It felt all of a sudden when we realized that we are soulmates. Even though we’d known each other for some time and had attended the same workshops and gatherings, there was a definite shift from knowing one another as having similar interests to really seeing each other, almost as if for the first time.
When that shift happened, it felt like coming home. After our realization that we are soulmates, we began to create an amazing love relationship together and that’s what we’ve continued to do ever since.
While there was that definite moment of recognition, the process that each of us went through to become ready for this relationship took some time. That part did not happen all at once.
Both of us consciously worked on ourselves (and we continue to today). We cleaned up the habits we each had that created barriers to love. We opened the door so that we could attract what we wanted.
We each had been through marriages that were unsatisfying and that ended in divorce. Each of us had a lot of stuff from our past marriage, past relationships and even things from our childhoods that stood in the way.
If you’ve been looking for love or hoping to attract your soulmate and have been disappointed and hurt again and again, it could be that you’ve also got a lot of stuff standing in your way.
This “stuff” might seem to be other people (you ex or the one you love who won’t be with you) or circumstances beyond your control. We urge you to make an internal shift and stop thinking of a situation or another person as the reason why you’re not in the fabulous love relationship you want to be in.
We urge you to go within and identify what might be unresolved about your past and which thoughts and beliefs limit you. Do this gently and with kindness. It’s time to release what’s standing in your way and open the door to love.
Clear all barriers.
You might already be aware of your own barriers to love. When you think about all of your “stuff,” maybe you feel overwhelmed or helpless to make significant change. If so, take a slow and deep breath and look at this in smaller chunks.
Make a list of what you believe is blocking love from coming to you and then only focus on one item at a time. The more doable you make this, the more successful you will be at readying yourself for the relationship you want.
Try a process like Ho’oponopono. This is a Hawaiian forgiveness practice and we encourage you to read more about it and, if you feel drawn to it, use it to clear those barriers on your list one by one.
Here’s a very simple introduction:
Ho’oponopono helps you clean and energetically return to what’s called the “zero state” which is a place of infinite possibility and where those layers of guilt, fear, insecurity, anger, resentment and anything that holds you back release. When you speak the four phrases: “I love you,” “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me” and “Thank you” with intention, the clearing can occur.
If this technique does not resonate for you, then figure out what does. Go exploring and try out what interests and uplifts you. Stay with any technique for a few weeks or a month and notice what happens when you do.
Be a match for love.
As you keep clearing whatever is standing in your way, it becomes easier and easier to be a match for the kind of love you desire.
The fact is…
No matter how strong your intentions are about your perfect partner, if you’re not in alignment with what it is you want, he or she is not going to come to you easily– or ever. Be honest with yourself about the way you habitually speak, dress, hold your body, represent yourself, interact with others and how you generally act.
Is your usual way of living a match for the kind of love and life you want?
Are you mostly moving forward or living in the past? Are you hiding your light and what is so wonderful about you or letting it show?
To learn more about Ho’oponopono, read Zero Limits by Joe Vitale and Dr. Hew Len or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=IEmT1zfzkuA