Over the years, I have read many spiritual books that talk about how we are supposed to enjoy the journey of our lives and not just rush to try and get to our various destinations. When we are always looking to what tomorrow holds, we forget to enjoy our lives in the present! In our day-to-day lives it feels like we are always rushing to get someplace, hurrying to finish a project or pick up the kids on time, and scurrying around like ants trying to complete our “to do” lists. During all this rushing around, how could we possibly be enjoying the journey of “now”.
This lesson really hit home last year when I did my Figure competition. I didn’t place that year and felt rather disappointed when the show was over. I had put in months of hard work and dieting and felt like I walked away empty handed. I had placed the year before and thought I would last year as well. To add insult to injury, there are 5 trophies awarded in each category and there were 6 contestants in my particular group so I was the only one who didn’t get a prize! I felt embarrassed and dejected. After drowning my sorrows in a delicious pizza and a nice big slice of chocolate cake following the show, I realized that it’s the preparation for the competition that I really enjoy and not the actual event itself.
When I first got back stage the day of the show, the other competitors and I were sitting around chatting waiting for our various categories to be called on stage. We started talking about all the work it takes to get ready for a show and that when the day of the show actually comes, the best part is already behind us! There were a few “show offs” who loved being the center of attention and enjoyed being on stage. But, for the most part, the rest of us were mainly nervous and uncomfortable and just looked forward to the “judging” part being over!
I realized that once the day of the show actually comes, I’ve already reached my goal. Last year, I was in better shape than the year before. The gals who won looked terrific. They were “thicker” and more muscular than me. They definitely deserved to win. However, for me, I had reached a “personal best.” I had gained more muscle and definition and was happy with how I looked. I also realized that I basked in the love and support that I get from my friends and family while preparing for a show. Everyone at my gym was very encouraging and supportive during my training. My friends and family were also cheering me on. My husband is my biggest supporter and fan. He lovingly prepares all my meals, helps me with my posing, takes all the pictures at the show, and basically lets me know in a million different ways how much he loves me. Getting a trophy for all my hard work would be nice but it’s nothing compared to the feeling that I know I did my best, was happy with how I looked, and had lots of love and support from the people I cherish most. Really, what more could a girl ask for?
So, the next time you feel like something you really wanted turned out to be a disappointment, take a look back at the journey that got you there. Try to find the lessons, love, strength, or support from the universe you received from following that particular road.
Although it may be nice to get that pot of gold at the end of rainbow, don’t forget to enjoy the beauty of the rainbow on your way there!