This is the final installment of my three part article and it is the most special to me because the speaker was none other than Caroline Myss. This woman has changed my life in more ways than one. Over ten years ago, I came across her book “Anatomy of the Spirit” and finally a light was turned on so brightly inside me that I had the means to start walking myself out of a dark grey cloud of depression. If you haven’t read this book, DO! It might just change your life! I have continued following Caroline Myss’s writings through the years and her most recent book “Defy Gravity” is equally transformational and inspirational.
I love Caroline Myss’s no nonsense approach to healing and teaching. Her ‘tell it like it is’ charisma dispels the lovey-dovey or airy-fairy view of the stereotypical New Age Teacher. She can be abrupt and sharp in the delivery of a truth so deep that it cuts through the ego’s illusion of nicety. Her message isn’t a sugar coated “it will all just be better with positive thoughts.” Hers is a message of responsibility, accountability, and WORK. If you want out of the dis-ease (emotional, mental, or spiritual), you are going to have to be truly under your own power and do the work yourself to get to a place of genuine authentic living. If you happen to be stuck in a place of victimization, she will call you out on it. If that is you, maybe you should read, “Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can.’ She will also put into perspective your place in this vast universe.
This is why it came as no surprise to me when she stated, “You are entitled to NOTHING.”
This quote may seem harsh to some in the healing community where we try to immerse ourselves in positive thinking, self-esteem building, inner child work, and love & gratitude. We teach ourselves how important self care is and it is! Her quote doesn’t actually disagree with any of those philosophies. It simply cuts through the illusions or stories we tell ourselves to prop up the grasping ego self and strips us bare to our core truth. On a surface level, we may say we are entitled to this day off, or this spa treatment, or we have earned the family holiday. And on a surface level or egoic level you would be correct. You do deserve as a person to treat yourself well and indulge in moments of pampering. But, are you entitled to it?
In more ways than one, society behaves like we have entered the entitlement era. We think we are entitled to health, wealth, happiness, bliss, material things, careers, status, security, success, relationships, etc… Society with its television and celebrity focus in our First World nations prop up this delusion that somehow just being born entitles us to education, freedom, liberty, food and shelter. But what happens if you are born in Africa where poverty is predominant? Where is the entitlement to food? Or what happens if your town is swept away by a devastating natural disaster? Where is the entitlement to security and shelter? What happens if you, yes you, gets Cancer? Where is your entitlement to health and even life?
When you rip the layers of real entitlement away, what is left? Nothing! What does these mean? Is this a nihilist attitude? No. Actually this is an argument for the fundamental truth of absolute GRATITUDE. When entitlement is no longer the driving force, the truth that EVERYTHING is a blessing comes into our awareness – from every breath we breathe to every single thing we get or experience we have. It is for this reason we should be grateful and thankful for all that we do have. This is living not only from an authentic place but a place filled with true grace.
So here is a deep truth I gratefully learned from another – I am entitled to nothing and very blessed by everything.