When I founded The Best Ever You Network in 2008, I implemented some of my beliefs and practices from my own personal life and career and made them come to life via the company. I felt, at the time, with my dad so ill and a number of other issues, that I would help create a place that would help all of us learn to be out best. I was inspired one day at around 39,000 feet, while flying from Maine to Minneapolis, to write a blog about being your best bold self, working with what you’ve got and prevailing under all circumstances to the best of your abilities. One of the first steps in that process is taking a look within and a look at your life. I invite you to design the life you want and choose to lead for yourself. This might feel overwhelming, but try to envision your life one year, two years, five years, ten years, and even 20 or more years out.
Let’s start with what your life is currently like.
What is a typical day in your life?
Start with the minute you wake up until you put your head on your pillow. Pick the questions below that inspire you. Write down your vision for creating the Best Ever You!
My Typical Day?
Your Vision for Your Life: Reflect on the following questions:
• What am I doing now?
• Where am I going?
• What do I want to be in the future?
• What steps am I taking to get closer to my dream?
Attitude and Inspiration: Reflect on the following questions:
• What is my outlook on life?
• What are my core values?
• What are my coping mechanisms? Do they work for me or against me?
• What values and attitudes do I want to embody within myself and project to others in the world?
Health: Reflect on the following questions:
• Have I had all relevant medical checkups and exams (including dental, vision, mammograms, colonoscopies, etc.) in the past year?
• How do I manage my emotions?
• How do I cope with chronic conditions?
Money: Reflect on the following questions:
• What has changed in my financial life during the past year?
• Does my budget accurately reflect my means and my priorities?
• Do I have the insurance I need?
• Can I make a plan to pay off debt or at least move it to a lower-interest account?
• If I’ve done well, what have I done to solidify my financial position?
Exercise: Reflect on the following questions:
• How can I incorporate a healthy amount of exercise into my schedule?
• Do I need to meet with a doctor to start an exercise plan or a trainer to tune up my workouts?
• How do I manage stress?
• Can I find healthier ways to handle stress?
Appearance: Reflect on the following questions:
• How do I care for my appearance?
• What do my looks say about me?
• What do I want my appearance to say?
• Can I find things I like about my face and body?
• Is the time and energy I spend on appearances appropriate to my life at the moment?
Home: Reflect on the following questions:
• What are my goals for where I want to live this year?
• Do I want to find a better or more suitable home, fix up the one I have, or make changes to my current one?
• Do I feel “at home” where I live? If not, what would it take to get me to feel that way?
Relationships: Reflect on the following questions:
• How is my relationship with myself?
• Do I have a balance of relationships in my life – partner, friends, children, siblings, parents, others?
• What is one change I would like to make in the way I relate to others?
Work: Reflect on the following questions:
• What type of work would I like to do?
• What has changed about my work life?
• What am I doing to deal with those changes?
• What am I doing to move closer to my career goals?
Leisure: Reflect on the following questions:
• What do I do for fun?
• Do I have enough fun?
• Do I have too much fun?
• What relaxes and renews me?
• What excites and enlivens me?
• What plans can I make to get the most out of my leisure time?
• How can I find more leisure time in my schedule?
Religion/Spirituality: Reflect on the following questions:
• What is my relationship with the Divine or with the human spirit?
• What beliefs guide my life?
• Am I closer or further from my spiritual center than I was a year ago?
• Do I have people in my life who share my spiritual outlook or who can offer guidance in this area?
• Do I experience a sense of a community or lack of it?
Food and Nutrition: Reflect on the following questions:
• What is my relationship with food?
• Do I eat mostly healthy things?
• Do I allow myself to eat something delicious but unhealthy once in a while?
• Do I stay connected to my feelings of hunger and fullness?
• Do I deny myself food when others are eating?
• Does food run my life?
Volunteering: Reflect on the following questions:
• What do I do to help others?
• What would I like to do to help others?
• Do I readily volunteer to help or wait until someone asks?
The Long Run: Reflect on the following questions:
• Do I have a will?
• Have I made legal arrangements for what would happen to my kids if I became disabled or died?
• Do I have life insurance?
• What is my financial plan for retirement and old age?
• Have I made a living will, health care proxy, or power of attorney?
• Have I discussed end-of life plans with others?
List five accomplishments from this year:
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