The Joneses are well known in every city. They are the perfect family. Mr. and Mrs. Jones have an ideal marriage; they often look much younger for their years. They have two beautiful educated children, a boy and a girl, who excel in school and are quite popular with their peers. They have great occupations, making comfortable six figure incomes. The Jones family set local trends for fashion, they always have the latest and greatest technology and their model home should be on a magazine. Actually, everything in their lives could be on a cover on a magazine. They are perfect. Not to mention, everyone else are always trying to keep up with them.
Have you met the Joneses? You probably have. They are the local celebrities of your town or city. They are charitable, Mr. and Mrs. Jones have that secret for keeping romance alive in their marriage, and their children are stars in high school. Slowly, many of us find ourselves yearning to be like them, thus we copy their entire style. We find ourselves dwelling in our own insecurities: Mr. Jones has a brand new car, why can’t we upgrade ours? The Jones children always get straight A’s, I wish my child could just study more. My wife could be more put together, like Mrs. Jones, if she tries. We have all of these goals to keep up with the Jones’, but these local celebrities just seem to be a little out of our reach.
To aspire to become a better person is generally a great idea. It can be the inspirational turn around that you need. However, aspiring to be ANOTHER person is generally the quest people take. You will never be able to aspire to be someone else. Even if you shadow another almost perfectly, it will eat inside you. Aspire to be a better you, not a better someone else.
We must also ask ourselves why our goals are so materialistic. Why do we need to have a new car, like Mr. Jones? Having material items is a shadow for what truly is important. We should be aspiring to be more passionate, more kind and more confident. With those key features, we may reach the goals that we are looking for. You cannot buy confidence, passion or empathy. These are three traits that you are either born with or you work very hard to achieve. These three key attributes are what should be admired, not the glitz and glamour the Jones’ exude.
Lastly, it is evident that Mr. and Mrs. Jones are not quite what they seem. Their bleached smiles and beautiful brand named clothes hide darker secrets that they try ruthlessly to hide. To be blunt, everyone has problems, you just might not know that Mr. Jones has a drinking problem or Mrs. Jones lost her mother as a child.
When people achieve greatness they should receive a pat on the back. It may inspire you to achieve greatness as well. It is just essential that you are achieving the first steps towards your own path, not retracing the steps of someone else. There are many ways to achieve greatness and we each must guide ourselves a different way to get there. Without individuality, we my as well continue attempting to keep up with the Joneses.