Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland
Walking into a roomful of people and introducing myself is an interesting thing. My intention is to make that first good impression, and not present something that is not there. I start to wonder, how may I fit in this new place, with these new people. Do I want to reinvent myself, right here and at this precise moment? There go all my intentions to be me. Immediately I begin imagining all the best descriptions of me to enable me to fit in with this new group.
Although while writing this down, I think of this beautiful movie, ‘The Chronicles of Narnia: The voyage of the dawn trader’. (I love these stories.) The youngest sister Lucy wants to be like her oldest sister. She gets a chance when she finds a magic spell, which can change her into
her sister. Although, before doing so, she has a vivid dream where she does change into her sister. She is very excited that she now has the beautiful looks of her older sister, and then, she meets up with her brothers. Happy to see her, they insist on taking a family picture. Right at that moment she notices that she is not in the picture and that she has wished herself away. She has disappeared with all her uniqueness and her own beauty.
Is this not what we do, while trying to please family, friends, and even people we have never met before? We are tying to read other peoples’ mind and then fill in the requirements we think they might ask for, in ourselves. In the process, completely forgetting our own beauty and uniqueness. The thing is, we are all different and we all look at events differently. This means that we have our own beauty and uniqueness. We are, who we are. It is our uniqueness that brings the spark to the relationships we have. This makes life fun and interesting. This is also the incentive to go out and get into a better shape. This is one way we can get ourselves in top form. The way we are is not something to put in a box, since our personality is fluid. We all have different interests and moods. There are days when we have a lot of energy and we look for action, and then days the energy is not as high and we like to slow down.
Most of us women have many different friends. All of these friends support us on our quest to be our best. Friends we go and be active with, perhaps go for that run or a bike tour. We have friends we go shopping with, because we might have fun or this friend knows how to find a bargain. Because of this network we have around us, we grow and learn. There are good days and bad days in all this as well. Being the best version of me is fun and will bring new adventures in my life.
This is all a part of being human, because you are still you.
Copyright Renee Vos de Wael