The other day, after finishing a 20 minute meditation, I opened my eyes and before I knew it I was already responding to emails and texts on my blackberry. My partner Drew walked by and laughed, “How was the meditation?”.
I laughed myself, could you imagine a buddhist monk waking from deep meditation and jumping straight for his ‘crack’berry!? I’m not inferring that I am going to get rid of my phone or Facebook or my emails- OMG NO! BUT I am going to develop a Buddha-licious relationship with them 🙂
I remember my sister who used to sleep with her phone on vibrate, she would wake up at any hour of the night and respond to whoever had texted her, I remember a student who had feelings of insecurity, anger, resentment and jealousy because they spent too much time on Facebook, I know several people who get a sense of purpose and drive from their phones, and I also know several people who are addicted to the satisfaction of continually receiving texts, BBMs, emails.
This is all great and ok- IF its not negatively impacting your life. My sister had feelings of not feeling grounded, my student suffered from anxiety and low self-esteem, the people I knew agreed they were addicted to their phones because of the feelings of purpose, connection and satisfaction it gave them.
What can we do?
Spend some time thinking about your relationship with your phone OR Facebook OR Emails. How can you de-tach yourself from them so that YOU are in control of the emotions that come from using them and not vice versa? Can you allow a bit more space between you and your phone/Facebook/emails.
For example, I used to wake up in the morning by checking my phone and all my emails, if there was something upsetting or stressful news- it usually set the tone for my day. Now, I wake up, spend some time thinking about what I want from the day, I have breakfast, and then I USE my phone. I don’t let my phone USE me 😉