it. ”