This is an interactive column about relationships of every kind.
We talk about parenthood, lover hood, wife-hood, husband-hood, childhood, grand-parenthood, neighbourhood, ex-wifehood, ex-husbandhood, ex-loverhood etc.. Look at the effects of these human connections, suggest ways to deal with situations, and give you understanding of the feelings behind the scene.
The very first series of articles are about PND
PND is an acronym for Post Natal Depression, also known as Post Partum Depression. It is a psychological disorder following the birth of a child, usually affecting the mother, however more and more father show the sign of unbalance after the blissful event.
Although it has never been proven, modern medicine still considers PND to be the result of hormonal changes in the mother’s body during pregnancy and after birth.
With this viewpoint, people suffering from PND usually end up taking antidepressants, that changes the level of neurotransmitters in the brain. By altering the resonance of these brain cells life would appear rosier, the weight of everyday problems would lessen, the home would brighten up, the physical appearance of the sufferer would improve. However, it would only happen temporarily and on the surface.
The new addition to the family would wake up during the night; the partner would be tired and hungry when arrives home from work; the little munchkins from fairy land wouldn’t clean the house and friends wouldn’t visit as often as desired. And it all seem to last forever.
I am not here to lie to you. The partner comes home tired and hungry. Nobody cleans the house for you. Friends don’t come. And how long will it last? As long as you allow it.
YOUR LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS.
Yes, it is true. Even if you believe differently.
The common mistakes mothers do, is losing control of existence. They give it up for the child. It is one of life’s paradoxes. You create a life you should nurture, guide and teach. However, when this life shows unmistakable signs of individual existence, you panic and give up the driving seat to a non-driver endangering every life in the car.
One cannot learn how to become a parent, for every child is different.
What are the symptoms of PND?
Ÿ Anxiety attacks
Ÿ Anger directed towards others
Ÿ Social withdrawal
Ÿ Low self esteem
Ÿ Inadequate caring for the newly born
Ÿ Strong sex drive
In one word all the symptoms of depression.
(to be continued)