In every friend circle, in every family, there is always a certain person that goes above and beyond the call of duty for others. This person gives a piece of themselves to mend the problems between family members, giving time or lending money to others, and always willing to go the extra mile whilst putting themselves on the proverbial backburner. These individuals, give a piece of themselves to their loved ones and put all others first. But who cares for the caregivers?
A mother may be the caregiver of her family, ensuring the house runs smoothly. She tutors and mentors her children through school, packing their bags for university, sending them off with endless opportunity, an opportunity she would have died to have, but due to circumstances beyond her control, never got the opportunity to do so. Her children visit on major holidays and summers, seeing her seldom and brushing off her questions about their dream education. Her awed inquiries about their scholarly pursuits are seen as cliché and trivial. Little do her children know how lucky they are to walk into such an institution, and how hard it is for their mother to sacrifice her own dreams and even personal interests just to see they did so. She gave up opportunities and a piece of herself to see that they have a better life. Will her children ever sit back and realize and appreciate that their mother got them where they are?
A young man is very considerate. Given an incredible work ethic, he is strong and reliable. His friends go to the bars in the city but need a designated driver. He drives them to and from the bar, makes sure each of his friends are safe and okay, and carries them back to the vehicle at the end of the night. His guy friends tease him for not drinking so much, and to “loosen up.” They start off their week after a fun weekend out in the city. Little do his friends know, these amazing times are due only to their reliable friend sacrificing his night to ensure the safety of others. They owe all of their great times to the man that should “loosen up.”
These two examples are just a sample of countless stories of those who give up so much to ensure opportunity, excitement and safety for others. These people are rare and few in far between, but instead of the rest of us thanking them and giving them a break every so often, we use and abuse these people. To have someone with a good heart is not a weakness. They should not have to “grow a backbone” but in fact everyone else should be more intuitive. No one is the centre of the universe or superior to another person. It is not a right to have someone to care deeply for you. It is a privilege. Be grateful when someone does something kind for you and recognize that many people do many little good deeds instead of one big one.
To those good people who recognize that they have in fact spent the majority of their lives helping others before helping themselves, do not put your dreams on hold. The mantra that “you can do this later” is not always the case. Unforeseen circumstances can and do come up often, postponing or actually halting you from living your dreams. It is alright to be a good person and achieve what you want as well. It is not selfish but fulfilling and makes you a more intuitive person. You will be a better provider and much happier if you take some time for yourself.
Take the time to acknowledge someone’s relentless efforts to see your success. If you find yourself someone who puts others before themselves, make sure you are achieving your goals as well. Live an ultimate life by acknowledging those who are exemplary. Please remember, these people are few and far between.