You logically know that the bad moods and frustrations of your colleagues or friends/families are not yours to own but that doesn’t stop many of us from feeling enmeshed and bombarded by other people’s feelings. We are pretty sure the yucky feelings we have don’t really belong to us but we emotionally and physically feel attached to them. The boundaries are blurred and we can’t seem to shake them loose—what emotions are ours versus what belongs to other people.
This is not uncommon because we can pick up emotions from the electromagnetic field we all share. So what can you do about it? In the moment, when a colleague’s emotions are thundering or even quietly flowing in your direction, put up your shield. No, I’m not suggesting you garner your Wonder Woman costume from Halloween or wrap yourself up in a nearby window covering.
One of the best ways to ward off letting other people’s emotions seep into your space is to use The Slick Blue Shield.
The Slick Blue Shield Exercise
Close your eyes and breathe deeply and consciously. Let your thoughts float away like clouds in the sky. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without thinking about them or justifying them.
Now imagine that you are surrounded by an egg-shaped, brilliant blue-neon bubble. The surface is oily. All the emotions and thoughts that come at you from outside of you hit the surface and slide down like raindrops dripping down a window. You are safe inside this bubble. Even if you are feeling strong emotions, they are going to dissipate soon. Continue to breathe.
Observe yourself as a sense of calm and safety fills you.
Open your eyes when you are ready.
How does it feel to know you don’t have to carry around other people’s stuff? The anxiety, frustration and anger felt by the people around you does not have to weight you down, it doesn’t even have to stick!